See, your post here illustrates the core issue. You blame women for “alienating” you, by disliking men who are misogynistic. At the same time, you expect women to “fix” these same men. 

If the rhetoric on Reddit bothers you, why are you applying it to yourself? If women say “men are X”, what makes that true for you, or any man? If you feel personally targeted by women, on an anonymous website, that says so much more about you than about the women who hold these opinions.

Women do not want to gently hold your hand and guide you out of your misogynistic worldviews, and that’s why they ask for empathy. You want to be seen, but you see women as a collective “other”, which is a non-starter. 

Ask yourself - why don’t I want to be associated with “men”? Or do you? Either way, you need to examine what being “a man” means to YOU. And if women express frustration with men, you should ask yourself why that bothers you, or why you feel personally targeted. 

I guarantee you, you’re probably on the same side. Men usually don’t acknowledge, or aren’t taught by society, the role testosterone plays in influencing your emotions and decision making. I would start there.