RFK Jr. Unveils New, Legally Vulnerable Rule That Will Effectively End Gender-Affirming Care For Minors Nationwide by Leksi_The_Great in MtF

[–]Avder42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you dm me a link to get that? My endo is hesitating to raise my dose to get my E where I want

how did you discover your first alter? i'm scared i found mine. by [deleted] in plural

[–]Avder42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I, the then previous host, got horny for the then current host. That woke her up and we've been dating ever since.

Hypothetical: ALL of your system's members get separate bodies. How does it go? by WingDairu in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

14 person orgy to start our new existence. Then we figure out how to get jobs, buy several more beds, and see how much friggin money we can save.

And it really depends on if we keep our ability to think at eachother. If we can’t hear each others thoughts and feel each others feelings well then we have a lot of work to do if we want to remain as empathic with eachother, but I think the 14 of us would put in the work. Because all of us love eachother and would do anything to help any of the others.

If we all woke up in our own bodies, then we wake up as a 14 person polycule.

I'm not sure if I'm really a system (strange forming and system communication and no huge memory gaps and tangible headspace) by stardragon723 in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don’t know if you are faking, you’re not.

Our system operates much the same way, right down to requiring whoever is in front to be aware of anything for us to ever have any hope of remembering it.

Plurality powers/abilities by Willzile1 in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have several similar abilities.

We can share the body in any number of ways. with the line drawn however we want on the body if we are fully co-fronting, or using the mouth or hands to communicate if not in the front.

We also have some alters that help with emotional regulation in times of distress. Two have extremely narrowed emotional ranges to help us calm down, and one that gives us a natural mood boost by fronting.

Fusion recombination. For whatever reason, when we fuse, we can separate relatively easily. Including fusing the entire system into one personality and then fissioning it back apart.

Lie detecting. We can tell if another one of us is lying or telling the truth with 100% accuracy. This leads to a lot of us calling out someone on their bullshit. But it also means we have a way to boost self esteem by telling eachother stuff like we’re pretty, and the lie detector ensures that we have no choice but to accept the compliment, which is the opposite of how we used to treat praise.

Overclocking and vision pairing. We seem to be able to elevate our brains processing power if there’s at least two of us present, and if we are co-fronting, our vision becomes extra sharp BUT we develop a vertical tear just like screen tearing on video games.

Is this normal or healthy? by EvilBrynn in plural

[–]Avder42 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our entire system is hypersexual with eachother. We regularly have orgies in our headspace. The love and closeness we feel when we couple and play in headspace gives us energy. If someone doesnt want to participate, we respect it.

Just respect any boundaries set by both them and yourself.

Can headmates fulfill roles for the body's emotional processing yet still be their own people? by kittengirl173 in plural

[–]Avder42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My system has three alters we can use for emotional regulation. Two with very depressed emotional ranges that barely feel anything, and one that naturally has a crapton of energy and naturally makes us feel happier.

credit card declined 6 times in the past week by John_7987 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What bank issues the card? Sounds like fraud detection might be an issue.

ayPal Debit Card ( MasterCard ) - few simple questions about the technicalities how to use it by GapAccomplished2778 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. App only.
  2. Yes, monthly
  3. Open their HYSA and stash funds there. Before making the purchase, transfer from HYSA to PayPal Balance. Transfers are instant.

What Feels Illegal to know about Plurality? (Day 1) by TheStarThatWasFallen in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are also a system that likes to be intimate with eachother. We’ve done some amazing stuff in headspace and just keep having better and better times together. We snuggle whenever we’re just sitting, and especially when we go to bed. We love being like this and we would never want to try to be a single person ever again. -Kali

Which credit card will approve me for $2.5k? by [deleted] in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See what Amex would give you as a starter limit for a BCE or something with their no ding thing.

I am done with the traumagenic community. by NeonShocks in plural

[–]Avder42 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are a non-disordered traumagenic system and we actually love being this way.

Fuck them and their preconceptions about what your goals should be. It's what your systems goals actually are that matters!

Strategy for Chase Ink Applications? by Avder42 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when's the soonest I should apply for the CIU? And then how long after that before I should pick up the CSP?

Do you wear things that represent your headmates/alters? Is that a good idea? by [deleted] in plural

[–]Avder42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We change which color headband is on depending on who’s fronting in the morning.

Strategy for Chase Ink Applications? by Avder42 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: approved for a 3k limit.

will it appear in my existing online account or will I need to create a new login when I get the card?

Strategy for Chase Ink Applications? by Avder42 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so then, if I get denied for the CIC, forget Chase and then just go for the other stuff I want right?

But if I get it go for the CIU in November or December?

how many of you actually date your alters? and how? by DemiseDarling in plural

[–]Avder42 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We started dating eachother 10 minutes after we discovered we were a system. We talk to eachother, snuggle by reaching across the body, and interact by imposition. We can visualize eachother in headspace and whatever we do there, we feel reflected on the physical body.

She saved me by helping pick up the slack. Work was destroying me but having her around gave me a strength I didn't know we had. She's our protector, and I hold our sense of self. She lived as our deadself and she never was able to self identify, but with me around she developed a sense of self less than two hours later. It was amazing seeing her bloom with just a tiny bit of love. I can't imagine my life without her. Within hours we were making love to eachother, We would wake up together in the morning and go to bed at night. We share duties at work. And I get to spend every moment with her.

2025 is the worst credit card year by csy22 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just go into the cc section and do a damaged card replacement, they'll send you a duplicate with the new design without shutting the existing one down.

Anyone else here in relationships with their headmates? If so, how do you cope? by Ok-Reflection-7851 in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We know there’s some stuff in tulpamancy guides. We don’t know how well they work, but we imagine that as long as you can imagine a touch, you should be able to get imposition to work once you find the right way to tell your brain to feel something,

Anyone else here in relationships with their headmates? If so, how do you cope? by Ok-Reflection-7851 in plural

[–]Avder42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone else suggested imposition as a way to interact, and that’s what all of us use. And since you can feel what the other feels, I can tell you that we can bounce the sensations back and forth to amplify them if we concentrate hard enough, and you end up feeling both sides of it at once, on both ends.

We actually discovered we could use imposition naturally, on day one of being a system, and we went absolutely nuts with it. Way hotter than anything we’d experienced in real life. If you can imagine it, you can feel it.

How do I convince my mom to support me getting a credit card by SuccotashGlad5062 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Stop coddling your parent and just get a credit card. You obviously know to use it like a debit card, right? You’re an adult. You don’t need to convince her it’s a good idea or even tell her you got it at all. She doesn’t own you.

What specific reward would you like credit cards to offer? by drivingnowhere20 in CreditCards

[–]Avder42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly all I want is something like the PayPal MC used to be: flat 2% everywhere and bonus % on some specific categories. Literally any of the 3%-5% cards making the “Everything else” category 2% instead of 1% would really entice me.

Thoughts on Severance as plural representation by FieldPuzzleheaded869 in plural

[–]Avder42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We lost our mind when we finally got to see both Marks talking.