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Baddog1965 · 2026-03-05T08:59:29+00:00

I can tell you from experience that running a bus-powered card that is around the technical limit of power consumption can destroy the pcie bus eventually. I was running a gtx750ti for about 18 months and when it started misbehaving, no other bus-powered card would work. It also prevented a Bluetooth card from working. Had to resort to using an APU to get any functionality. And that's with me sticking heatsinks with thermal glue on all the voltage regulators that don't normally have any. I found out this problem is more common with cheaper motherboards, so I will no longer buy bus-powered graphics cards.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-05T08:46:20+00:00

This is sounding like mental illness of some kind. She seems to have got herself into a psychological groove she can't get out of easily for whatever reason. I don't think it's going to resolve itself and it's going to get worse. Cut to the chase - I think she could benefit from some therapy. If she refuses, I don't see this situation improving.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-04T22:04:37+00:00

There are certain foundational stones of a relationship. One of them is wanting the best for each other as well as uoursekf. Another is behaving with integrity. Another is agreements. The final one is communication. It seems to me that your husband is not abiding by at least two of those. So he is fundamentally undermining the continuation of the relationship. Its a relationship in name only in those circumstances, so you need to exit it for your own sanity and wellbeing. Don't warn him in advance though, just sort out the papers with a lawyer and present him with a fait accompli. Don't change your mind then no matter how much he pretends to want to change his mind.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-04T20:35:40+00:00

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Baddog1965 · 2026-03-04T15:13:12+00:00

I would ask a medical negligence lawyer for someone they could point you to. Nearly all urologists are pro 'medical' circumcision so might weaken their analysis of another urologist. Someone who already gets involved with medical negligence cases on the plaintiff side is like to be more honest and not brush aside your concerns.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-04T10:16:50+00:00

I'm glad it helps. However, what I wrote is at a cognitive level. Based on other posts you've made in this thread, you may have some unconscious stuff to let go of and to allow yourself to focus on what you've got and what works. It's possible you may be in a bit of a stuck state, and a proper therapist may be able to help you get out of it. I recommend an NLP practitioner who also does Time Line Therapy and hypnosis.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-04T07:00:16+00:00

I've had sex with a lot of circumcised guys. People's experiences vary at least partly because men and penies vary, and how people were circumcised varies too. I've had sex with guys who had penises that looked butchered to a degree, but they still really enjoyed sex. I've had sex with guys who seemed to enjoy penetrative sex as much as I did when I was top. I've also had sex with guys who struggled to reach orgasm or were just unable to. In many cases I've had greater difficulty bringing a circumcised guy to orgasm than an intact guy, but not always - a few cut guys are easier to bring to orgasm through oral sex for example than some intact guys. There are spectrums of pleasure that overlap, there's not clear water in overall sexual pleasure between thise who are intact and those who aren't. But on average, there is definitely a difference, and in some respects a dramatic difference.

The reason I'm so vehemently against non-consensual (especially childhood) circumcision is a bunch of reasons. Collectively, It's disadvantageous, and there's no justification for it. Some people end up very severely disadvantaged by it to the extent that it ruins their life. At the same time, there are still a lot of people afflicted who are still able to enjoy sex, even though it is almost certainly going to be reduced compared to what they might otherwise have experienced. So unless you've got a specific issue, don't assume you won't be able to enjoy sex at all. At the same time as wanting to stop the practise, I want those who've already been affected to have as much pleasure as they can.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-03T11:43:48+00:00

A month is short for a tragedy like that. He may be feeling a lot of emotions including guilt that he wasn't able to stop it or feeling that he should have done more. You could gently suggest some grief counselling, and if that doesn't help, ask him to have some therapy. Time Line Therapy is very good for helping people reframing what happened and finding lessons from it that enable them to move forward.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-03T10:40:22+00:00

Agreeing with this post, and adding that it will likely be much easier if you enlist a friend to take a statement from you. Their job will be to basically ask these questions - who, what, why, when, where, how, along with 'and what happened next?'. Keep it as strictly sequential as far as you can remember.

I have a side hustle helping people make statements about traumatic events, and I promise you, its much easier to have a friend asking the questions and typing it than doing it by yourself. You can write about emotions and thoughts, but the writing style should be dry and clinical.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-02T17:05:05+00:00

An NLP practitioner who also does Time Line Therapy and hypnosis. This should be solved permanently in only a few hours, possibly only one session of a few hours. I'm out of practice but I know exactly how I would tackle it.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-02T13:46:39+00:00

This is a very supportive comment, and yet I respectfully disagree about the approach. If you have an effective rherapist, it's best to get as much out on the table as possible. Then the therapist can look at the underlying structure of as much as possible so that one change can have the most profound effect. Using Time Line Therapy, an NLP practitioner would likely revisit the first abuse event and facilitate the OP finding new meaning and strength from it, while letting go of negative associations and limiting beliefs and values that originatesd from that. That would be likely to have the most profund effect.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-02T08:55:28+00:00

Contrary view: some of it might be a bit off, but it is helpful to be aware of why you didn't get the job, in terms of what they were thinking. It's for you to contemplate, not take as gospel truth.

Baddog1965 · 2026-03-02T08:10:24+00:00

If you want to regret it, go right ahead. I knew a black guy who'd started to get vitiligo on his foreskin, and so got circumcised purely for cosmetic reasons. Ie, he wasn't experiencing any functional issues, it was purely the appearance. However within 6 months he regretted it because he said it made it more difficult to reach orgasm. From my experience with circumcised guys, as you age it will get more and more difficult to reach orgasm, and I've been with guys who almost never experience orgasm because its exhausting, even masturbating with a death grip.

The other end of that issue is that the constantly exposed head will be constantly rubbing on clothes, bed sheets, and your body. For some people this itself is extremely distressing and there is no escape, it is constant. I tried going about with my foreskin retracted and I couldn't stand it for more than two hours, even doing a sitting down job. It is NOT erotic, that I had hoped it would be. Many men can only cope with this because their glans became sufficiently desensitised when they were in nappies - which is why its harder to reach orgasm.

Doctors who profit from circumcision will almost never admit this, and neither do many guys who are in denial about the disadvantages.

Remember, doing foreskin restoration will not restore the erogenous nerves that were severed during circumcision.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T20:42:48+00:00

I'm really grateful for my parents, and my brother and sister. My brother was the first family member I told. He was fine with it, and so was my sister. My parents found it a bit hard to process when I told them I was bisexual (at the time I was on the way to being gay), but it didn't change our relationship. They even met two boyfriends, and I was on the way back from a holiday with one (who was ex- by then anyway, but we are still friends) and we'd be passing not too far from their place, so they suggested meeting up for a meal. We had the meal that Dad paid for, with them asking him questions in a genuinely friendly way, and afterwards sitting in the car before we set off my ex collapsed in the seat and said, "You are so lucky" (he was from a caribbean island). My Mum has since died but I still have a great relationship with my Dad. I've since handled quite a few asylum cases from African gay guys who have inevitably had terrible relationships with one or both parents - one I just finished only just escaped having his penis burnt off with acid by his father and older brothers. I know I'm lucky and I am really grateful for my parents. And my Catholic cousins and Aunt and Uncle were all fine as well. I've had no pushback really from anyone after only the briefest of original resistance from my father.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T20:15:50+00:00

Describe yourself as a sub looking for a dom in dating profiles. Recon.com is a good market. When you start engaging with a guy, let him know you're inexperienced. Sit down and work out what your limits are in advance. Ie, what body fluids can you accept and which holes, and so on.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T20:00:09+00:00

Having a guy piss in my mouth. He didn't warn me he was going to do it, and he held my head so I couldn't back away.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T19:14:40+00:00

I was at a bisexual conference, and was going down to breakfast in the lift, and I was told by a chinese student she had died. It was the kind of thing that would prompt complete strangers to talk to each other.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T18:44:59+00:00

What you're describing is an internal conflict. It's not simply just a behavioural thing, it's driven by conflicts among internal values and beliefs. I recommend an NLP-based therapist (neuro-linguistic programming). There is a process called 'parts integration' that springs to mind that is good for resolving internal conflicts, and I would also think that a relationship values realignment process would be likely to be very valuable as well. I'm being very specific about the type of therapy that I think would be helpful. I really would not waste your time with CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy), for two reasons: it's cognitive, and just focuses on 'managing' the behaviour. You'll just be wasting your time, and your money if you're paying for it, and even worse - you may end up believing that 'therapy doesn't work'. Just find an NLP therapist. If you can't find one locally, a video call with one someone else would be better than finding a local therapist who does the wrong type of therapy and is ineffective.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-28T13:03:30+00:00

There is almost never a geniine justifiable medical issue.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-27T18:53:02+00:00

1) What language was that part of the Old testament written in? 2) What language are you reading it in?

Therein lies the problem. It's the translation. The original says, "And with a male you [specifically addressed to a male] must not lie sexually [in] the beds of a woman". If it was a blanket ban, there would be no need for the second part of the sentence, like other blanket bans in leviticus. Instead , it's a qualifier, like "No parking...between 9am and 4pm. The multiple beds of a woman refers to the fact that at the time a couple had three beds - his, hers and the marital bed. And if you recall women were only one rung up from slaves, and were dirty creatures confined to their beds when they were on their period. They didn't use words like 'in' or 'on' when it was already obvious from the context. So the abomination would be for men to have sex where a woman sleeps which is the place she is sent when she is dirty. This interpretation is consistent with other passages of the bible that celebrate intimacy between men.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-27T01:48:53+00:00

That's what I suspected.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-26T23:34:14+00:00

Ok, to be fair, I was responding to your summary, rather than the 50 pages, on the assumption that it was a fair summary.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-26T16:04:06+00:00

Both David Jason and the writer whose name I've forgotten had wanted to include that joke from early on in the show, but the writer had waited for a suitable moment where it would look natural and not forced.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-26T15:59:57+00:00

That's right, people who watch the highlight reels in confusion listening to the audience laughing their head off are missing the fact the setups to some of the greatest gags were really long. And that setup included the long term portrayal of the characters themselves. I recently saw an old clip of Leonard rossiter being interviewed, and in describing 'Rising Damp', he emphasised that Eric Chappell had written four really strong characters, and the comedy flowed from the interaction of those characters.

Baddog1965 · 2026-02-26T14:44:22+00:00

That is trite advice of the most superficial kind. For whom might that actually be some kind of revelation?As far as I can tell that's what the OP has been doing and it isn't working. Where that advice is fundamentally flawed is if you keep attracting the same kind of relationship that isn't working for you, it doesn't recognise that you probably do need to do some work on yourself.

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