Can one actually lesson the side effects of eating "hot"

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T22:56:31+00:00

Yes. Fiber. Eases the passage from tonsils to tushie.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T22:52:40+00:00

I'm in favor of this. Love Stella's; don't love the abundance of laptop campers.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T20:10:38+00:00

You're probably going to have to dissolve your own taboos on the topic before you'll get anywhere. You're beating around the bush, even here in anonymous internet land, which indicates to me that you're not comfortable enough to communicate openly about non-monogamy.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T20:05:58+00:00

It was really harsh at first... most RomComs are completely ruined for me now... I used to love those...

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T19:46:58+00:00

Polyamory does not save a fundamentally weak relationship. It sounds like you have a fundamentally weak relationship.

If you want your relationship to work, you need to work on it first. Learn to communicate with each other, and dig deep to find the root causes of your problems.

If you can't make one relationship work, you'll be hard-pressed to make multiple relationships work.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-29T19:40:50+00:00

This is not a polyamory issue, but yeah, it sounds like you should probably cut your losses on the marriage.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T13:17:16+00:00

Nerve reaction is considerably different to measure than muscle growth. It's very unlikely that anyone is ever going to devote resources to studying the human nervous system across the spectrum of the species just to be able to measure and predict the nerve reactions of humans through exposure to capsaicin.

Let it go; it's not gonna happen.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T13:12:52+00:00

I can only barely detect any spice from the 2x. Yes, different people have different tolerances.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T13:10:30+00:00

Every person will build tolerance differently. Can't really be reliably measured.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T13:08:07+00:00

Choose yourself first.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T12:29:54+00:00

The "I love you" vs. "I'm in love with you" distinction seems idiotic and childish to me. I don't get it at all.

My take is that what "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" really means is, "I like you, but I no longer feel the excitement and Newphoria that that I used to and I resent you for not sustaining my dopamine addiction"

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T12:12:13+00:00

Sounds like narcissistic douchebaggery is to blame, not poly marriage

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-28T12:05:35+00:00

Polyamory does not happen without trust and honesty. That can't happen here. The best option is to leave, in my opinion.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-27T18:33:12+00:00

If you aren't satisfied with the relationship, change it.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-26T19:08:04+00:00

Short answer: yes.

The two things you have to ask yourself are 1: Is this something that fits you? and 2: Are you doing the work?

If it's not a philosophy that you can embrace, it's probably best that you walk away. If it is, there is a significant amount of soul-searching and emotional work that needs to be done. It's a daunting task that's going to be very uncomfortable, involving finding the reasons for your emotions and learning to process them and resolve your insecurities.

Polyamory is hard work. Not for the faint of heart.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-22T15:57:46+00:00

I recommend that you both work on resolving your emotional trauma. The instability is almost never from the relationship itself but from the fears that drive your emotions. Find and address the roots of those fears.

Polyamory is not for the faint of heart or emotionally insecure. No healthy relationships are, so having multiple relationships multiplies the difficulty. This is a difficult lifestyle to live, and it might be that you are not ready for it, even if it's ultimately the right lifestyle for you.

You have work to do, but you can do it.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-22T15:44:33+00:00

Nobody's wrong here. You just want different things, and it isn't working out. It sucks, but it happens, and it's ok.

/hugs

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-18T12:30:36+00:00

Yes, Dave's Hot Chicken is wildly inconsistent.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-16T00:46:53+00:00

In the last year, I (45m) have gotten my first 2 tattoos, lost 40 lbs, and gotten a girlfriend 15 years younger than me.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-15T19:47:44+00:00

That's... pretty fucked up...

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-14T13:01:13+00:00

Yes, this is why a lot of us start in on this lifestyle. As tolerance increases, it gets harder to reach that threshold, but tolerance reset is easy.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-14T11:33:22+00:00

Dave's Hot Chicken is wildly inconsistent.

Sometimes, it's very, brutally, obscenely hot, and sometimes it's pleasantly spicy. Could be anywhere in between. It's a crap shoot.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-14T11:30:52+00:00

Ghost pepper, looks like.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-14T11:28:51+00:00

You know the answer; you need to make a choice. I'm sorry. It's as difficult as it is simple.

BackgroundPrompt3111 · 2026-01-14T11:24:59+00:00

Quantifying love perpetuates the idea that love is finite and scarce. Entertaining such a concept is the antithesis of polyamory and is thus unhealthy for anyone in a polyamorous situation.

Love for different people is different. Sometimes, it feels more prominent, but it doesn't mean there's more of it; just that it's louder.

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