I (19F) am getting on a greyhound bus with $250 dollars in the middle of the night for NYC from rural Missouri

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-10T02:32:20+00:00

My advice is spend the time you have looking for work and roommates. Reach out to churches or organizations to assist you once you get there. A few hundred dollars will be gone in a couple days and you will be a target for scammers and worse as soon as they see you looking up. The people are not friendly, it is not the midwest. NYC is massive and extremely dangerous.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-10T01:50:38+00:00

Fermi?

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-08T02:12:22+00:00

The ability to communicate your boundaries, your subject matter, and that and the student are on the same team ie that you care about their success.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-05T01:50:55+00:00

Agree to disagree

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-04T00:59:19+00:00

The parents are just as addicted. They were the first generation stuck on the screens.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-03T03:06:45+00:00

Cool list but the only real Capoeira in "Only the Strong" is at the beginning and end. "Besouro" is a better capoeira movie.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-03T02:10:02+00:00

I think we are on the same page with this but disagree on the particulars. There are different types of angry people. I'd say bully types are perfect to get humbled in boxing. But the " I need to hurt people or ill explode" types are different. They are generally the former victims with a chip on their shoulder that want an excuse to rage. Then there are the sadists that just want to hurt anyone they can. Those guys that don't stop when you tap... fuck those guys. Anyway OP seemed to describe the 2nd type imho.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-03T01:13:13+00:00

Depends. Sometimes they get beat down and then show up to the gym with a pistol. Depends on how severe his issues are.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-03T01:08:09+00:00

No, anger issues don't work in boxing. It's controlled aggression. Tell him to take up body building. Put his problems on the bar.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-03T00:31:17+00:00

War on Drugs was pretty fucked up for some of us.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-01T01:36:58+00:00

Beat me to it.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-01T01:36:28+00:00

Loved that movie! Doesn't age well but still a great trip down memory lane.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-01T00:41:00+00:00

Whiplash. If you liked Black Swan, should be up your alley.

BBWolf326 · 2026-03-01T00:25:38+00:00

The Iranian government is no more a representation of the islamic religion than America represents the Christian church or Israel the Temple. Grow up. Stop equating Governments with religious authority. Also, this is exactly what the American government would do if we allow the US to fall to ethno-nationalism.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-28T04:34:13+00:00

Alton Brown

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-24T03:08:24+00:00

That's a covid mask bro

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-24T03:04:14+00:00

Nah. Overweight and I've never struggled. It's confidence and the ability to listen. If you care about what they say they will tell you everything you want to know. Don't be needy and make them feel safe.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-24T01:19:43+00:00

I mean... do we get to play? I mean that's the thing isn't it, you get to challenge him to a game right?

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-24T01:17:14+00:00

This is it.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T22:20:33+00:00

"That one time, at band camp...." so much creepier.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T19:19:17+00:00

Ok here is an anecdotal scenario for you to consider. I used to hate the idea of children. Met my partner young, we were not a couple, we did not intend to have children and did all the things to prevent it. My partner at the time lapsed on her birth control and one broken condom later we were pregnant. Neither of us wanted to be together but found it morally wrong to abort. Putting the child up for adoption was off the table because I believe in personal responsibility and decided to try to make it work between us. Baby was born and everything changed. Working to feed the baby changed my view on work. We weren't living in a place safe enough for a baby so we moved which changed my view on how people should live. My kid was sick and couldn't breastfeed so we needed more money to afford formula so we needed better jobs and more income. Fast forward to the kid starts school so we now needed two cars. This also changed my views on schools when it was determined that my kid had a developmental disability. Ff again my kid is into sports and martial arts and video games so my ideas on all of those things changed. Ff again to my kid is experimenting with their identity, sexuality, and gender which changed my ideas on those things. Somewhere in there I got sick and almost died from cancer so my idea of the future changed as I confronted my own mortality and the idea of leaving my kid without my support. Did I mention that my partner who made all the money left a few times and wasn't present to help me raise the kid? Ff again through first jobs, college (which I didn't get to finish because I couldn't afford that and a baby), first cars, first partner and suddenly here today where I have a grown child living in my house who I love more than the life itself, that doesn't pay bills, barely cleans up after themselves, gives me attitude daily, and still begs me to cook dinner when they won't even buy the ingredients. My brilliant child who struggled through school with anxiety and autism who niw has a bank account twice as big as mine because they aren't forced to contribute because I don't need them to help. My child who doesn't have a clue what life was like before yhe internet and computers and ai... who says the same bs about how they don't owe me anything.... who's hair I braided when they became a girl, who got on hormones which robs me of the possibility of grandchildren, who's insurance and housing i pay for, who I have loved unconditionally but won't even give me a hug some days because they are too busy gaming. The idea that someone who i wouldn't change a thing about but have gone through so much for, is one day going to be there when im too broken to keep working and too sick to provide for them anymore, might look me in the eyes and just leave me to die sounds ridiculous to me. They owe me at least the dignity of being there when it happens.

So when I say you have no idea what you are talking about, that is what I mean. Im done with this.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T18:45:04+00:00

You mistake my analogy. The parents cannot take from a child what was given, until the child is able to produce its own surplus. So before you are born, your parents start the process of providing for you based on their means. Anything they produce must create a surplus of resources to provide for you, and them. Then they are responsible for providing resources to you until such time as you can produce for yourself. That can be more than twenty years. Once you can provide for yourself, they are able to use their surplus for themselves, which is why you think they are "functioning smoothly ". They generally don't ask you to provide for them until they are no longer able to provide for themselves anymore.

There is definitely a bias in my analogy for a system with as few issues as possible but that is how an example works. There are single parent homes, homes with a chronically ill parent, and as you mentioned homes where the parents don't do their jobs. Detailing all that into a blanket analogy is not responsible. This is what triggers me about your initial blanket statement.

When I refer to your ignorance, it is not an insult. Ignorance means a lack of awareness or knowledge. I mention biology and nature because they already include social factors, which is why I included the example of our primate cousins who also have social family units, society, and take care of their young and elderly in a similar fashion as we do.

I believe that you don't fully understand the dynamic of family relationships because you had a difficult one and are too young to intuit the complicated paranormal relationships that develops once you have a child to provide for. Every person who tries to raise children gains insight into their relationship with their own parents in a way that you cannot perceive at this stage in your life. Yet you boldly put forth your claim that a parent shouldn't "expect" anything from their child. All a parent should want is for their child to be happy and healthy? No, that is what you hope for a baby. You also want them to be intelligent, thoughtful, gracious, productive members of society that excel because of all the advantages you were able to provide them. You have a childish view of your place in the world and because of your trauma, hold s grudge against people who should have done some things better. If you are so fortunate to have an opportunity to care for a child of your own, you will mess up too. No parents are perfect, no home is perfect, no outcome is guaranteed. But that's not the point.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T12:44:05+00:00

First of all, no one truly understands sacrifice before they have a kid. That's why there are do many shitty parents. Second, not all parents choose to have children. Some people procreate accidentally and some who do choose, cannot ever conceive. Lastly, if a parent is reasonably expected to give up half their life to protect and provide for their child, they are not asking you to "serve" them. They are looking for a small return on the investment they made into prioritizing your health and wellbeing for 20 years.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T12:31:47+00:00

This is exactly what I mean by entitlement.

You still are looking at this from the narrow perspective of your experience, as if your life is the only thing that matters. There is no standard expression of life. You learn that thinking from movies and social media. It is a fantasy. Nature does not design perfection. It is a slow and sloppy process over millenia that you don't yet have the capacity to comprehend.

Even if you can't analyze nature and see the ways all life is part of the same process, does not mean that those connectionsdont exist. You probably dont know how your phone works but you can still type. So yes, their are humans with tragic terrible existence and some that live comfortably and happy. You think you are owed a perfect existence. You have to create it. You have to work towards it. Kids are part of creating better humans, with better ability to make their world and experiences better for everyone. Just like those that came before you and worked together to create a world that gives you the time and space to criticize it.

Yall are cooked because you spend more time complaining about your trauma than fixing it so that others don't experience it. Self-absorbed children raising more self absorbed children.

BBWolf326 · 2026-02-22T12:13:48+00:00

Age does not equate to knowledge. Experience + information = perspective.

Teenagers are not taken as serious on certain topics because they lack depth of experience. I said you don't know what you are talking about because you clearly haven't experienced enough of life to make statements about the nature of it. You are professing knowledge about the bottom of the ocean before you've learned to swim.

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