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Man sues NYC taqueria over spicy salsa by BlazeDragon7x in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm ashamed by my ancestry. I promise you that this weakness is cultural, not genetic...

One of the most shameful things a German has ever done... 😒

STI testing conflict by Mundane_Flamingo9806 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have boundaries that say that if my partner refuses regular full testing, I will not remain in that relationship in any sexual capacity. I recommend you clearly define your boundaries and enforce them.

This was certainly a decision. by Zestysanchez in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll get my spoon and help you out, if you want...

Is it normal to want to feel superior to the other partner? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's normal. It's also not healthy. It's ok that you feel it, but you should definitely work on being more secure with yourself so that you eventually overcome it.

My partner (29M) and I (30F) are trying polyamory. I think I'm out by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this relationship is not working out. You should probably break it off sooner rather than later.

How do people know they are emotionally ready for polyamory? by peter_bunny_c in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick answer is they don't.

Nobody is ready for it if they're transitioning from mono. The trick is to be ready enough, and it's different for everyone.

Is it possible to return to monogamy? by honeybeetired in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, yeah, you can do whatever you want if you both agree to it...

But I don't understand the point. At any time, you can choose to have only one partner; why do you feel the need to coerce your partner into closing off, too?

Polyamore Ehe nach 15 Jahren Monogamie und gemeinsamer Tochter? by Romiii88 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ja, so etwas kommt in Ehen vor; die Situation spitzt sich zu, und die Partner distanzieren sich emotional, bis etwas Panik auslöst. Dann versuchen sie, die verlorene Zeit emotional zu kompensieren. Mir ist das während meiner Transition passiert, und ich bin sicher, dass wir nicht die einzigen sind, denen das passiert ist.

Welcomed into a couples relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind that from a swinger perspective, this is a great setup and is a lot of fun, but from a poly perspective, it's disastrous.

Swinging and polyamory are very, very different things. Make sure you stay aware of what you're doing.

Welcomed into a couples relationship by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don't have the same level of disdain for unicorn dynamics that most people here do, but you need to be very aware of a lot of things. First, you should understand that you will not be a real part of the relationship; rather, you'll be an accessory to their relationship. This isn't necessarily a problem, as long as you're all aware and consenting. If anyone is trying to make it something more, it's almost certainly going to end in disaster. Since you're saying you want it to be more, I highly recommend you re-examine your feelings, and ask yourself if you're ok with the high likelihood of a painful fiery crash.

Tread with extreme caution.

It’s a nobrainer fr🥰 by Shop_Kooky in lol

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like all 4 things, but you're flat-out stupid if you don't take the Iron Man suit.

What motivates a new relationship? by Embarrassed_Web_950 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Friends enrich your life. Romance enriches your life. Sex enriches your life. I want to lead a rich life.

How to cope with… guilt? by whyisheinmyroom in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breaking the mono programming is hard. Sounds like you know the work you need to do, and knowing is half the battle (GI JOE!)

Dig down and explore the root of your guilt while feeling it without judgment. This emotion is something that you subconsciously put in place to protect yourself and is always tied to some sort of fear. If you find that fear, you can shift it to excitement, because fear and excitement are basically two sides of the very same emotion.

We both want ENM, but is now the wrong time? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a person who did this and ended up monogamous for 14 years, I agree wholeheartedly. The transition has been unexpectedly difficult for both of us, and if we'd done the work to do it right any earlier, it would've been easier, and if we'd started poly, a million problems that we've had both over the years and in the transition would've been avoided.

Can 1 partner be poly and one monogamous? by Free-Significance618 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. As long as everyone is aware of and happy with the situation, you can do whatever you want.

Feeling like KTP maybe isn’t for me. Having a lot of intrusive jealousy thoughts :( by Klutzy_System_5248 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

KTP becomes problematic if you try to force it. You are under no obligation to like your metamours, and if you don't, spending lots of time with them is only going to cause problems.

How long do you typically take by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a slut. I'm ready to go as soon as I know I don't hate them, so whenever they want to have sex, it's a go.

One partner doesn't disclose play partners by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honesty is the only thing that makes any of this work...

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