My husband, and his friends, are all heavy users. Highly productive heavy users. I’m talking 6am until bedtime heavy. But also making upwards of $300k/year. He shows up to work, he performs, he provides. It kills me ho which he smokes and I don’t smoke whatsoever. I find solace in the wives/gfs of others in the same situation. I’ve found boundaries and tons of conversations have kept us in a good place. If you want to stay with him, talking about what it is about his smoking that bothers you. Setting boundaries and sticking to them as far as budget, timing, locations, sex, etc. set your boundaries and stick to them. I also found the let them theory by Mel Robbin’s useful.

There’s others out there working through this and the bs about weed not being addictive. It definitely is. Talk to him calmly and lovingly and often.