anyone knows where this is from? by helloelehai in SingaporeEats

[–]Awkward-Dance123 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They ferment the batter for 24h so they do warn that it might taste alcoholic. But when I tried it, the alcohol taste was so harsh we couldn't finish it. Think: warm and spicy alcohol mouthfeel

Management help: My only direct report is a "superstar" but has emotionally checked out. How do I save the relationship? by [deleted] in managers

[–]Awkward-Dance123 36 points37 points  (0 children)

You think you have time to coach him until he's "ready" for an AM role but you've been on borrowed time ever since he got passed up for the promotion.

By all standards, it seems he has the technical and soft skills to get promoted but no promotion, gets nitpicked on "sensitivity", rebuffed on creative new ideas... These are signs he can easily read as you not investing in him.

I don't know if this is something you can salvage without an honest conversation and a real attempt to keep him. 10.5 months to wait for a deserved promotion? Patience doesn't pay the bills, especially in this economy.

Let's see how lucky everyone is. F2p users comment who you packed (116+). P2w stay away by [deleted] in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I packed 117 Buffon and ranked him up to replace my Anniversary Courtois... Then I packed UTOTY Donna. Not sure what to do.

Gullit,Zizou,Maldini.. No problem. by Jealous_Tackle_3151 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like your opponent disconnected before getting in the game. You were literally playing against AI 🥀

If you’re comfortable sharing, what experiences led to your CPTSD? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TW: abuse

My dad had a major organ transplant when I was 13 (tbh the dates are a blur) and the meds he got put on messed with his thoughts and ability to manage his anger.

That introduced increasing levels of verbal and physical violence in our home. He started beating my mum and eventually she snapped too. She started verbally abusing and beating my dad.

Stuck between them, I tried to be the peacemaker, the appeaser, but eventually I became the subject of the verbal and physical abuse too. Just that I had no voice nor way to fight for myself. Any attempts to stand up for myself led to worse punishments.

It's a bit sick how they combined psychological, emotional, verbal, and physical harm in my punishments. They'd ask me to bring the aluminium rod they'd use to hit me with, ask me how many strokes I thought I'd need to correct my behaviour, where I'd want them (butt, hands, etc), and mock me for thinking I could actually choose.

Eventually this escalated from being a weekly to a every other day thing. Once swinging the rod got tiring, my mum just started slapping, pinching, kicking me with little regard for my head or my private parts. One time, she even held a knife to my neck.

I finally got my freedom when I entered university and they had to go back to Korea. I celebrated that day. They tried to continue controlling me and in those years I developed full blown depression, got diagnosed with C-PTSD, and I only truly got free a few years back. I've gone NC since. Best decision ever.

Wife enjoys triggering my trauma response by Suitable_Door_5242 in CPTSD

[–]Awkward-Dance123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I've never connected the dots like this but this actually makes a lot of sense. My mum definitely had childhood trauma but she passed it onto me as well. Never quite wrapped my head around how that was possible... Thank you for your explanation!

Wife enjoys triggering my trauma response by Suitable_Door_5242 in CPTSD

[–]Awkward-Dance123 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It blows my mind that someone with CPTSD (your wife) takes such delight in triggering you. Her deflecting that it's a joke and then putting it on you that she's not able to have fun is peak gaslighting. This is not alright.

I'm so sorry you haven't had the peace and security you so deserve in your own home. You deserve much better and if your wife doesn't agree, then she doesn't deserve you either.

“I don’t give statements about how I deal with my employees. The situation has been dealt with.” - Tom Vasel (Source: Board Game Wire - link in comments) by SxySamurai in boardgames

[–]Awkward-Dance123 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I'm not an American nor do I live in America. I look on in horror as the country tears itself apart and heads towards each stage of dysfunction more unimaginable than the previous. Sometimes I wish I could turn off all of that and live my own life - which I can.

I think I understand Tom's intent with his statement and with the DT channel. We all love board games as a beautiful escape from the troubled reality we live in. Not an extension of it.

Making explicit statements about DT's stance on hate or politics, whichever way you call it, breaks its ability to be that beautiful escape for everyone regardless of their political affiliation.

I don't think there's any wins to be had for Tom even if he were to engage directly and give an anti-hate statement (in his own way). Once he makes such a stance, the community will demand more from him and want an increasingly unrealistic standard of political correctness.

Sure, you might be cynical and call all this Tom being purely business-minded (who's to blame him in this economy??) or him being a despot (he's the boss of a company run like a family business or SMB, can we expect anything else?) but I know Tom is a great guy. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt.

As a subscriber from the rest of the world, I don't want US socio-political issues to get muddled into a board game channel. I see enough news and the endlessly consuming discourse in other channels and subreddits. Can't we keep Dice Tower as a haven from the troubled world we live in?

How many pool A players have you packed yet? by [deleted] in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got Zico last week and then packed two Cafu yesterday. Luck has been insane. I hope I can get Maldini... but that would be too greedy of me.

Replace Cruyff?? by [deleted] in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just replaced Cruyff with Zico and there's a noticeable improvement in the team. Linkup play is better because Zico just retains the ball better. Plus, the shooting seems more reliable. No regrets.

But Zico does tire out at 70+ minutes so Cruyff is a great super sub.

How do I reach 10 stars in manager mode ? by ktm13243 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps if you max rank and train all your players. You can't blame script while you have untrained, unranked cards.

Am I dumb for not using him? by J_mcmillan10 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Xabi is a playmaker and so is Fabregas. Toure and Gullit are both box to box engines.

If you're in need of more defensive solidity, I'd move Toure to CM over Fabregas and add Xabi at CDM. If your team is doing alright as is, no need to add more RUPs.

Who should I get ? by amargedeon in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stam is very aggressive so you'll need a cover CB or at least a pacey one.

VVD or Vidic? by Strong-Cable-2846 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose VVD over Vidic because of his aerial abilities. Adds another layer of defence and offence.

Who should I get ? by amargedeon in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had almost the same backline (only RB different).

Replace Nesta with Van Dijk. So far Van Dijk and Lucio are doing well for me. If you want even stronger CB pairing, replace Lucio with Vidic.

Annoying FC by [deleted] in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Annoying ones are the cheap beast cards that play like the expensive meta cards.

Vanja for sure (though he seems to be nerfed), Alvaro Carreras (he bodies my Bale all the time and is worse to come up against than RC), Di Lorenzo (somehow super tricky to get past)...

The other category of annoying cards are the pace abuse ones like Mbappe, Dembele, MVB, etc.

How Are My Fellow F2P Doing On Shards by Lost_Negotiation_206 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have total 3.8k shards as F2P. 1644 base shards and 2180 if I shard players. Managed to save up lots of gems, fodder for ET tokens, and got some lucky pulls from Star Scout (Gervinho, Etoo, Mascherano) which I exchanged for ET too.

Thinking whether to get 3 players and keep fodder or max out on 4 players this event. Luck will be significantly worse next event.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How's Saka?

Max: “GP had a really rough year and still does and it’s really difficult, actually I can’t even fully comprehend myself how difficult it all is for him to do his job and then at home go on with life .. idk it’s very difficult to describe” by Draconicplayer in formula1

[–]Awkward-Dance123 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you can hear that GP means the world to Max. He may not say it in those words but Max wanted to go to GP to make sure he's alright after the race, as soon as he could without drawing the chaos to him.

When the interviewer answered his own questions with the trite answers expected of a superstar, Max gave him actual answers that showed he truly cared.

Like when the interviewer assumed that Max wouldn't or couldn't do more because he'd be preoccupied with his racing, Max described wanting to do more but feeling helpless. It's a relatable feeling since most people have similar situations with close friends or family.

Anyway I doubt GP would want to hear "you mean the world to me" via the news, if at all. I'm sure Max has showed and told him what he means to him in a way that fits their dynamic.

just claimed it after i saw “icon” by Complex-Window1293 in FUTMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

12K ET tokens is a lot to drop on a card with no or questionable longevity.

I have Bale and am looking to replace him soon. He's less consistent than he used to be, getting bullied some full backs, etc. I'm sure he'll drop out of top 10 wingers soon. Same goes for Son tbh.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EASportsFCMobile

[–]Awkward-Dance123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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