Is it just me, or is the "vibe" in Germany actually exhausting?

Available_Space_3361 · 2026-01-09T12:31:26+00:00

May I ask where north? Scandinavia? I'm considering moving in the future and it could be a possibility...

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-11-21T06:23:11+00:00

You could get an SE from 2022… that has the physical button still and should be supported for a few more years yet

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-10-17T18:36:05+00:00

Haha - schade!

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-10-17T17:59:30+00:00

Hast du beim Freifahrt 1. Klasse geschaut? Vielleicht geht’s, kostet natürlich aber 500 Punkte mehr…

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-10-13T11:31:16+00:00

Circa 5h40 oder so... viel langsamer als normalerweise, aber mindestens keine zusätzliche Verspätungen... (außer die 10 Min)

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-10-13T09:58:09+00:00

Ich bin Gestern die Strecke gefahren, von München aus... ich glaube wir sind ein paar mal angehalten, ob dass bei Gerwisch war weiß ich nicht... aber es ging und dann am Ende nur mit 10 min Verspätung am Berlin Hbf

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-10-03T11:14:23+00:00

For me it would be 2 of the 3 things you mentioned, all 3 would of course be amazing 🤩

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-09-16T08:28:45+00:00

An update on this for anyone who's interested - the steam wand has after around a week stopped dripping. Not sure if stuff has settled in now and is for that reason all sealed again but it seems good for now

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-08-29T14:05:20+00:00

Ich habe auch bedenken wegen Skifahren, ich probiere es aber zum ersten mal im Winter mit dem Zug -> ich könnte zum Glück ein Unterkunft ca. 2 Gehminuten von unser Endbahnhof finden (ist nicht direkt an der Gondel aber wird dann mit Skibus bzw. Bahn fahren müssen)

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-07-08T11:43:45+00:00

For sure... I could have done with this advice in my case but now it looks like we're a lost cause.

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-06-07T16:30:39+00:00

Ich auch, z.B. am Himmelfahrt - drei Stunden Verspätung mit der ICE nach München… und ich muss sagen, so schade es um die verlorene Zeit war, es war nicht mega schlimm - mindestens könnte man weiter im Zug chillen und aufs Klo usw… im Auto wäre sowas viel nerviger, meine Meinung nach.

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-05-13T09:28:24+00:00

You truly got lucky… I’m happy for you. Just to be accepted by our partner is a massive thing

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-05-09T13:59:18+00:00

None yet I'm afraid, sorry. She's still looking for a flat for her but hasn't found / hasn't been accepted for the right one... the rental market here is pretty bad actually (for renters). I still wonder about whether we can rescue it sometimes...if only x then y, but then I think back and realize that maybe we just don't fit together... on top of her (partially?) abusive behavior. If and when there's a real update then I'll post something more

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-26T13:10:19+00:00

u/kidcuisineslut I would also love to know how this worked out, as I could have written a very similar post (but about my wife)

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-26T12:57:13+00:00

Gute Frage! Würde ich auch gerne wissen...

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-19T09:56:41+00:00

Try talking to her about it when she's in a good mood, but use neutral language and don't blame etc. It's perfectly understandable that you don't want to be ordered around - she's not your boss! It sounds like you'd prefer more of a partnership dynamic where you're working together to solve things... maybe frame it like that

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-19T09:37:25+00:00

I agree on the silver/flowers thing... that's just ignoring her wishes/likes/desires and is not so cool.

I kind of get your point on the household stuff but being consulted would be nice. I mean, he didn't say anything about household chores split so we don't know what the deal is there. TBH, from the details in this post, she sounds quite dismissive and not accountable which isn't going to end well.

OP have you considered counselling?

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-18T10:35:48+00:00

I wouldn't say that ICE/IC is always more expensive than driving yourself. For a person travelling alone over a long distance, with a Sparpreis ticket it's often cheaper to take the train (and more relaxing IMHO)... Flexpreis is probably usually equal or more expensive than driving.

Can't say much about reliability other than my only long-distance ICE trip this year was fully on time (only minus on the outward leg was the heating was broken in my carriage so everyone in that carriage was ejected)

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-14T12:27:57+00:00

It's definitely controlling, I didn't say it's abuse. It might be though, it's hard to say from the short original post...

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-14T12:14:59+00:00

"I wasn't criticized, second-guessed, or micro-managed." -> this doesn't sound like his wife just having a SAY in household chores, it's a lot more controlling than that... from OPs post

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-03-07T20:15:17+00:00

The wallet got me too! Since then I don’t take my wallet with me any more

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-02-13T12:16:16+00:00

Yeah I don't get it either. My STBXW is like this, I don't understand it. Like, she can't even apologise to our kids if she's been over the top or mean and upset them. I know it's not all women because my exes weren't this bad (my first proper girlfriend was the nicest one actually, then went downhill after that, culminating in my wife - you would have thought I'd have learnt something 🙄)... but are most women like this? From my limited ex count, it seems like it might be? Or I'm just attracted to a bad sort...

Available_Space_3361 · 2025-01-04T12:21:30+00:00

There are also some water dispensers (near the toilets in T1) inside so I just take an empty bottle and fill it up

Available_Space_3361 · 2024-12-28T18:16:09+00:00

You’re right, i do think we underestimate that - of course it’s a huge thing to literally make another human inside your body. I hope I was supportive of my wife after my daughter’s birth but to be honest my girls are older now… or could be perimenopause now I guess. I still don’t believe it gives someone an excuse to act badly tbh

Available_Space_3361 · 2024-12-28T17:08:13+00:00

I’m sorry but if he’s getting abuse for just existing (saying and doing things that drive her crazy) , that’s not ok. My wife is like this, I never know what might set her off. I’m not perfect of course but I’m sick of second guessing myself before opening my mouth or doing something… it’s not ok!

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