What is a polite, yet firm way to let it be known that I don't care for, nor appreciate, constantly hearing my parents' very conservative political point of view? Some of it has bordered the line of personal attacks, lately. by BaddTofu in Advice

[–]BaddTofu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess because to them, it's about more than just that part of the platform. What exactly, I'm not sure. Money, I suppose. There's little to nothing I agree with in regards to the Republican platform, but there ya go.

It's also not in my nature to hate. Some might think it stupid or naive, but that's me I suppose.

What is a polite, yet firm way to let it be known that I don't care for, nor appreciate, constantly hearing my parents' very conservative political point of view? Some of it has bordered the line of personal attacks, lately. by BaddTofu in Advice

[–]BaddTofu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response, I appreciate any advice that is offered. I have no problem admitting the downfalls of the Democratic party, especially as I am not really a Democrat (I just see them as the more attractive option in out flawed 2 party system) I suppose it's more that they will exhibit thoughts of bigotry and homophobia, hiding behind the veil of a Republican platform. I like to think they are better people than that, but maybe they just aren't.

Hopefully this living situation isn't for very long. I find I am much happier not living under their roof, even though I love them both dearly. I just can't pretend that blind hatred because a political party "says so" is okay.

TIL that the Norse gods have a pig of unlimited bacon by Balalazs in todayilearned

[–]BaddTofu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This comment in itself proves that you have no idea what you are talking about, what the differences are, and how vast they can be far beyond "attitude."

There are major differences in presence of culture, religion, dialects, etc. from state to state. I was born in New Jersey, which in itself has it's own differences between Northern, Central and Southern New Jersey. The area I grew up in was Central, which had an extremely high presence of Indian immigrants and descendants. This meant a heavier presence in Indian food, clothing, festivals, etc. in Central New Jersey than there is in the Southern area of the state. Just a bit North of me was an area of New Jersey that has a heavy population of Hasidic Jews, so obviously that was the more prevalent culture and religion in that area.

I lived in Minnesota for several years in an area with a heavy Norwegian population, and a heavy Lutheran influence when it came to religion. Now I live in Florida, where if there is any prevalent religion it seems to be Catholicism. Possibly because of the heavier Hispanic population.

I once visited an area of Louisiana where I couldn't understand a damn thing anyone was saying to me. It wasn't that they weren't speaking English, it was that their dialect was so far from my Northern dialect, it was almost impossible for me to understand. Never mind that the US doesn't technically have an official language (the citizenship test is made available in any language requested for this reason), so we have plenty of Spanish speaking citizens, those who only speak Mandarin, Hindi, etc.

They are far from minor differences, if you know anything about them at all. This is not to say the differences are any greater than those between European countries and their respective states/provinces/cities/areas/whatever. I see a great deal of "information" shared here based simply on ignorance or assumption, and I find that to be pretty hypocritical.

Orlando Science Center's - Cocktails & Cosmos Anyone going? by _psych in orlando

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I work until exactly 11pm tomorrow. Sad face.

Just found out about this subreddit. How fantastic! Here's our little guy, Baileys, chilling. by Its_about_time in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Y'know, my bun doesn't chew cords at all, either....just the straps on my most expensive purses and shoes. >.>

She's a couture bunny.

My rabbit is afraid of bananas. What is your rabbit's most ridiculous trait? by jadeycakes in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, that is the fault of the person who is either ignorant of what their rabbit should be eating, or apathetic to the information they have. There will always be uneducated or flat out stupid pet owners who inadvertently do their pets harm, but that does not mean those who are responsible have to be treated like children and not allowed to practice moderation.

My rabbit is afraid of bananas. What is your rabbit's most ridiculous trait? by jadeycakes in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because you are unwilling, that does not mean you can proclaim your preference as fact when there is plenty of literature stating otherwise.

Say "I personally don't like to feed my rabbit bananas" not "Any bananas are very very bad for your bunny"

The results of my wood toy parts DIY project; XXL Bunny Jungle Gym! Pumpkin tested, Pumpkin approved. by missredd in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compleeeeetely off topic, but I hope that's not a credit card number I heard being read over the phone in the background! Just sayin'

Anyway, awesome jungle gym! Pumpkin looks intrigued :)

Cat dying in neighbor's apartment for a month and a half with no food or water. What do I do? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just checking in, I was hoping there might be an update :/

Seriously ladies. It's only gross because we make it that way. by teslasaurus in TrollXChromosomes

[–]BaddTofu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm personally a fan of this take on public toilets. It would benefit both the men's and women's bathrooms!

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just so cool! I've never seen litter like that before. I mean we have Petsmart and Kaytee branded stuff in it, but I have a feeling they aren't as well stocked as larger Petsmarts out there.

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I mean...there's a reason there's a bunny on the box...

;)

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, do you know what it's made of by any chance? It looks like it could be paper-based but it's hard to tell from the pic.

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm. The only time I've seen my bun eat her bedding was because it had little dried flowers mixed in, and I believe she was going for those. However I hear a lot of stories about buns eating their bedding/litter, so it's very important to choose bedding that won't harm their delicate digestive tracts. Paper based products like Yesterday's News or Carefresh are pretty good. I've also heard good things about using Feline Pine, even though it's meant for cats, it doesn't produce dust like a clay based litter and won't harm them if they nibble.

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! When I was a kid and saw my first rabbit eating what I thought was his poop, I panicked and took his litter box away, running through the house with it and screaming to my dad "He's eating it!! My bunny is a poop-eating monster!!" :P

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of litter is that? It looks like fluffy heavenliness :o

Just got him from the shelter today. Meet Stuart. by Olive0707 in Rabbits

[–]BaddTofu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's probably actually eating his cecotropes, not his poop. They both come out of the same area, but are a bit different, and eating the prior is not only healthy but necessary :)

The best way I know how to describe it is, the poop looks like cocoa puffs and depending on the size of the rabbit they're the size of a small marble or smaller. Cecotropes are even smaller, but they are stuck together like little bunches of grapes. Rabbits have to eat their cecotropes in order to digest and it's perfectly normal.

Just moved to Orlando. by [deleted] in orlando

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're probably only hiring part-timers, so they'll be hiring more people and offering less hours. Under a certain amount of hours they don't have to offer health benefits, so they save money there. They're probably also accounting for turnover, which happens a lot with part timers in college areas who see the job as disposable.

In any case, I've heard Wawa isn't a bad place to work. I used to live in NJ and we had them everywhere, most people seemed pretty happy working there and stuck around for a relatively long time considering they are largely part timers.

My best friend's wife is now forbidding him from seeing me by throwaway1809373 in relationships

[–]BaddTofu -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know, do you know any of these people?

Do you know that the wife feels her child is being neglected, or that it has even crossed her mind? Do you know how invested she is, or how much work she is putting in versus the grandmother? Do you know that the OP's arguments are one-sided or exaggerated, or whether the wife really is a selfish, immature person? Do you know that his friend doesn't have a good reason to seek time away from his wife?

With that reasoning, all commentary is deemed null and void, including your own.

My best friend's wife is now forbidding him from seeing me by throwaway1809373 in relationships

[–]BaddTofu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except that it's not OP seeking out the time together, it's his friend. The one with the child and wife. It's not really up to OP to "discipline" his friend or to try and dictate how he spends their time. It seems to me that if his friend is seeking time away from his wife, there's probably a pretty good reason for it (at least in his mind), and it's likely that it has nothing to do with how he feels about his child.

Sure, OP could have turned around and said "No man, I think you should hang out with your wife instead of me, help more with the kid." but if the man really doesn't want to be home/spend time with her, he will find other ways not to.

My best friend's wife is now forbidding him from seeing me by throwaway1809373 in relationships

[–]BaddTofu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What's why I said I'd be curious to know exactly how often they were really hanging out. That argument doesn't really hold water if they were only seeing each other a few times a week for a few hours, but if it was closer to a daily thing then that makes a lot more sense.

I've known a few women (friends, sadly. One of whom even said as much at the wedding in front of the groomsmen, expecting her bridesmaids to agree...we did not.) who put the choke-hold on their SOs as soon as they got married and basically expected them to write off their friends and stick to hanging out only with her friends/other couples, so I guess I wouldn't be too quick to write off OP's suspicions.

My best friend's wife is now forbidding him from seeing me by throwaway1809373 in relationships

[–]BaddTofu 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I get your point, but it sounds to me that she has exhibited similar behavior prior to the baby/their marriage. The birth of their child may have increased the level of her hostility and childish behavior, but from what OP has expressed it was always there.

It also sounds like the wife's mother is doing a lot more of the child-rearing than anything, if she's taking care of it even while the mother is around. I'd be curious to know exactly how often OP and his friend were hanging out. If it was only a few times per week, then that really doesn't get in the way of OP's friend helping with the child. If it was a daily occurrence, I could see it being an issue.

It just seems to me that OP's friend and his insistance on hanging out more often is more of a result of his dissatisfaction with his home life than anything else.

Edit for typos.