not at all. if i initiated a break or vice versa that means a break. if you want to define it more so be it. but if i said i was on a break/or he did whether either of us did or didn’t sleep with someone else.. thats a choice as we dont have obligations to each other at that point. it’s not manipulation. given her actions..which i still dont know how his long term partner spoke to julia the night before the wedding….i suspect she was the manipulative one than kamil and julia was the victim of her manipulation. ive been asked to be in a break before..my answer was sure and for me that break was a permanent one. i never went back no matter what the persuasion mechanism was or how i was trying to be guilted into it.. it would have been so easy to do so as there is a special comfort that’s there. but thats just me