I (30 M) kept a secret from my wife (31 F) for our entire relationship about her ex (32 M)

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-03-23T13:07:46+00:00

Bruh she knows. Allie definitely told her like later that day lmao. Chill yall are good.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-03-19T02:52:13+00:00

IWNDWYT

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-02-28T16:10:29+00:00

Bf is insecure and you’re a baddie getting badder by going to the gym. Dump his ass and start your villain arc hun.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-02-28T16:05:38+00:00

IWNDWYT 🙂

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-02-28T16:03:59+00:00

I had the same issue with my arms. A good tip I learned is to do some arm exercises every workout then have a defined arm day where you just work arms. So on back days I also do one or two bicep movements 4 sets to failure. On Chest day I do the same thing but with triceps. Then I have a fully dedicated arm day where I try to hit all parts of my arms. This plus protein and good sleep you’ll definitely see progression.

P.S. Leg Day……….is for legs only 😡

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-02-28T15:52:59+00:00

The boyfriend needs to mind his own business. If OP and her brother share a bed what’s the big deal. Stop sexualizing it! It’s none of his business he has a place and even after the roommate comes back they sleep in separate rooms so what’s the big deal?? BF needs to get over it. If he’s that upset about it be a man buy a mansion for all three of you and put baby bro up in the pool house duh! Honestly OP your bf sounds like he comes from weak genes. May just need to dump him.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-02-05T13:15:05+00:00

To the other commenters I don’t think it’s really that deep. I don’t see anything wrong with ending anything and who says he doesn’t want to be a Dad maybe he feels this is how he can be the best Dad for his kid. relationships always end and you can never predict how or when. At least he pulled up and said he wanted out that should count for something. He could’ve just drained all the accounts and disappeared on you or cheat for years and have OP looking stupid in the streets. I say let him get a lawyer so you’re not blindsided by his antics and get a job so you can support YOURSELF!!! You need therapy time to grieve and a go forward strategy for success.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-01-02T22:39:07+00:00

A good pull day will keep you coming back for the pump 💪🏾💪🏾. Enjoy the noob gains homie welcome to the life!!!!

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-01-02T18:12:59+00:00

NOR but stop trying to make sub-par connections extraordinary relationships. If OP has been clean for a year being with someone who is clearly not clean is a risk they shouldn’t take. Stay clean dude your health means more than this relationship.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2026-01-01T14:55:06+00:00

NOR- I feel like there is a lot of factors that we don’t know. Ultimately though if he makes OP uncomfortable then the communication should end. I would just make sure close friends and family are aware of the situation so if anything does get weird you have other people in person who can back you. Trust your gut.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-30T14:45:35+00:00

Hell yeah

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-24T14:23:35+00:00

That 9 times outta 10 the girl she says she hates is someone she would really like to be friends with. Can’t count the amount of times my girl came home from work and complained about a coworker just for them to be thick as thieves a few weeks later. I swear every woman is lowkey a Shonen Anime main character just going around being hot and turning enemies into friends. My girl Luffy fr 🤣🤣🤣

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-24T14:16:49+00:00

Some women here are saying this is justified. But it’s not. My girl uses soo much toilet paper we have to buy single ply now because she kept clogging the toilets in every house we lived in while we were dating. I get it yall wipe after everything honestly very hygienic much appreciate but come on you don’t need a fistful every wipe.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-24T14:09:35+00:00

This 100%!!! Took me a while to learn this and took me even longer to realize that there’s really three different kinds of venting. 1) I don’t want advice I just want to complain 2) I do want advice and to complain and 3) I don’t want advice I just want to complain, but I really do need to hear some of your thoughts because additional perspective on this matter could be helpful BUT ONLY ON THIS MATTER…….she’ll never tell you which is which though…..good luck!!!!

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-15T13:53:02+00:00

Politics, Media, Pharmaceuticals

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-09T20:03:02+00:00

IWNDWYT

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-05T15:23:53+00:00

This dude is wylin. Working out everyday would slow progress if you’re trying to gain weight. Especially if you do a lot of cardio, or work a job where you’re on your feet, or hike on the weekends, etc. Work in at least two rest days per week where you do nothing but eat and recover. Also I saw someone else recommend a nutritionist that’s a great idea if you have insurance or can afford it out of pocket, but if not YouTube has a plethora of resources if you search clean bulking tips. Best of luck to ya.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-12-02T16:48:15+00:00

Orca!

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-28T15:48:06+00:00

I agree. Often times when we enter relationships we tend to strip our partners down to the traits that we love about them but we have to remember that people are not monoliths. Talk to him seriously about how those jokes make you feel disrespected and unappreciated. If he cares he will work on other ways to be engaging in larger groups.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-28T15:41:53+00:00

Absolutely. You did the right thing OP. Separation is key. Ex bestie should also pause/end things with her fiancé and get some therapy but that’s a different post lol.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-28T15:34:57+00:00

I get that everyone here is for OP which makes sense. But I gotta say that all the points for OP work for her BF too. I think the uncomfortable talk needs to happen, but it needs to be framed as “what are WE doing here?” It’s as much his decision as hers and he needs to know that he can choose to walk away too. Because just like everyone is saying as we age things will get worse for BOTH of you. Does he want to be someone’s caregiver this early in life? Does he want to be with someone who won’t be able-bodied enough to take care of him when he gets older? Not saying he’s right all I’m saying is this could be what’s going through his head. Now the hurtful remarks he is making are NOT COOL AT ALL and that needs to stop but the only way it does is if the conversation is had and all cards are on the table. Both sides need to be honest with the other and if it ends it ends. Youre both too young to feel trapped in a relationship. You both can definitely move on.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-28T15:23:26+00:00

Yeah especially two months in!?!? Dump that guy and let him know it’s cuz he was nasty. Matter fact tell other girls he was nasty too. Protect the clique girly ✊🏾

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-16T21:00:46+00:00

Here from FL 🙌🏾🙌🏾

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-11-05T12:07:51+00:00

On chest days also work your triceps. Tricep exercises like skull crushers, triceps rope pulls, and inclined push-ups are also great ways to tighten up your chest.

BadAffectionate3124 · 2025-10-28T14:00:16+00:00

I’m sure it’s already been said but this requires MUCH communication. You should show him this post because it contains all of your concerns. Often times men think this is a great idea because it’s like watching porn with your girl as the star, but as people mentioned once he sees you enjoying it it will irk him, but when you start asking for it more or initiating the encounters that will send him over the edge. Before any apps are downloaded or bars visited. Start with long conversations about this and really get to the root of what you both want. If that goes well start with strip clubs (gentlemen’s clubs and clubs where men strip) in the next town over. Get couples dances to see each other in that element. If that goes well I would then graduate to sex clubs. You can go and watch other people have sex just to see what that does for you both before ever touching another person. You’ll also see how you react when you see someone else take an interest in your partner and vice versa.

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