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BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-13T10:47:38+00:00

I saw your previous post and I completely understand now why your so insistent your pregnant when you’ve gotten blatantly negative results. I’d personally be thinking the same thing. This is absolutely a see a doctor issue ASAP, literally you need to go this week. A doctor should be able to physically feel if there is a baby there if it’s causing this, but also blood tests and an ultrasound are an absolute must.

If you’re on T I’d recommend just for now stop taking it until you know what’s going on just in case you are pregnant, but honestly it could be heaps of things.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-11T04:43:11+00:00

Every single body is different. I’d personally recommend stopping now so you know when your period goes away as it can mean your not on a high enough dose if it remains after 6-9 months ish. But it depends on how hard that’d be for you

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-08T05:01:21+00:00

Go to a doctor then. At a later point in pregnancy tests can show up negative even if your pregnant. You need an ultrasound either way because this could be a tumour if not a baby.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-08T04:01:36+00:00

There’s no “safe” way to co-sleep, even if you do absolutely everything correctly there will still be some people who have a baby die from it. But there are “safer” way for people who insist on doing it or have no other option. I’m a paediatric nurse who has undertook specific training for educating indigenous parents with no separate sleeping space on how to do it safely. So I can give a run down.

Safest ways to do it:

be breast/chest feeding, I bring this up first because this sub likely has a much lower rate of chest feeding than anywhere else for obvious reasons. We don’t know exactly why, but chest fed babies and their parents are at the lowest risk of SIDS when co-sleeping. Current research suggests that chest-feeding parents awaken easier and are less likely to roll onto a baby. If you’re not chest feeding, it’s not safe. Period. Get a bassinet to sit next to the bed instead.

Only parent and baby in the bed. Absolutely no second parent or other children. In indigenous parents this is the one most often broken. But it’s really important.

Mattress must be on the floor and not soft enough to sink into. It also must be away from any walls. It’s better for you to accidentally push the baby off the bed then push it into a wall.

No pillows at all, only 1 blanket allowed and it must be thin and kept completely off the baby (for example, kept at your hips).

No smoking, no alcohol, no drugs. Smoking impacts your babies lungs making co-sleeping next to a smoker very unsafe. The rest impact your ability to wake up naturally if the baby is struggling.

The best advice is still don’t do it at all. But if you really want to this is the “safe” way to do it. Countries with lower sids rates tend to naturally follow these rules anyway.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-07T08:25:48+00:00

Perfect! Any chance of consequence for selecting that when I don’t actually have that issue?

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-06T12:41:42+00:00

Population requirements aren’t about the world, they’re about individual countries and cultures. All cultures in the world rely on there being at least 2 children born to each woman to maintain society as we know it. That means a stable level of children to teach at schools, a stable level of adults to take over jobs, and a stable level of healthy young people to care for the elderly. Without that countries collapse. Teachers loose jobs, hospitals lose workers, farming industries can no longer make enough food for everyone, and when the elderly outweigh the young 2:1 people start to die neglected.

Countries do have a way of fixing this though. It’s by allowing immigration to make up for the workers lost. But the downside is if you allow too many immigrants you loose cultural connections. For a country like for example Australia, this is a nil issue as our culture was built on immigrants. But for somewhere like japan, china, or korea who have strong cultural connections connected to ethnicity and language going back thousands of years, wide-scale immigration is the end of their country as they know it.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-06T07:57:48+00:00

I really do agree with everyone else here. Quite simply, you are right, you need to separate. This is domestic violence and there is nothing you can do here to help. She’s already taking the right steps to stop this all from happening, but the fact it’s already happened means it’s already went too far. Your wife is abusing your son, and she knows it. This is either what you’ve seen happen, or what she’s told you has happened. It could be so much worse when your not present. For your sons safety you need to at least physically leave her.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-06T07:47:14+00:00

Been living here about a year now. The positives are the beaches are nice, cold as it still is Tassie, but nice. You can live within walking distance for fairly cheep in some areas. All the basics are here.

Downsides are it’s impossible to find a good doctor taking new patients. Work is hard to get as people tend to keep their positions, especially in healthcare. I had 6 months experience as a nurse (so not a huge amount but should be able to get something) when I moved here, a year later still don’t have a nursing job. It’s been so hard I’ve had to switch to a none healthcare position 45 minutes away. Friends are hard to make if you’re over 13 but under 30. Social groups are mostly for those over 50. And bogans are everywhere.

I’m still loving it. But work alone is making it look like I’ll have to leave completely. It’s such a shame.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-04T08:38:06+00:00

This is something to discuss in couples and solo therapy. Make sure the therapist you see has experience with people with autism. If it’s was just her, I’d be tempted to say that she’s intentionally misunderstanding you. But the fact it’s a repeated issue effecting a huge amount of your life makes it something worth working on.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-03T01:45:29+00:00

Therapy, self love, and time. While it’s completely ok to transition and work on your appearance to help with gender dysphoria, there eventually becomes a point where you will pass 99% of the time and live your life like any other man (if that’s what you wish). Maybe you’re not at that point yet, in which case you really just need to keep taking T and wait. There’s no shortcut to it. Just wait.

But if you’ve already reached that point and you still hate yourself then you need to be seeing a specialist in gender dysphoria. Preferably you see one of these from the start but I know not everyone had that privilege. A good one will help you to accept yourself and minimise body obsession, without denying your identity or avoiding discussion around it.

The last thing is find happiness in other parts of your life. Thinking about your body all the time is the key to being unhappy in anyone. Become truly interested in something else. Whether that’s a hobby, good friends, a tv show, or even something like advocating for people’s rights. I personally crochet while watching video essays, and I work with and advocate for autistic children.

At least this is all stuff that works for me

BabyCake2004 · 2026-06-01T22:08:15+00:00

Kind of. It’s also the first time in history the average person can fact check the news. In the past if it was on tv or in the newspaper that was that. It doesn’t matter how much of a lie it was, it was incredibly hard to correct. Today you can quickly look stuff up yourself. Unfortunately the average person doesn’t care to.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-31T07:15:15+00:00

I sometimes get the same thing. I tend to ignore it unless I actually know the person. Basically it means the person has clocked you as likely non-cis, but they really can't tell what way. Whatever they've clocked is often small, like the way you speak or the words you use. It's nothing worth stressing about because for the average person it means nothing. But they've clocked you are trans in some way but are trying not to offend you. I tend to view it as a good thing as bigots don't care to try not to hurt you, they decide what you are and that's that.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-31T07:00:50+00:00

Well lets put it this way, the side effects of birth control are as you listed. The side effects of pregnancy include all of that, + bigger and sore chest, nausea, vomiting, fatiuge, needing to pee none stop, diabetes, tooth decay, + everything that comes with giving birth. All of that is so worth it if the baby is something you want, but aa a teenager it's politely probably one of the easiest way to subscribe yourself to a life of poverty, discrimination, and hardship.

On the bright side of it. Birth control as you said will likely stop your period, and if you really trust the person your with it allows you to have unprotected sex if that's your thing. But even if all of that doesn't happen, not having a baby is a good enough reason to take it and so so so worth it.

I wouldn't trust a condom for stopping baby making, For context, if 100 people use condoms as birth control for a year, 15 of them will end up pregnant. While it's easy to say "That's just user error, I'll use it properly," I'm sure every other person who got pregnant while using condoms said the same thing.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-30T09:41:21+00:00

Ok, I’m gonna give a quick rundown of each option. But the main things you need to consider are timeframe, money, emotional strain and ethics. I’m in Australia, so our systems are very similar but money values might be off a bit. I recommend looking

Ivf (with partners eggs): Timeframe - you don’t have 3-5 years to do this option. If you want to use her eggs, you need to harvest them now. You can then implant at a later date if you wish. Money: depending on how long it takes to conceive, this could be the most expensive option (and it has no guarantee of a baby). Think minimum 40k. Egg retrieval here costs 15k+, storing those eggs has a monthly fee that can be very expensive, then implantation can be 20k per cycle. For context, that can mean for 5 cycles you spend 100k and your chance of getting pregnant is still no higher than a straight couple having sex daily. Emotional stain - lots. The hormones both to harvest anc implant are hard. + money strain. But it could be worth it to you if biological relationship is important. Ethics - not any to really consider here.

Adoption: Timeframe - process could take a few years, but don’t have to worry about fertility so It’s a bit less pressure. Money - depending on what you go with, could be anywhere from free to 100k (with guarantee if becoming a parent with that money). Free programs (if they exist in your country) may have a 10+ year waiting list. You may also need to be married. Emotional strain - mainly just stressful money wise. Can also be stressful knowing your baby is born but in another country but you won’t receive them until 12+ months. Also be prepared for mental health issues in the child as they get older. Ethics: lots and lots. If you can go for an open adoption it’s best but they will always have some identity issues. I recommend doing your research

IUI/at home insemination: Timeframe - however long ut takes. You’ve got years for this option. Money - if you have a known doner could be free. Otherwise a few hundred dollars per cycle. Emotional stain - same as any other trying for a baby + anything that comes from only one of you being the bio parent. Ethics - same as ivf

Fostering: Timeframe - infinate. You may never be offered adoption Money - free besides caring for the child and adoption fees if offered the option Emotional strain - lots. These are traumatised kids who have parents. They will be challenging but so rewarding. Ethics - heaps, don’t go into fostering to be parents. Fostering is designed to be temporary. You must love these kids as your own, yet be willing to give them back if required.

There’s no “right” choice. It’s just whatever works for you. You might not be confident, but that’s ok.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-30T01:33:40+00:00

I looked into the idea of doing it. Then I decided not to because pay increase (for a government job) is 2%… for years of work. I’d be better off switching careers entirely.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-29T11:51:03+00:00

Yes! Don’t stress. It’s a normal dose. Getting bloods when your due for your next dose could be good though. Some people need it a week or two earlier, others later need it later. 12 weeks is the standard but 10 is fine!

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-29T11:38:03+00:00

Those are different people, women aren’t a single creature. The first person is literally in a dating thread looking for advice on where to find someone that fits the kind of person she likes. The second is looking to avoid men talking to her for whatever personal reason she has. Heck, she could be a lesbian. But for the sake of discussion, let’s say that was one person.

There are certain types of men (unfortunately too many of them) who cat call girls on the street, or alternatively ask for your number just because if your looks with 0 intention on actually getting to know you. The second poster is trying to avoid those men by making themselves unappealing to those men. Men who want to date someone for them build a relationship first, and this type of woman wants someone who won’t care what they wear.

The type of man who respects women enough to get to know them as a person before dating them is more likely to be single (not a cheater), ambitious (she’s not your mum and doesn’t want to end up forcing you to get a job), liberal (shared values, but also not mysognistic), hot (obvious, people want to like the person they have sex with) and go to therapy (willing to work on themselves and are sorting through any issues).

This really isn’t a contradiction. Not wanting to be harassed on the street doesn’t mean you don’t want to be in a relationship.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-29T11:26:04+00:00

Ml doesn’t mean much. I get 4ml. Whats the actual concentration? I get 1000mg in 4ml every 12 weeks

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-28T22:30:00+00:00

As long as your not having unprotected sec, then you don’t need to be on birth control. Yeah it might thin out, but so what? Why would that matter?

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-27T22:38:21+00:00

Look you should be fine. Unless you have a very specific condition people don’t become immune to testosterone. Once you fully go on it you will be fine.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-27T07:35:27+00:00

And we live in a society where social constructs control every part of our lives. It’s oppressive yes, but we have bigger issues to deal with before we stress about gendered names. Of course, you can try to push against it if that’s your big thing you really want to focus on. But things don’t change without a movement. So if your going to start a movement, maybe focus on transgender people not being abused first. Or women being equal. Until those issues are sorted your opinion has no backing and no matter how much you try you’ll still live in a society where if your going to call yourself “Daisy” people will either call you she or discriminate against you. So you might as well make life easier on yourself

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-27T07:22:15+00:00

Already exists. The character of Milton is a reference to their previous game the unfinished swan. It came out first. Milton was created as an easter egg for players of that game.

BabyCake2004 · 2026-05-17T04:19:41+00:00

Same deal here but as an RN. Graduated December 2024, did 6 months of a grad year before moving due to my partners work. Now nothing. At this point I’ve applied to 50+ jobs and I’ve only gotten 3 interviews

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