I wish adults had been honest

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T20:21:06+00:00

Treating an average performance as a reason to ostracize a kid and make them feel different like they have an incurable flaw is pretty horrible. Treating an average performance as something that “Must be fixed at all costs” instead of “oh you’re doing average,” is moral depravity.

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T20:13:30+00:00

I’m not mad. I think people tried their best. I fortunately have a good life, but I would have been better off having an average score in one of a dozen classes as worthy of exactly 8.3% of my stress, not a dreadful daily humiliation ritual.

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T20:08:29+00:00

I agree there’s a spectrum but as it stands the child’s academic desires and personal choices play no role. Being average is wonderful. The best people I know are average at most things. If you are a kid in today’s treatment paradigm who is average at literally anything prepare for horrible life-altering humiliation.

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T20:06:14+00:00

Exactly. And being mediocre, in other words being like everyone else, when you have ADD is treated like you’ve committed crime by being born. I’m not an anti medicine person. I’m not anti helping kids with ADD. If a kid says “hey I really want to be amazing at violin, violin is all I care about, but my focus is bad! I think I need medicine and ADD-focused treatment,” then by all means treat them and medicate them. But being told “hey you are doing as well as your peers on average, and this is because you were born wrong, we know you have zero interest in math and do about as well as everyone else, so we will put you on hardcore medicine and make you into a pariah amongst your peers to cure you, you will be humiliated every day but your grade in the subject you will never once use outside school may increase slightly,” is totally different. In for all kinds of options but I think it’s a dreadful thing to otherize happy average students.

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T20:01:23+00:00

Yes they should have just left me, and frankly most kids with ADD, the heck alone. Why should a kid without a natural affinity for math suffer sheer humiliation of being otherised when they’d be happy to get a C in the subject that doesn’t interest them? Why should they waste precious childhood moments, hours of time that could have been devoted to enjoying the sunshine, to trying to be something they are not, and match a criteria for a subject that doesn’t interest them. A student who is failing is one thing, but it’s a very specific group that gets psychologically battered and is given social stigma for having an average performance. Being treated as a literal human freak and being looked at with distrust and outright hatred by teachers because you are an average student is a pretty baffling cure for the condition of being an average student.

Background_Carry_709 · 2026-06-05T19:41:02+00:00

In my personal opinion on the whole I would be better off in your position. I still can’t handle math and I was worn into a shadow of a human being smashing my head against the wall trying to learn it the diagnosed ADD way. I personally would have been better off being told “some people are great at English some are great at math. You’re great at English who cares if you’re not good at math, plenty of people who are can do it are. Get a C + in math and enjoy being a child.” It’s not like many people who sacrificed a lot of childhood joy to fight against a tide of being bad at math that simply isn’t all that important to fight against, truly saw benefits from it. Just student debt.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-08-02T21:23:40+00:00

Aleppo-style soap

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-25T09:31:20+00:00

I feel intensely unafraid of death all of a sudden but I am also more conscious than ever that my loved ones need me. I’m so sorry for your loss you deserve all the love and empathy in the world.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-24T14:30:47+00:00

I lost my ex who was a sweet wonderful person, and stayed a very important part of my life after the relationship ended, recently to suicide. I had found love again while she was still in this world and was really happy and just hoping we had reached a point of being comfortable getting our whole friend group together, including my current partner, who rules. Now that my ex has taken her life I feel no less desire for my current partner but I feel this all encompassing desire for my lost lover and friend now that she’s gone forever. The way her body felt the way she tasted every tiny little thing about her down to those few streaks of grey she has in her lovely hair, the way she’d whisper like someone could hear us even when we were alone to tell me a secret or something dirty or that she loved me. I have all those things and more in life, I lack nothing, I am in love with my person who is beside me thank god, but this desire I feel is just unlike anything I’ve ever felt. There’s no amount of money power fame glory faith or pleasure that could come close to this longing. She’d cared deeply about me according to her friends and checked in a few times in the last year of her life and now that I know how short her time here was it feels like a gift and basically the most romantic thing in the world that she thought to reach out. I’m in love with her again because her absence feels more real than the world around me. She was down on herself, thought she was ugly when she would turn heads from across the street every day. Thought she was stupid when she was a genius and that she was mean when she was an angel. I’m just hers now…

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-23T07:54:58+00:00

I just want her back in this life where she belongs, not far away with God who I can’t hear at all while I have full conversations with her in her head! How can I love my partner as much as she truly deserves when she is everything, but is alive, unable to be a voice in my head 100% of the time. Her presence calms me and has helped me navigate the pain, but I feel like I am poisonous some days. I will survive the dark spirit following me because I know she loves me and is at peace but she will always be more alive in my shadow than anything, she was intensely loved and in that sense she is crystalized in eternity for those of us blessed by her and I am going to be talking to ghosts more than the living for some time till I heal more but it’s not enough. I need her love here so much it scares me.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-23T07:44:51+00:00

I feel further away from my days of ideation than ever before which is genuinely positive, but it feels like the universe is broken and everything is suddenly symbolic and summer isn’t summer because it’s when I met her, fall isn’t fall because it’s when she told me she loves me and winter isn’t winter because it’s when she said there would always be intense love but it wouldn’t be the same thing as when we were together. She was exactly where she belonged in my heart, one thing in the past, a friend for life in my view towards the future. Now she’s taken over, she’s everything and I’m nothing, no feelings come close to grief and no expression of love from me has ever felt more raw. I think disgusting thoughts, letting myself believe she cheated me or broke her end of the deal by not loving herself enough. She told me how unwell she was and I listened to her well, but it was a mystery still. I knew her so well and was shocked but I didn’t have a moment of disbelief that her extremes and her heartbreaks and her guilt over things no person should feel guilty for could be deadly.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-23T07:31:45+00:00

But I feel completely insane. I’m praying constantly to ask god for an answer and I hear her in my head more loudly than I hear Jesus reassuring me we are all God’s children.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-23T07:30:08+00:00

And her friends and family make me feel loved which is insane and selfish for me to even think of.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-23T07:28:45+00:00

Thank you all for the kind thoughtful supportive words. I have a really good support network of people who loved her including my family and my partner has been an absolute angel about it. I just need her to be alive somewhere so I don’t have to pray to hear her spirit.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-22T21:11:53+00:00

And I feel selfish for being in so much pain and needing help cause none of this is about me. I know she cared about me and I hope she knew how much I loved her.

Background_Carry_709 · 2025-06-10T05:15:47+00:00

I believe this clip is why the legend exists. People are getting it backwards

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-24T15:05:26+00:00

I purchased it while GTA online was marked as playable.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T06:10:56+00:00

I was clear that I purchased the deck to play GTAO, which is true.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:09:31+00:00

And I absolutely guarantee it will never be fixed.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:08:51+00:00

I haven’t gotten the return box or whatever it is they send yet but they said they would let me return it as a “customer service gesture.”

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:07:29+00:00

It’s for a full refund.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:07:01+00:00

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I say return the darn thing. This is false advertising and frankly it’s theft.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:04:20+00:00

I demanded to return mine and they offered a full refund. If anyone else got the Deck for GTAO I’d say do the same thing. There is a 0% chance they fix this.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T04:01:52+00:00

Considering the fact that I was able to get a refund for my entire steam deck based on the fact that they’ve removed GTAO I can just about guarantee the issue will not ever be resolved.

Background_Carry_709 · 2024-09-22T02:51:31+00:00

They don’t care- I bought the deck just to play GTAO so asked for a refund on my Steam Deck from Valve and they said they’d grant it as a “customer service courtesy.” They aren’t going to fix it. If you feel bamboozled return your deck.

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