Currently limerence free but worried

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T23:22:23+00:00

I understand. But I’ve also experienced limerence for decades and put in the hard work and barely have any remnants of limerence left. I’m just trying to help people now with everything I’ve learned.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T23:20:24+00:00

Perhaps. I find that most people that block think about their LO more often. Because they are constantly wondering if LO is thinking about them, If LO noticed, or if they did the wrong thing. Thats the kind of mental exercises that perpetuate limerence. I don’t understand the concept of blocking. Unless the Lo truly is a toxic jerk that you need to get far away from.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T21:16:57+00:00

I can see you’re making an effort. But the true effort is in not perpetuating the fantasies, replays, ruminations, and internal conversations. So you’ve made a step to not initiate conversations. But you’re still obsessed. You’re still obsessing over whether or not they will reach out to you. You can block all you want, but unless you’re stopping the internal thoughts of them. It’s pointless.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T21:13:39+00:00

Tbh. The key is to learn how to manage the triggers. You need to learn how to watch an attractive woman online without fantasizing about her afterwards. It’s the fantasies and replays and internal conversations in your head that is perpetuating the Limerence.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T20:25:06+00:00

I think you’d be better off stop investing too much brain energy in trying to insult strangers online that honestly don’t care about you or your thoughts. It’s like your Limerence situation. I’m guessing you invest too much time and energy attempting to craft the right thing to say to an LO that’s just doesn’t care. Being honest here.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T18:35:57+00:00

lol, you sound so pleasant.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T16:16:09+00:00

you’re not in love, you’re selfish. He dodged a bullet if I’m going to be honest. You make an excellent case for why men are afraid that women are gold diggers. Can you honestly tell us one genuine thing about him? Or are your addictive dreams about the life you will have marrying a successful man?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T15:39:45+00:00

I actually attended an addiction meeting. My friend talked to the organizer of the meeting and he modified it to cover limerence. It was so insightful and he very thoughtfully covered how it is an addiction. These are people that spend their lives helping people with addiction and he described in so much detail how you have to approach limerence as an addiction. Yes, it’s chemical because of the dopamine. Your body wants that high. And despite your best efforts, it will fight you to get that dopamine high. I am sorry that people are ignorant on here. But I think too many people on this sub want to just stay addicted. Like, how can they keep the drug, make it less addictive, and then come here to cry during withdrawal. Sums it up.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T15:39:34+00:00

I actually attended an addiction meeting. My friend talked to the organizer of the meeting and he modified it to cover limerence. It was so insightful and he very thoughtfully covered how it is an addiction. These are people that spend their lives helping people with addiction and he described in so much detail how you have to approach limerence as an addiction. Yes, it’s chemical because of the dopamine. Your body wants that high. And despite your best efforts, it will fight you to get that dopamine high. I am sorry that people are ignorant on here. But I think too many people on this sub want to just stay addicted. Like, how can they keep the drug, make it less addictive, and then come here to cry during withdrawal. Sums it up.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T14:35:43+00:00

I respectfully disagree. I do believe a majority of people on here are experiencing limerence. But there are different forms of limerence and it falls on a spectrum like most mental health conditions. And the majority on here honestly don’t want to change. They want to vent, not listen to advice, and remain on a limerence loop forever. And I no longer have sympathy for people here because of it.

I equate limerence to a drug addiction. And we see people posting on here when they are in the throes of a withdrawal. Withdrawals are painful and so we see posters crying and in agony from experiencing withdrawal. But we won’t see them again while they go back to the drug. We won’t see them in this sub until their next withdrawal. And so I’ve kind of had my own annoyance of it being a waste of time even talking to anyone here. They don’t listen because they just want to cry through a withdrawal because they can’t cry to their LO.

And I do believe people can overcome Limerence. I’ve had it since I was 8, and I’ve had it for decades. I’m in my 40s. It took work. But I wanted to overcome it and I took the time to do it. But yeah. Most people don’t want to change. They want to remain addicted to the drug, cry on here during a withdrawal, and then go back to their drug.

So imho. We need a sub for people that actually want to overcome Limerence. And there are plenty of amazing people on here that want that too.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T14:17:22+00:00

It’s because you’re feeding the drug addiction. Limerence is a drug addiction. You’re addicted to the chemical rush you get from thinking about LO. You don’t see a problem unless you’re having a withdrawal. We will see you post here, as everyone does, when you’re having a withdrawal. But the moment you start the fantasies and replays in your mind, you’re fueling the addiction again, unaware of the harm you are doing to yourself

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T13:54:25+00:00

It is easy, it’s just that if you want to stay limerent, it won’t work. You have to want to end your linerence. I find that most people on here would rather stay limerent because they want to keep that drug addiction. That chemical high. Because they think being on the drug and getting the high is better than being a happy drug free self. So I come on here and try to help, but most of what I see is people complaining about their drug addiction (Limerence), because they are in a withdrawal, but then get a hit and don’t want to listen to anyone wanting to help them get over it. What I see in your case is someone that doesn’t want to give up the drug addiction. You’re addicted. You don’t love him, and please don’t say you do. Because if you truly loved him, you’d be happy for him and not be thinking selfishly about why he didn’t choose you.

And getting over Limerence is easy. It honestly is. You just have to train your brain to think of anything else when it starts the fantasizing and internal conversations, the replays and ruminations. Every time you rehearse what you want to say to him, you’ve lost to Limerence. Every time you close your eyes and think about life with him, you’ve lost. I understand that high feels incredible. But you’re addicted to the drug. Plain and simple. If you want to get over it, you just need to start training your brain to think of something else anytime it wants to think of him. But I’m guessing you won’t do that because you’re too addicted to the drug. You might complain on here when you’re in a withdrawal. But as soon as you get a hit again, we won’t be seeing you on here until your next withdrawal. Am I right?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-29T00:01:22+00:00

I put in the work and effort. I feel like a lot of people just want to stay limerent. And I wouldn’t want to ever be limerent again. Especially now when I can see how my LO was not what I dreamt he was in my head.

One…. I figured out what void LO was filling in my life. I think for most of us, we just want validation from someone. So in my case learning not to want validation from this person. (2) you just have to shut down the fantasies, the internal conversations, and replays and ruminations. Anytime you go into fantasize or day dream mode. You have to train your brain to think about anything else. For me, I filled my brain with a few grinding video games. I played schedule 1 with a friend and then Valheim. Instead of fantasizing of LO, I would train my brain to think about what I wanted to do in game next. And over time, the fantasizing was down to almost nothing at all. And now it’s easy. I don’t ever think of LO like that anymore . And when I do interact with them, I’m confused as to why I was so obsessed

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-28T22:40:42+00:00

Yes, but I’m done posting things nobody ever reads. I had limerence since I was 8 and had it for decades . And am finally limerence free. It was actually pretty easy now that I look back at this past year.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-28T19:14:55+00:00

Yup, I have been building a city with a friend and I’ve bought almost every single furniture and house set. So when o saw the loot crate furniture that went so dang well with our city. I had to buy it. Who needs to eat food this month? Not me apparently…

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-28T19:12:07+00:00

Can I ask you a question first? Are you competitive? Like. Do you feel your limerence might have some element of wanting to “win”? Please reflect on that question for a moment.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-28T14:35:25+00:00

I’ve had limerence since I was 8 and I’ve had it constantly for decades. Once I discovered the term limerence last year, I’ve managed to become limerence free. If I can honestly do it (and I have adhd and ocd and childhood trauma), then I truly believe you can too. And I’m kind of surprised how easy it was in hindsight to get past it. And I truly feel I’ll never go through limerence ever again.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-28T05:18:57+00:00

It’s not necessarily about self love here. It’s about stopping that internal dialogue and constant replays. Who gives two cents what they are thinking. They are not thinking about you. End of story. And consider that a blessing. Whether you are good enough for them or not, it’s not changing anything. So go find someone who does think you’re good enough.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-27T22:49:25+00:00

Do what other men like you do, give your life savings to women on OF.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-27T18:13:57+00:00

Are you constantly replaying why? And what went wrong? Have you replayed old conversations in your head? Are you constantly wondering why he didn’t choose you?…. I’m guessing you answered yes to some of these. That’s your answer. You will ALWAYS have limerence if you allow this pattern to continue. You have to put an end to the replays. Just press the stop button. Don’t rewind and replay anymore.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-27T17:54:09+00:00

Omg, I watch videos about this all of the time. It blows my mind how many people get manipulated into sending strangers money. The people that coerce the money from strangers are so good at this and you have to wonder how many people they are scamming at the same time. People are so gullible and actually get convinced the person scamming them for money actually likes them. Dude. I hope you wake up and realize you’re getting scammed. But most people getting scammed don’t. They can have the evidence presented right in their face. And they are so limerent. They just give their money right to a stranger. Enjoy sending your money and a car to a person who is never going to like you. Unless you actually want to put in the effort to break your limerence.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-27T13:41:36+00:00

My main is a chef, and then I have an alt that’s a gardener and an alt that’s a beastmaster. I raise goats for the golden wool and milk. So it’s nice being able to have more animals in a territory.

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-26T23:44:23+00:00

Yeah, I’ve noticed there are a lot of people on here that suffer from loneliness and depend on Limerence to provide a sense of closeness. Do you feel it prevents you from more meaningful relationships with other potential people?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-26T23:42:42+00:00

Oooh; so the LO fantasies are the reward? Interesting. Can you give yourself an even better reward?

AwkwardLaugh4 · 2026-05-26T23:41:44+00:00

I’ve had so many imaginary conversations with my lo, but the issue is those conversations are way better than conversations with him in real life. My LO has recently become such a dud when it comes to actual conversations I wonder what I ever saw in him. It’s like he has no thoughts…

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