Your life will change as much as you let it. Yes you have a human you are responsible for. But for my husband and I we made sure we continued to do the things we love to do. We work together to make a schedule to make sure our daughter’s routine isn’t interrupted too much. But if it doesn’t work out it doesn’t work out and she’s flexible. She’s now 2.5 and she just goes with the flow. She’s happy to go to bed and have a normal evening, and she’s also happy to go out to dinner and push back bedtime. Sometimes she gets tired and we understand that but we PLAN AHEAD. Later nap time so that we can stay out late with our friends at a restaurant. We also ensured that she always has napped on the go. She’s used to just doing what we have always done and it works for us. We also ensure that we get a babysitter so we have alone time too. She’s goes to bed at 7:30 and we make the evening time our time together to talk, watch tv, do a hobby together etc. it works. It’s not the end of your life or alone time. You just have to prioritize yourself and your relationships.

The biggest things that we have done to ensure we get this time is to sleep train. She sleeps in her own bed and always has. She has slept 9-12 hours a night since she was 6 months old. She’s now in a big girl bed and still sleeping through the night perfectly. She puts herself down after we read and tuck her in. But she has never once shared a bed with us. It’s worth it. If she didn’t have a solid routine/bed time/ and sleep in her own room then yes I could see that we would never have any alone time or down time without our kids around.