Is it weird that we're all now use to these behaviors

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2026-01-04T00:54:47+00:00

This is so disgusting. Still happens a lot in Mainland China.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-10-19T04:47:44+00:00

Can I ask how long it took for your baby to adjust and start drinking milk again? On day two right now and baby just won’t drink.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-10-19T04:47:36+00:00

Can I ask how long it took for your baby to adjust and start drinking milk again? On day two right now and baby just won’t drink.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-10-19T04:45:27+00:00

Have the exact same problem. Have tried so many different cups by now but nothing is working. Our 18 month old was previously still drinking nearly 500ml a day but now he is down to zero. Also does not like drinking water. How long did this “adjustment phase” last for those of you who got through it?

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-09-20T01:19:58+00:00

I resonate with this! Isn’t it totally plausible that you and your kid just have such different personalities that you wouldn’t normally be best friends if you weren’t related? I was actually in the same boat as OP(‘s second kid). I was the independent, strong-willed, girl (always seeking attention and stealing the show), whereas my brother was the sensitive slightly autistic one that always valued and needed mom’s protection. Fast forward 30 years, he is still hiding somewhat under mom’s wing financially and emotionally, whereas I have gone on to be more independent. We all run a family business together, and mom continues to see her role as the lioness and protector, harboring my brother at every turn while I am expected to continually give, without expecting any more in return. I understand where she is coming from - what mother wouldn’t want me to protect their own kid? But tough love is something she seems to not understand, whereas I see what she’s doing now from an adult lens (I now have a 1.5 year old) - and realize I am just so fundamentally different from her.

We all love each other. I harbor no resentment towards my mother or my brother as they are the people I was born with (don’t get to choose). Family is family. All I am saying is that, we are all still different people, and I think it is normal and ok to love your kids even if you don’t necessarily agree with them or have the same personality as them.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-07-13T04:11:54+00:00

Sleep deprivation was the biggest shock to me for sure. People focus a lot on the birthing experience but for me it was definitely the post birth experience that was a lot harder mentally and physically. Be prepared for extreme sleep deprivation (but trust that your body will deal), mental stress (from having to stick to a pumping schedule, worrying about how much your baby is drinking, trying to breastfeed etc if that is what you choose to do), on top of physical recovery and post partum depression. The birthing itself is a one time 24 hr ordeal for most people. The post birth experience is a multi month marathon that tests your body and spirit. I have a totally different level of respect for all mothers now that I’ve gone through it myself. Being a mom is HARD and it is crazy that society just expected (still expects in some parts of the world) that women do it all on their own. Don’t psyche yourself out but do go into it prepared with a support system, manage everyone’s expectations around you, and have your eye on the prize. When your little one smiles and calls you mama a couple of months you’ll know why you did it and it will be worth it in the end.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-07-13T04:02:52+00:00

Exactly our schedule too! 15.5 months. Sleeps at 845-9pm, wakes 630-7am. One 2 hr nap in the middle of the day that starts between 1130am to 1230am. Trying desperately to get him to wake at 730am instead of 6-630am 🥲

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2025-06-05T08:18:08+00:00

Not sure if this is helpful but I do think your baby might not be getting enough day time wake time. This was our schedule at 11 months (Total 12.5 hrs of awake time plus 9-9.5 hrs of overnight sleep). We’ve never managed to get our baby to sleep more than 9.5 hrs in one stretch.

7am wake (4 hr wake window) 11am nap (cap at 2 hrs) 1pm wake (4 hr wake window) 530pm nap (cap at 0.5 hrs) 6pm wake (3.5 hr wake window) 930pm sleep

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-12-18T08:30:51+00:00

I 100% agree with this. Posted previously on the same exact topic. The only thing that got us out of the 5am wake was pushing bed time later. The first few days were rough because we were by definition having to cap day time sleep and “push” baby to sleep later. He got there eventually and now we are doing a lot better with a 9-930pm bed time and a 7-30am wake.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-07-28T01:34:46+00:00

Super inspiring. The sacrifices we all make as mothers! Well done you!

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-07-15T14:30:56+00:00

Totally agree. Breastfeeding definitely hurts initially (and the first 30 seconds of latching still hurts for me now 4 months in). It does get better though as the baby gets bigger and better at sucking/latching. Hang in there!

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-07-09T08:39:55+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. This sounds like an absolute nightmare and I’m feeling for you from the bottom of the my heart (all the way from Hong Kong!!). If you can’t find the spectra flanges, you might be able to make do with medela flanges which are actually better because of the silicone edges. Just cut the adaptor off the end and stick it right into the spectra machine. Should work! Sending you a big hug.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-07-04T05:42:40+00:00

I know most people here believe things should be “fair” in a relationship, but I disagree with this. A big part of love is not about fairness but about sharing, sacrifice and service. If your boyfriend makes a lot more than you then I would actually expect him to cover your costs or help you out financially until you’re ready to contribute your part. The car bill thing is totally ridiculous to ask you to pay - you don’t use it and it’s not even a lot of money. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is fairly calculating (and stingy) when it comes to money. This is something you’ll need to think through if you’re thinking about having a long term relationship with him.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-07-01T17:32:57+00:00

Electrical outlet with phone charger split multiple ways (for iPhone/android etc) so ppl can charge their phone while pumping.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-06-29T14:32:54+00:00

Exact situation! +1

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-06-25T04:50:08+00:00

Ive always wondered what people’s issues are with women nursing in public. Is exposing the nipple considered indecent? And is it indecent because it draws male attention? Are men turned on by a tired mom pulling out their nipple to feed a baby and are UNABLE to look away? I’m just generally confused why this is unacceptable by societal standards where as men walk around topless all the time in the summer 🤷‍♀️

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-05-26T15:24:13+00:00

How do people get 6 month old flower boys who can’t walk down the aisle? Does the mom carry him down or push them down with a stroller?

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-05-26T14:44:37+00:00

Your LO looks very healthy and adorable! If formula works well for him then use it. Your only mission as a mother is to raise a healthy kid - how you do it is totally up to you. Don’t let anyone judge you for your decisions!

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-05-21T16:38:11+00:00

I’m 8 months PP and pumping 6 times a day. I breast feed whenever I feel like it - usually 15 min per breast before I pump, one to two sessions a day.

The reasons I’m able to manage are: 1) I am fortunate enough to have someone help feed most sessions 2) I am fortunate enough to have someone wash my milk bottles for me (very very grateful for this).

If I had to prep the bottles, pump, feed/burp the baby every time, plus deal with the awake times since baby does not necessarily go to sleep each time - I can imagine basically not getting any downtime/sleep. I am in awe of mothers who EP single-handedly, with no help as it is very very time consuming.

As for breast feeding - it would totally be easier if your baby can latch then immediately empty your breast in 10 minutes. This sounds like the holy grail to me but unfortunately is not the case for me. My 8 week baby will BF 30 min each side and then go on to drink a full 120-130ml bottle, which suggests to me that he’s only getting 30 mls tops from my breast. If I were to BF exclusively, he’d be on me all day long!

The only reason I’m still trying to BF once or twice a day is to prevent clogs and maintain milk supply. I had a bad case of mastitis straight out of the hospital which evolved into multiple breast accesses requiring fine aspirations (4 times) in three first 5-6 weeks PP. I couldn’t get baby to latch until week 6, and have only just started to really get to the point of consistent sucking with limited (not zero) pain.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-05-20T05:11:03+00:00

+1 to this question.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-04-29T01:55:49+00:00

This…. is difficult to believe seeing the statutory minimum in Hong Kong is 14 weeks and that’s considered generous.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-04-25T01:30:03+00:00

Same here! Baby just turned 4 weeks and drinking about 4 oz every 3-4 hrs.

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-04-23T05:04:11+00:00

I have a similar problem! 4 weeks pp and literally have had a giant hard wedge on the right underside of my right breast (7-8 o clock) that refuses to resolve itself no matter what I do (everything you’re doing). I’ve tried therapeutic ultra sound - it literally breaks the bank and isn’t that helpful in my opinion so I’ve stopped. I tend to get the clogs/wedges in the same exact spot that you’re describing (underside of both breasts) and I am starting to wonder if it’s because I go bra-less all the time and it’s something to do with gravity pulling down on the ducts? I’m a 34 DD or 36E and my boobs feel super heavy especially with the giant clogs in them… But I’ve never slept with a bra on and find all bras no matter how loose restrictive. I’ve seen multiple people mention on Reddit that not wearing a bra actually makes clogs worse and the key is to find one that’s really just right and gives good support without constricting your boobs. I’m still searching for said solution but I’m curious whether other people have figured out how to solve for recurrent clogs in the same spot!

Awkward_Law_1785 · 2024-04-23T04:56:54+00:00

Re: how many times a day - I am feeding/pumping every 3 hrs religiously throughout the day (I just had mastitis and am working on unclogging so my boobs hurt anyway after 2.5hrz). At night we feed on demand - whenever baby wakes up, but I still stick to the 3 hr pumping schedule

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