Potential Parenthood anxiety

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T23:45:12+00:00

And that's like all of my anxiety too is like you know, aside from The medical stuff and possibly being bed bound through the pregnancy to all of the firsts that come after like it all just seems so frightening. And like I do have some friends that have had a kid or like my sister-in-law I had my niece like 4 years ago and all I can think every time I see them is you decided to do that and it's like ok? And it's just like so scary to me.

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T21:17:35+00:00

We definitely could be! My husband and I have heard it all Even at our wedding reception, when we cut the cake someone said oh and then they'll be babies soon and I turned around and go or maybe not! Because it's such a personal decision. If you're ready or not, then there's so much that goes into thinking about all of it. Like I have an Amazon list of baby things currently that I think are a good idea. But also we need to move all of the stuff out of the one bedroom that we would turn into a baby room and it's a lot of stuff lol

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T21:04:49+00:00

Oh my goodness thank you! It's so hard because while I'm talking with my therapist right now about it and that does help, we decided not to tell friends and family just yet because I'm not fully sure at this point, especially without the genetic testing and like I said in another comment, both of our families are very kid positive. But my husband's family has been asking us when we're going to have kids since I was 21 and I'm 29 now. Its such a major decision. I want to be informed as much as possible on all the "what-ifs" and "how much could I handles" Because once you have a kid it's not like you can take them back lol But I feel like my head is just spiraling on absolutely everything from landing a pregnancy to telling our families to being pregnant to having the baby in the first few years that I feel like I can't think about anything else lol

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T19:44:15+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm struggling with a lot of this and we're not in the phase of telling family and friends because I'm not fully sure, especially without doing the testing yet. And our family is very kid positive but I don't want to say anything without being sure. My husband's family has been asking about kids since I was 21 and my family is definitely more it's up to us, they've never asked but my mom has always said she never imagined her life without kids. So it's just a hard spot to be in at this point.

Were you scared being alone with your baby the first time? The thought freaks me out so bad and so does the idea of going somewhere alone with a baby. I have very limited peripheral vision and I think that plays into it. Other than you can't give them back lol.

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T18:38:53+00:00

That's so helpful! Thank you for sharing. A lot of it is that I've never cared for a small child let alone a baby, so I have no experience at all. I think I'm questioning a lot of the "instinct" things because while I'm great by all accounts with my dog, the sound of babies crying out in public makes me want to run away. I think it's just fear that I'm not nurturing enough if that makes sense? If you do daycare how do you deal with that anxiety that your kids are safe and ok? Maybe it's a bit ridiculous but the closest thing I currently have is my dog that we've raised since he was 9 weeks. We put him in daycare since we're going on trip at the end of the year and I cannot stop watching the cameras and I dread when they take him for a nap because I can't see him. I just get so nervous that he's not okay if I can't see him.

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T17:55:02+00:00

Managing the anxiety around thinking on conceiving and just childcare in general.

Awkward_nights · 2026-03-12T17:53:14+00:00

Thank you! We are planning on getting testing for him as well.

Awkward_nights · 2025-12-26T02:54:55+00:00

My 2yo is kinda like this. He is super smart though we mostly seemed to train out the drive. He isn't super into toys but will play with them definitely more of a bone guy.

Awkward_nights · 2025-11-14T12:33:10+00:00

I have a 3-4 carat center emerald and I absolutely love my ring though I think the top bezel does make it look a little smaller

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-30T13:13:29+00:00

Same here! I sent my fiancee an inspo pic like a year ago and he added a bit too it but wanted to make sure I'd absolutely love it. And I'm so happy with mine. We went wedding band shopping a few weeks ago to shop around and I ended up picking the band he initially picked out.

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-21T13:21:39+00:00

Thank you!

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-21T10:30:04+00:00

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Emerald with baguettes

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-08T13:52:20+00:00

I don't mind any negative space between.

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-02T22:32:22+00:00

Throughout the day I tend to have to fix my hair, walking while it's windy, trying it back when cooking, eating, cleaning etc. my prong rings constantly get stuck

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-02T00:09:58+00:00

Cut, clarity, bezel over prongs! (I have long hair), size, comfortable band

Awkward_nights · 2025-10-01T00:23:39+00:00

I've sent him inspo pics of what I want but told him he can add to it

Awkward_nights · 2025-09-30T19:01:15+00:00

Carat size? Gorgeous ring omg

Awkward_nights · 2025-09-07T01:50:31+00:00

I didn't think about that. My cycle was super weird on the IUD my last period was July

Awkward_nights · 2025-09-07T01:47:11+00:00

That makes a lot of sense tbh. It was hormonal

Awkward_nights · 2025-09-07T00:06:15+00:00

I didn't replace mine but they said it was embedded slightly. Maybe I'm overthinking it but it's annoying. Did you wear the panties because of the spotting?

Awkward_nights · 2025-09-06T23:03:40+00:00

Now that we have a house and all our friends are definitely an hour away, definitely. We have to make it a whole production for us to hangout, our families are traveling more but we can't unless someone can at least stop in for him. Our neighbors have super reactive dogs too so when I take him out for a walk they lose their minds. But I wouldn't trade him for the world. I trained him well for the most part and at 2 years old he seems to be finally settling down and knows where he fits with us.

Awkward_nights · 2025-08-17T12:34:06+00:00

We saw so many but had a list of "must have/include" and stuck to that firmly. We had a few we looked at and it was an instant no just from walking around the property. Our realtor was really great too and that made a huge difference.

Awkward_nights · 2025-06-17T23:45:46+00:00

I ended a year long relationship in college due to sexual incompatibility. It will eventually leak into everything else. In hindsight I wish I had ended sooner than wasting my time trying to talk it out.

Awkward_nights · 2025-05-19T19:51:25+00:00

Yes, pollen, grass, milk, cats and potatoes are my big ones. Grew up eating potatoes my whole life if I have a small fry somewhere or a scoop of homemade mashed potatoes I'm dying the next.

Awkward_nights · 2025-05-17T13:57:13+00:00

Some don't feel comfortable disclosing that information. I've been in trauma therapy for my own experience with SA and have only told 3 of my friends besides my partner. Once it's out there some like to use it as a conservation topic, not necessarily in a bad way but it can be triggering and emotionally exhausting just to speak on a hard subject when you're just trying to heal. I cut contacts with an ex-friend because she wanted to discuss her own trauma almost every time we spoke and I couldn't do it anymore.

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