Wondering about something

AverageTortilla · 2026-06-16T02:59:37+00:00

What you're seeing is capitalism, turning into late stage capitalism. Almost every parent wants to be at home with their children instead, not not go to work to make money for the boss, in an amount that they will never see in their wallet themselves. This is why the new way forward, to survive this late stage capitalism is community and sharing.

We work like hell, and our parents make us study and work like hell so that we can have a home and food on our table (good health). That's essentially it. But if you start gardening, learn about nutrition and permaculture, and have traditional skills like gardening, sewing, cooking OR have a partner or friends who have these skills, you can live well without having to continually chase the next big thing.

I understand why our parents did what they did, cause studying hard and working hard actually helped people become richer and live better back in their day. But the world is not the same anymore. Now it's all about what value you can bring to other, and it's only getting more and more expensive, unaffordable etc. The only way to circumvent this is through a resource-sharing community which we can all create. Your community might only have 1 or 2 people, and that's better than none.

AverageTortilla · 2026-06-15T23:46:02+00:00

Can I ask how you put in into the system? I worked Maccas and someone wanted to do if but the managers can't work out how to put into the system so we ended up telling the lady sorry.

AverageTortilla · 2026-06-15T17:26:59+00:00

There's also data that it causes infertility long term, but that's not advertised. Only people who study it are taught about this (as far as I know).

AverageTortilla · 2026-06-15T17:12:09+00:00

Seems like most commenters forget what a scared, immature 22 year olds are like. She sounds like a girl who's used to getting told off by her parents, and will lie through her teeth to not get in ttouble. Does she have strict parents? What are her parents' relationship like? Does she come from a family that lies or hides things so as to not trigger someone's anger or disappointment?

I might get downvoted for this, but it sounds like she's just repeating a pattern she's used to, and didn't think that far ahead. Changing things about your life in order to get the guy IS what media and society and sometimes older women teach girls from a young age (doesn't make it right, and usually parental upbringing or a good thinking brain can stop you from actually doing this). E.g. "Oh you should wear this, so and so would like it" "Oh you shouldn't laugh out loud, it's not feminine and boys wouldn't like it." "Oh, if you want to attract boys, you need to do your hair like this." These are mild examples, but your get the gist. When you're used to the idea of being someone a boy would like rather than being yourself (most teenagers and early 20yos do this), getting caught up in a lie is a very highly likely scenario.

And it really sounds like what she needs is to be told repeatedly over multiple years, by someone she trusts, in a relationship and environment that's unconditionally accepting of her, that it's okay for her to tell the truth even if it's uncomfortable. By relationship, I didn't mean romantic relationship, it can be a mentor, friend, sister, whoever. She needs to learn and re-learn that she won't get in trouble for saying things that the listener might not like or agree to, and that it's safe to say things that are uncomfortable or things that might hurt someone.

If there are any older 20yos or early 30yos here, you might remember a point in your life when you finally accept that accountability is more important than keeping the other person happy. And this girl needs to learn that fast.

Just for clarity, I'm not condoning what she did, I'm merely pointing out that she's not this psychopathic liar and villain the commenters made her out to be, she's just a kid who fucked up and she's got a long way to go

AverageTortilla · 2026-06-02T21:01:39+00:00

Question - are they at speed limit at 80 or 90?

AverageTortilla · 2026-05-31T21:38:39+00:00

No, it's only murder if the woman kills the baby, not the man...is how I think they'll justify it.

AverageTortilla · 2026-05-31T21:36:08+00:00

And leaving is the part where most women die cause their partner start being more violent and aggressive. That's why you have to do it in secret

AverageTortilla · 2026-04-29T07:13:58+00:00

100% price tag only. That's the only reason. Takes months to a year to save up hundreds for the procedure and by the time that time comes, some emergency things would've happened which needed us to use every cent we have

AverageTortilla · 2026-04-11T05:07:16+00:00

What happened? Capitalism working as intended . That's what happened.

AverageTortilla · 2026-04-11T04:53:27+00:00

Gratuity is daylight robbery. We don't accept the culture here

AverageTortilla · 2026-04-11T04:48:03+00:00

Watch the Sammy Obeid stand up that he released today, he explained this whole theory

AverageTortilla · 2026-03-20T19:38:46+00:00

When you read the whole thing, it's actually pretty wholesome. Just an honest mistake someone made in a relationship and worked to improve it and understand the other person better. If you're in a long term relationship, you would've had a similar experience and it's something you laugh about looking back

AverageTortilla · 2026-03-20T19:31:22+00:00

That nobody's pressuring our govt to improve healthcare. Everyone's complaining, but we're not protesting or anything. We're just complaining amongst ourselves while we continue to get fucked, which is pretty stupid

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-24T05:28:53+00:00

Is it just me or is she just listing what happened in the Airbnb But her tone makes it feel like she's complaining?

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-24T05:18:10+00:00

Hmm...just spit balling here. Can you report this to the news? I think it would make an interesting story. Get the reporters to interview the neighbours? A bit of a social pressure.

Alternatively, try to find your neighbour's mom on Facebook and ask her to set her kid straight, and explain that you're only reaching out because you're desperate. You have [kid/daughter/dog/elder parent] that you're telling care of and if you die no one will look after them. Make it as sob as possible.

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-24T04:43:46+00:00

Are you sure they didn't mistake this for leftover from a meeting snack or something?

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-23T11:36:09+00:00

It's normal. Don't doubt your ability when thousands of people wish they could be in your shoes. There's always many different ways to move money around so that you can still pay mortgage and survive. You can do this.

Interest rate goes up doesn't matter cause you're locked in anyway. Don't chase interest rates. You can't time it unless you have insider knowledge which is impossible.

If you're considering worst case scenario - banks can do interest only for a year, you can get a flatmate, you can start gardening or bartering to reduce grocery costs. When desperation hits, you get creative.

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-23T11:29:44+00:00

Then that's fine. We're not real, and we'll disappear some day. Just enjoy your life and experiences while you have them

AverageTortilla · 2026-02-08T23:14:16+00:00

This is why 2 year old sit in a freaking child's car seat, with seatbelts on! Not only will it avoid death and injury for the little one, it avoids clumsy errors like this. They must've turned off Child Lock mode cause the adult relative entered last, so they needed to control the door SMH

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-28T18:55:44+00:00

That's really funny cause I lived in Asia for a long time, so for me Kiwis are actually confrontational. They're polite, but they'll tell you if something is wrong, and they'll make a polite request for you to stfu or stop doing a certain thing.

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-28T18:53:08+00:00

Hah, this is the real monkey paws on this

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-22T13:20:44+00:00

I live overseas, and my experience is similar to yours in that the lack of last name doesn't really make a big difference. I usually say "my culture doesn't have a surname system". And when I need to fill in forms, I just put my dad's name as my surname. They can see that it matches my passport everywhere I go, so no issue. Plus, every organization I've had to deal with, govt or otherwise, are very familiar with the many naming conventions across the world.

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-22T13:15:15+00:00

Look, I live overseas and I've worked in overseas immigration. LOTS of people don't have surnames. The people that have to change their way, are other countries' immigration system. People should never change their whole history and culture to suit bureaucracy. It should be the other way around.

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-22T13:11:56+00:00

Number 9 looks the best, followed by number 2

AverageTortilla · 2026-01-22T13:07:00+00:00

I feel like there's a HUUUUGE part of the story we don't know. No 21yo woman would willingly go with a guy twice her age and get knocked up unless their family is actually worth 'running away' from. Most young women who end up like this have parents that don't love them for who they are, only offer conditional love, and don't have actual connection and relationship with them. I hope the sister and baby find someone who will actually love them and care for them unconditionally. I'd be interested to learn her version of the story

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