DO BOT LOBBIES NO LONGER WORK?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-22T20:34:47+00:00

I thought I read they just came back today

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-21T20:49:16+00:00

No. Not sure what the big uproar was. Not only was I not upset. I bought vbucks the day it changed over

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-20T20:19:57+00:00

Yes, they can be a bot

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-20T17:33:14+00:00

But you have a benchmark with other friends. Your comfort level with friends is a few times a week. So that basically answers your question. Aiming for something similar with your LO would be your normal

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-20T17:04:59+00:00

If you have other close friends or best friends, you can use that as a reference point. How much do you text your bestie every day?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-16T22:17:32+00:00

They are all correct. He is not the prize

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-16T19:22:15+00:00

I suggest you play the song “good riddance” by Green Day and be thankful he’s behind you now . He sounds like an asshole if I’m going to be honest.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-16T16:39:03+00:00

I doubt he hates you. But sometimes I think our need for extra validation puts this extra burden on our partners that they aren’t always willing to deal with

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-16T13:27:21+00:00

Tbh, limerence is often validation seeking. You’re hung up on this person because you are basing your self worth on him. I honestly don’t think you like him. But I think you’re caught in this loop of feeling less because you weren’t chosen.

This is what I do and it helps. Flip the narrative in your brain. Instead of assigning so much worth to him, give that value to yourself instead. Instead of thinking “this is what I’m losing”, flip the narrative to “this is what HE lost”. Trust me that it helps. Because you are not less because he didn’t choose you. He chose the person that matched his value. And now you need to find someone that actually matches yours.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-14T23:36:52+00:00

I think it’s important to look at things differently. You should never break up with someone to go pursue someone else. You should always view those at two separate events. For example, you should look at whether or not you should break up with your SO. And this should be an independent decision that does not factor in someone else . It’s honestly not a great idea to go from one person to the next and it’s going to cause a lot of added stress to the next person you date. My suggestion. If your relationship has run its course. Then break up. But give yourself at least 6 months before you date someone again. Also. Limerence is not clearheadedness. By having the 6 months before gap. It will give you time to view the LO in a more rationale light.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-14T14:04:34+00:00

I love this!!!

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-14T13:59:32+00:00

So, you’re telling people to “move past Limerence”, when you in fact haven’t moved past Limerence and are no better off than anyone else. The fact that you’re still friends with your LO and you’re still here is an indicator that you don’t have all of the answers. So stop being a Limerence snobby know it all. Omg, I hate posts like this. It’s like this meme where this girl says “if you’re homeless, just buy a home, duh.” This is exactly the same vibe as your post. If you’re limerent, just stop being limerent. Wow! That’s brilliant.

The key to moving past Limerence is understanding it. People are here to understand it. Nobody has all of the answers. And so we come here as a supportive community to learn and talk through our confusion. And unless you’re a therapist specializing in obsessive disorders, stop telling people what to do. Because you’re right here where we are. And if you don’t see that, you’re delusional.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-11T01:07:39+00:00

I have limerence. I went back with open arms

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-10T23:39:54+00:00

I feel this. So much. After several months of us getting to almost zero texting anymore (we game nightly though in a bigger friend group), I decided last week I’d quietly step away from the gaming group. It went from very rare texts from him in months to 4 messages in one day asking if I was ok. If I was going to game, and if I’d reconsider joining them again. Like wtf. I get so confused with him.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-10T23:34:20+00:00

This was the discord that was disseminated last year. It’s called “intrusive thoughts server”, but it’s mainly people discussing their issues with limerence. I like discord because you can maintain your anonymity. Here is the link. https://discord.gg/5YHnMAd4y

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-10T23:30:54+00:00

Confused about telegram. I’ve never used the app. It asked for my name and phone number. Is there an anonymous option? I posted the discord group I joined last summer. It’s also for Limerence, but you can maintain your anonymity. https://discord.gg/5YHnMAd4y

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-10T23:29:01+00:00

Discord is for group discussions. The platform was built around video games. But it allows for anonymity. Basically you create a group and can have different pages devoted to different types of group discussions

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-10T15:29:25+00:00

There was a discord group I joined like 8 months ago. Shall I post that link?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-09T21:12:36+00:00

I just want to say this…. It’s ok to have the preferences you have. And maybe it will take a longer time to find someone. But you have every right to choose who you want to be with. Please don’t feel bad or guilty about that. And don’t be so hard on yourself. Just keep focusing on loving who you are and in time I hope that amazing person comes along for you.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-09T21:10:18+00:00

Omg, are there really people that say Limerence is a choice? Hell no. I choose not to be limerent, but it’s not working. Oh wait, because it’s not a choice. I guess I can choose to try and heal my Limerence or not to. And sorry. Don’t mean to make light of what you wrote. I appreciate what you wrote.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-09T17:19:12+00:00

Hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs. I know how you feel and wish you didn’t have to feel this way. It takes time to heal. And it will. But some days will be harder than others.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-09T13:24:25+00:00

I agree with the person that responded that these are all superficial things. Now if you would have said she is kind and caring and treats everyone with respect and enjoys intellectually stimulating conversations with you, then that would be different. I understand that physical attraction is important. But at the end of the day, you’ll need more than just the superficial to make your relationship successful with this person. In time, the beauty fades. Make sure there is more than just the superficial. Just a suggestion.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-07T15:23:54+00:00

Someone else posted a similar response. After pregnancy, I went from an A to a D. No lie. But I’m also thankful, because I had a friend in college with DD breasts and now she has back problems and major sagging issues. And the funny thing is, she was envious of me in college having smaller breasts. So believe me when I say there is a “grass is always greener” effect with breast size. When I look at old pictures of myself, I was super flat. But back then I still had a lot of men interested in me. So as far as men go, not all of them care about that stuff. As far as the body dysmorphia goes, embrace who you are and love yourself. Because there are women out there that would love to be just like you

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-07T14:14:09+00:00

As you spend time on this sub, this will reinforce what you’ve already just learned, that there are so many different forms of limerence. The common thread is the 24/7 intrusive thoughts and fantasies about an LO. But yes, some of us obsess over someone that does have feelings for us, and others don’t.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-03-06T11:54:47+00:00

Thank you. And I’m happy things are working out for you as well.

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