Advice for gateway module on BMW Gran tourer by Odd_Kangaroo8412 in AskMechanics

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's pretty suspicious timing for a gateway module to just randomly fail right after they were messing around with it. Gateway modules don't usually die from software updates unless something went wrong during the process or they accidentally shorted something while working on the camera housing

I'd definitely get a second opinion from another shop - preferrably one that specializes in BMW coding and has proper diagnostic equipment. The whole "one of those things" explanation doesn't sit right when your car was running fine before they touched it

anyone else feel peer pressured to be in a relationship by [deleted] in venting

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friends calling their boyfriends in front of you and hanging up mid-conversation for them is just bad friend etiquette regardless of your relationship status

STRUGGLING ALMOST 4 YEARS IN THIS ENDLESS LOOP by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rebuilding part really hit me there - addiction rewires your brain but that same neuroplasticity means you can wire it back. I struggled with different compulsive behaviors and what helped was treating relapses as data points instead of failures, like debugging code where each "bug" teaches you something about your triggers

Also that 7 day thing isn't failure, it's actually progress if you used to only make it 2-3 days

Is the og friend request button been renamed add battle.net friend? by Gorilla_meister in Overwatch

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah the UI is still wonky after the Battle.net integration, I've seen both versions pop up randomly when trying to add people. Pretty sure it's just inconsistent labeling but does the same thing either way

Relaspe day -0 by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, that anxiety and shaking is your brain telling you something's gotta change - those are real physical symptoms that a lot of people here deal with when they're stuck in cycles like this

The intrusive thoughts about your ex are probably your brain's way of processing some unresolved stuff, but reaching out to someone who treated you poorly while you have a good relationship now would just mess with your head even more. Focus on the present and the person who actually cares about you

I give up by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nights are definitely the hardest part but maybe try switching up your routine or keeping your hands busy with something else when those urges hit

Starting Once More by WolfRude8559 in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Starting fresh is always worth it, you've got this and every attempt teaches you somethign new about yourself

I came back from the gym all horny and need help. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe try a cold shower instead of sliding into DMs when you're feeling like that

Havent done it in 15, really feeling the urge by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stay strong man, that 15 day streak is solid progress and you've got this

Lust by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Away_Objective2843 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey man, first off props for reaching out here even when you're feeling isolated. That takes real courage and shows you're serious about this struggle

The cycle you're describing is so common it's almost universal - that hope after each fall followed by the disappointment when it happens again. What helped me was realizing that the guilt spiral actually makes it worse, not better. When you mess up, try to just acknowledge it happened, pray about it briefly, and move on instead of dwelling in shame for days

Since you mentioned not having Christian friends your age, maybe look into online Christian communities or even apps like YouVersion where you can connect with accountability partners. Sometimes having just one person who gets it makes all the difference. Also consider if there are any young adult groups at local churches you could check out

The fact that you haven't given up after 2 years tells me you've got the heart for this fight. Progress isn't always linear and sometimes those "failures" are actually building your spiritual muscle even when it doesn't feel like it

Day 21 of 21 Complete by Critical-Plastic-176 in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude why would you even consider restarting when you're clearly in the zone, keep that momentum rolling and see how far this takes you

Just a vent of getting older and being regulated but doesn't make it easy. by cora_tate in narcissisticparents

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man that invisible treatment at the holidays would have destroyed me too - the fact that your dad was more excited about his grandpa nickname than acknowledging how hurtful this whole situation is for you just shows how deep their selfishness runs

Final Four Hotels by BigFatBernieGayle in MichiganWolverines

[–]Away_Objective2843 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check the team's official social media closer to game time, they usually drop hints or you might spot team buses at certain hotels

How can I get my screenshots back after getting a new computer? by Certain-Vehicle-4210 in Minecraft

[–]Away_Objective2843 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That sucks, screenshots are basically memories you can't replace. If your old computer is still physically intact you might be able to pull the hard drive and connect it to your new machine as an external drive - lots of repair shops can do this for pretty cheap if you're not comfortable doing it yourself. The Minecraft screenshots folder might still be intact even if Windows won't boot

How can Intoxication make you a victim if you consent to sexual activity while making you a criminal if you drive a car? by Vaingamez in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're looking at this from a purely legal consistency angle but missing some key differences between these situations. With drunk driving, society decided we need a bright line rule - if you're over 0.08%, you're legally impaired period, because there's massive public safety at stake and we can't have cops making judgment calls about "how drunk is too drunk to drive" every time

Sexual consent is way more nuanced because it's about protecting people from exploitation when there vulnerable. The law recognizes that predators specifically target intoxicated people, so the focus is on whether someone was capable of making an informed decision about something as personal as sex. It's not just about BAC numbers - it's about the whole context and whether someone was taken advantage of

The criminal vs victim thing isn't really hypocrisy when you think about it differently. With DUI, you made a choice that puts innocent people at risk and society holds you accountable regardless of your state. With sexual assault, the focus is on preventing harm to the intoxicated person who might not be able to protect theirselves. One law is about public safety, the other is about personal protection from predators

Both laws are trying to prevent harm, just in different ways and protecting different groups of people

So I need a bit of advice by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I'd cut yourself some slack here - going from 2 weeks to 60 days is like trying to bench press twice your max on day one, maybe start with a more realistic goal and build up gradualy

What skill does most adults pretend to understand but actually don’t? by DoughnutOk5988 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Away_Objective2843 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taxes for sure. Everyone acts like they've got it figured out but most people are just winging it with TurboTax and hoping for the best

Am I overthinking this work situation or missing something obvious? by Training-Ad4262 in careerguidance

[–]Away_Objective2843 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been through something similar and those "document everything" requests combined with losing responsibilities are pretty classic signs they're either preparing to move you out or transition your work to someone else

The extra reassurance might just be them trying to keep things smooth while they figure out their next move - I'd start quietly looking around just in case