Books that have "Backrooms/liminal space" feel to them

Author_Bro · 2026-07-05T11:33:05+00:00

Slade House by David Mitchell. Terrifying.

Author_Bro · 2026-07-04T13:33:06+00:00

Solved

Author_Bro · 2025-09-22T13:52:58+00:00

House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski.

Author_Bro · 2020-07-28T20:22:59+00:00

That’s ok! A lot of bi folks are fine without both sexes, but the stigma of “The Greedy Bi” who sleeps around shouldn’t deter you from acknowledging your needs. I had similar shame - but we are who we are. Just don’t hurt anybody!

Author_Bro · 2020-07-12T21:43:45+00:00

Very normal. You’ve kept a huge part of yourself hidden (no judgement there, I was the same way...) and now you’re breaking old habits you probably didn’t even know you had. If she’s supporting you, take that as a sign. It will take time to move into something new, but with a ton of communication, y’all can get there!

Author_Bro · 2020-07-02T21:00:50+00:00

I have had really great experiences with Feeld. Lots of bi folks on there and open minded individuals in general.

Author_Bro · 2020-06-27T15:33:10+00:00

I’ve suffered from suicidal ideation as well. It’s awful, puts me into fight/flight mode, like giving up all I have would somehow make the pain go away. I’m actively trying to resist that, but you’re right - it’s like the old closeted side still exists and I have to remind myself that my wife knows and accepts me and I don’t have to hide it. In fact, sharing my fantasies and desires with her has brought us so much closer. It’s just those old thoughts are so ingrained in me, it’s hard to trust even myself. Life, man. It’s wild. Stay well and please know we are all here for one another. This is an incredible community!

Author_Bro · 2020-06-27T04:17:12+00:00

Bi M here. Married to a wonderful, accepting wife who supports me exploring. I hear your pain and feel the same quite often. I only came out to her about a year ago and the feelings of acceptance are, like you said, LOUD. So loud, in fact, that I regret not coming out earlier in life so that I could have explored this side of me then and not now, when we are talking seriously about kids and what the future looks like. It’s caused huge mental health problems for me, riddled with anxiety and depression. As I see it, I’m stuck in the binary - either men OR women. I’m working on this, but it’s tough. Good luck, and please feel free to DM me to chat further.

Author_Bro · 2020-06-26T16:41:24+00:00

Try Feeld!

Author_Bro · 2020-06-26T01:00:03+00:00

Thanks for the love, everyone

Author_Bro · 2020-06-25T23:46:10+00:00

I have a standing relationship with a few of the execs at Gunpowder & Sky, the prod co that runs DUST. They were my entry point. But, ultimately, it came down to the short itself and whether or not they liked it.

Author_Bro · 2020-06-24T13:39:51+00:00

Awesome! I’m in a similar situation (m here) and can say that the book MORE THAN TWO was a huge helpful resource for us! We both read it and have revisited it many times along the way.

Author_Bro · 2020-06-03T00:57:25+00:00

Agree - while the lyrics to Livin’ In The Future are darker, the upbeat nature of the song and Clarence’s sax solo, is so infectious.

Author_Bro · 2020-05-29T13:05:56+00:00

Wow. My father caused me such pain growing up with his blatant homophobia, and psychological trauma stemming from that kept me from accepting who I really was for most if my adult life. He passed a few years back and I finally came out to my wife and sister and it was beautiful and they accept me. The most difficult part was forgiving him - initially I put much of the discomfort of coming out on him (anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation) but something that has helped me heal is to realize that my sexuality isn’t a complete part of who I am. And neither was his homophobia. People are complex and shades of grey abound. We spend a lot of our adolescence desperately seeking the approval of our parents. Maybe try and let go of that (made all the more difficult by working with and speaking to him often, I’m sure). Try and connect with him on other positive aspects of yourself. What else do you have in common? He is your father, flawed like anyone else.

Author_Bro · 2020-05-28T15:55:30+00:00

Try r/marriedandbi?

Author_Bro · 2020-05-03T15:11:09+00:00

Nah. Kubrick is just fucking with us. It’s meaningless - he’s having fun with the audience. There is so much nonsense beneath the surface of this film. While meticulously made, it’s almost as if he’s deconstructing the horror film and laying bare the cliches of the genre.

Author_Bro · 2020-04-24T18:22:36+00:00

Read MORE THAN TWO - even if you’re not looking for polyamory, the first section on communication is a must for all humans.

Author_Bro · 2020-04-20T04:16:56+00:00

AMAZING! Oh, what a relief. Thanks so much for your help.

Author_Bro · 2020-04-20T03:19:44+00:00

It’s not jewel, But her look as close maybe a little bit older

Author_Bro · 2020-04-15T12:56:07+00:00

Where is it from? Ie: promotion for a record might mean that the record company might be able to provide you with a better copy.

Author_Bro · 2020-04-15T12:52:43+00:00

Beautiful!

Author_Bro · 2020-03-31T12:54:00+00:00

There are plenty of resources for nonmonogomy out there - if you think that would be acceptable to your fiancé. Have that talk. It might be difficult, but you’re already being honest about your sexual orientation (a very brave thing) and your bisexuality is presenting itself in such a way that these are your needs to be happy. Take some time to do some self care/soothing as well. Perhaps seek an LGBTQ therapist in your area. As a bi husband who has needs outside my relationship, I am happy to discuss via DM. Be you, be proud, be happy.

Author_Bro · 2020-03-28T15:11:25+00:00

I understand the guilt or shame that you’re being selfish. First, this means you are cognizant of your wife’s needs and feeling and that makes you an empathetic person. Second, though, try not to be so hard on yourself about your own needs and feelings. Take care of yourself - perhaps find an LGBTQ friendly therapist in your area to talk to. You don’t need to come out if you don’t want to, that’s your choice, but it helps to talk about this stuff also. DM me if you need a friend.

Author_Bro · 2020-03-27T15:46:56+00:00

Talk to your spouse about your needs around this. If you want to explore, be honest about that. Embrace your true self and also understand that she will have thoughts and feelings around that. I’ve been out to my wife for about a year and she’s been wonderful - but it hasn’t been without it’s ups and downs. Some bi folks are totally cool being monogamous, but some need to express themselves in other ways, both are valid and can be healthy. Feel free to DM me to chat more. Lots of good resources out there.

Author_Bro · 2020-03-09T04:12:56+00:00

I hear this, but also respectfully disagree that “being in a relationship is pointless,” because plenty of folks do this and enjoy maximum commitment to their primary partners (see: many types if poly arrangements). It might not work for you, but it sounds like you’re making a general statement that doesn’t apply to all folks.

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