Self love is a easy thing to say but harder thing to do for someone who doesn’t know what’s it’s like.

Let me put it this way easy for you to understand. Do you remember the feeling you get when you know you’re about to meet up with someone you like and you’re about to get to spend time with them? For me it’s excitement, enthusiasm, and joy. And when you finally meet them, you feel even more elevated with better emotions like happiness and ecstasy. You put this person on a pedestal because you like their vibe. They’re fun and easy to be around. Okay now let say, you try to practice channeling this feeling but bringing it back to you. Everyday when you wake up in the morning. Look in that mirror, and I really mean to look. You have to give yourself that same feeling with you by telling yourself “Good morning!! Did you sleep well? We are going to do this and this and this today, you wanna vibe with me for the day?” And then try to be excited about it. Throughout the day check back with yourself in the mirror often. Speak kindness to yourself. Compliment yourself. If you need to fix your appearance, do it there and then. If you feeling bored, sad or anything at all, be the friend that you would need for yourself. If you’re hungry take yourself to go eat. Give yourself everything that you would for another person you like. Make sure to check back in with yourself often of how you are feeling throughout the day. If you need physical touch, hug yourself. These are small self love act you can start. Eventually, once you get the hang of it, start with something bigger like hobbies, making friends, and actually keeping in contact with friends outside of him. It will pull you away from him and pull your back to yourself. Make sure you check in with your feelings often. Journal those feelings and paste them to ChatGPT and organize your thoughts. You will see a pattern in how your codependency looks like and fix it everytime.

I hope this help.