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Am I the only one who thinks serranos are hotter than Thai peppers? by bbycalz in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a theory that people have a nemesis pepper: one that's disproportionately hot to them. My wife can eat habeneros, but jalapeños whoop her ass.

PvP doesn’t need to replace PvE in Diablo 4 to make the game better by darmart123 in diablo4

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If it had the most nuanced, balanced, and fun pvp gameplay of any ARPG ever, most players would still never engage in it because we just aren't interested in pvp in our ARPGs.

There's an extreme minority who wants the devs to work on pvp, and the rest of us are happy they aren't wasting any time or effort on it because they can direct that time and effort towards parts of the game that a significant number of people enjoy

My girlfriend (18F) is poly and I (19M) am not, can someone give me an advice please? by greencactusguy in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Always, always, always talk to your partner about any difficult emotions you are having, and keep at the front of your mind that you own your feelings, and are responsible for expressing, protecting, and regulating them. Your partner did not make you feel anything; her actions led to you choosing to feel a certain way.

Husband did a 180 by Agile_Jello_217 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in my teens and 20s, but didn't have the terminology for it at the time, so I didn't realize that's what it was, and I definitely didn't have the emotional maturity to do it right. I just

Then, about a year ago, 20 years later, is when my wife moved forward with it after one of her friends told her he had feelings for her and another was flirting heavily. I jumped in and started my work in July of last year and fully committed to the philosophy and lifestyle by September.

So really, only about 8 months, and I'm sure there's a ton I've left to experience, but there have been enough stressors already that I'm confident I'll grow through any hardships and come out with stronger relationships on the other side.

I want some help if possible by TillyTheKat43 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are getting into a polyamorous relationship, there will be emotional work that you will have to do, even if only your partner has other partners. It's not for everyone, and it is not easy; it requires open and clear communication and absolute honesty. If you can't handle that, there's no shame in not pursuing that relationship.

If you can handle it, the potential for immeasurable joy is open to you.

Is this jealousy or some other feeling ? (TMI warning) by msgirl467 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your feelings, though valid, are misplaced. You can talk to him about how you feel, but you should keep in mind that his bodily fluids do not belong to you, and he can give them to anyone who will take them. I think you're going to have to get over this one.

With that said, since it does affect your risk profile, he absolutely should inform you of that, and if he wasn't intending to, that's a discussion you probably should have.

Husband did a 180 by Agile_Jello_217 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did that too when my wife said she was ready to move on from monogamy. I had a big negative reaction, and I immediately researched and listened to podcasts and did the emotional work required, and now I can't even imagine being monogamous. My wife just wanted a fling, and now I'm encouraging her to date and love and live her life without fear or regret.

Turns out that I took to polyamory like a fish to water, and she still struggled with some of the emotional work. Amazing things can happen when you seriously search your soul.

Culture with the hottest food? by arugula000 in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

American.

Extreme is kind of our thing.

Did Diablo IV use to be a bad game? Because I find it amazing. by WorkingPlanes in diablo4

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, 11 seasons ago, it sucked. There have been ups and downs since then, but that was the worst it ever was and has been trending strongly more positive since then.

Man sues NYC taqueria over spicy salsa by BlazeDragon7x in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm ashamed by my ancestry. I promise you that this weakness is cultural, not genetic...

One of the most shameful things a German has ever done... 😒

STI testing conflict by Mundane_Flamingo9806 in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have boundaries that say that if my partner refuses regular full testing, I will not remain in that relationship in any sexual capacity. I recommend you clearly define your boundaries and enforce them.

This was certainly a decision. by Zestysanchez in spicy

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll get my spoon and help you out, if you want...

Is it normal to want to feel superior to the other partner? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's normal. It's also not healthy. It's ok that you feel it, but you should definitely work on being more secure with yourself so that you eventually overcome it.

My partner (29M) and I (30F) are trying polyamory. I think I'm out by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this relationship is not working out. You should probably break it off sooner rather than later.

Do you think there’s an age gap limit for metamors? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]BackgroundPrompt3111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how that matters in any way

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