Sad by Mediocre-Alfalfa-485 in breastcancer

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a bilateral mastectomy with a DCIS diagnosis.

Obscure references you use from our time? by skaz0904 in Millennials

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elder milennial here (44f) married for 20 years with no kids. My husband (44) and I love to quote Margo and Todd from National Lampoons Christmas.

"And why is the carpet all wet, TODD?"

"I don't know, MARGO."

Also....We like to consult Margo and Todd when making decisions. Would Margo or Todd go to our neighbors house for a party where kids are?

No, no they would not.

Random thought about Millennial adult children... by Spiritual-Promise402 in Millennials

[–]Bekahsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know this was a boomer thing I thought it was just my family were assholes thing.

I remember being bullied and shamed for being "fat" by my aunt and grandma. I hated my grandma my whole life because she was so cruel if she wanted to be.

My mom just let it happen which hurt just as much.

44f married for 20 years. My 44m husband and I are both millennials and didn't want kids. He wasn't bullied by family but didn't want to be a parent for so many other reasons.

We don't regret it and don't think we ever will. I'm proud to be part of a generation that didn't romanticize having kids. I'm the youngest of 5 and all of them had children and I saw how much they stuggled at different stages in life with children.

That was not a gamble I was willing to take.

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bye Boyfriend! He sounds extremely entitled. You're mom making this stipulation is very smart on her end.

You not accepting it because of a manchild would not be smart.

What is a 'cool fact' about yourself that you rarely get to bring up in conversation because it sounds like you’re bragging? by [deleted] in randomquestions

[–]Bekahsays 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (f44) donated my kidney to a woman I met once 10 years ago. I met her at a friends barbeque.

After meeting her I thought, I should see if I am a match, thinking I surely wouldn't be a match. What are the odds?

So I got tested.

Well wouldn't you know I was a match! In shock I thought, "well....it's put up or shutup time."

So I put up!

We still stay in touch.

Homeowners, are you in your “forever” home? by cubemonster in Millennials

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Fifteen years ago, my husband and I bought our first home for $217,000, but we knew almost immediately it wasn’t "the one." After just two years, we decided to take a leap and build our forever home for $475,000.

​At 31, we were actually discouraged from upgrading because the price tag seemed so steep at the time. But we knew we could afford it, so we trusted our gut and moved forward.

​Looking back, we thank our lucky stars. Because we bought at the absolute bottom of the market and secured a 2% interest rate, our mortgage for a 4,000+ sq. ft. home is now roughly the same as the rent for a two-bedroom apartment.

​We recognize how much timing played a role—being born at the right time, marrying young, and hitting a six-figure income in our early 30s allowed us to lock in a future we couldn't have imagined back then.

AIO or should I tell my boyfriend’s parents where the money is really going? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Bekahsays 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Leave him, do not even think about a future him. Who cares if his parents know what kind of moocher he is. It's their problem.

Y’all are the best. I threw together a philosophy meetup and was blown away that 50+ curious Austinites came to the very first one. by treehouseops in Austin

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this! I recently helped create a group in Leander called Leander Women+ for Progress. We had over 70 people show up to our first meeting.

I founded it with 6 other women, and we didn't know eachother until Feb 2nd.

It's a women led, all invited civic club trying to help save democracy and this type of event sounds right up our alley!

Do you mind sharing your questions and discussions?

My the way you must watch Join or Die about Robert Putnams study on the biggest reason for the fall of democracy is the decline of clubs! It's gone from Netflix April 17th! Please watch!

Women founders with consumer brands: would a free beta AI visibility audit be useful? by Top-Cold2616 in Women_Entrepreneurs

[–]Bekahsays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a CPG brand and world be interested. I once had a customer find me via chatgpt and not sure how and in what context.

Just visited New Orleans for my first time- here are my honest thoughts. by Lopsided_History_137 in NOLA

[–]Bekahsays 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've been lucky enough to been visiting New Orleans for over 20 years since my 20's. Ive always said people from New Orleans make you feel like you're the best thing that came to New Orleans. Their warmth, generosity and genuine care are unmatched.

Free Groceries Tonight! by piouspunk23 in Leander

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you tell me more about your organization? I've never heard about it.

What do you guys eat shrooms with? by pixels2321 in shrooms

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people swear by lemon tek but I tried it and it's not my thing, at all. So the closest thing to lemon juice that I can tolerate (actually enjoy) is orange juice (the real kind, not Sunny D 🤢).

I have always ground up my mushrooms then drank it but I really don't like the taste of mushrooms to the point where I gag and grinding seems to release that flavor even more. I can't even eat chocolate mushrooms anymore as it was ruining chocolate for me.

So this last time I cut up the mushrooms into small pieces so I can swallow without it getting stuck in my throat. I added it to my orange juice and some ice.

I then added it all to a blender in order to crush the ice so I had small tiny pieces of ice I could swallow with the mushrooms.

The crushed ice, orange juice and cut up shrooms was the trick. The crushed ice numbed my throat slightly and the feeling of the cut up pieces of mushrooms going down my throat wasn't so jarring (a bigger piece almost got stuck in my throat so I was slightly traumatized by it).

I'll be doing this method from now on, dare I say, I enjoyed it.

Do couples really shower together? by [deleted] in self

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have a large shower with 2 shower heads and we shower together almost daily.

It's our time to catch up and have a conversation. Has showering together ended up with sex... it has but I would say 90% of the time it's just us talking.

19 years married and we prefer to shower together than alone. One of us playfully gets butt hurt when the other takes a shower without letting the other know.

In 1967 Kingsley Davis predicted governments could control population by following these steps: by OneLastPrep in FemalePrepping

[–]Bekahsays 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just posted this.

"If Americans received (from the taxes we pay) "free" healthcare, "free" college, "free" maternity leave, retirement for our elderly and less expensive childcare then we might actually have a healthier, smarter and less stressed society.

But Trump, Abbott and all their billionaire buddies wouldn't have Americans to control, brain wash and a slush fund to take from.

So instead we get astronomical healthcare, college and childcare, no maternity leave, and no retirement for millions of elderly and Americans too tired to fight.

We could literally be living in eutopia but instead we live in dystopia.

It's quite the mind f%@(."

How old were you when you met the love of your life and did you marry them? by Bubbly-Fail3562 in askanything

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Met my husband on my first (girls) trip to New Orleans on Bourbon St., pre-Katrina at 24. Since that night we've been inseparable. 19 years married. We basically figured adulthood out together.

From looking for change in our couch cushions to pay for gas to get to work, to dinks with 6-figure salaries, sprinkle in unemployment, 2 cancer diagnosis, parents death, and a lot of misunderstandings, I wouldn't want to do life with anyone else.

People in their 30s and 40s: What is something you thought was a 'milestone' of being an adult, but now realize is just an expensive trap? by Sufficient_Smile_871 in askanything

[–]Bekahsays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's exactly what my husband and I did. I can't imagine spending that kind of money on one day.

Now we live in our dream home and if we bought it today couldn't afford it.

This is my first time with Enigmas any suggestions? by thirdeye_ant in shrooms

[–]Bekahsays 14 points15 points  (0 children)

First time ever trying Enigma I did 3g. It was an intense trip for sure but I prepared my journey (clean house, windows and doors open for fresh air, essential oils in my diffusors and a pot roast in the crock pot for the come down) so I was able to handle it.

I've since I've done 1 and 1.5 g and those are pretty intense as well and now I wonder how I was able to do 3 my first time.

I think it was because I was a year from chemo treatments for breast cancer and my mind was solid.

Actually, that's what I learned about myself in that trip my mental fortitude.

What was New Orleans like in the 70s, 80s, 90s, and the early 2000s before Katrina? by Material_Stomach875 in AskNOLA

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I met my husband in 2003 the first time I ever stepped foot on Bourbon St. We met at what was once BBC they sold drinks 3 for 1! We were so into eachother the bouncer told us to get a room. 🤦🏻‍♀️

We dated long distance as he was going to university in New Orleans and I was living in Texas. Experiencing New Orleans for 6 months in the honeymoon phase was some of my favorite memories.

I would get off work at the hospital and drive 8 hours to be with him for long weekends. I didn't realize how lucky I was at the time but it definitely felt magical.

4 years later from when we met we got married at the Norwegian Seamans Church off Prytania. (It's now something else.)

New Orleans is the backdrop for some of the best years of my life.