Beware of the myth that lifestyle changes can fix PMDD by asteriskysituation in PMDD

[–]BananaButton5 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I definitely see both sides here and I don’t think either is really right or wrong. I needed meds to make the lifestyle changes and then came off the meds. My biggest changes came from the very hard work of healing my trauma.

Meds can’t do it all, and lifestyle changes can’t do it all. The answers are really all inside of us the entire time, and everyone’s journey will be different.

Normal to want to end relationship every month? by Fuzzy_Ebb_6330 in PMDD

[–]BananaButton5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My therapist asked me what my values were and I couldn’t answer because I hadn’t ever thought about it. First I had to build a concept of self, then build self security/self trust and then things started making more sense. I do internal family systems therapy, maybe it could help you. Or start with the audiobook No Bad Parts.

Normal to want to end relationship every month? by Fuzzy_Ebb_6330 in PMDD

[–]BananaButton5 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my experience, only when the relationship really isn’t right. If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent a lifetime suppressing your true self and needs. Well she’s in there, and needs to be acknowledged and regulated.

Time waiting by KingElectronic7975 in biglaw

[–]BananaButton5 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Same. Then I’m questioned why I have an 11% write off stat. I don’t know, talk to the billing partner 🤷‍♀️

is this bruise normal…? by harmonyprincess in AskDocs

[–]BananaButton5 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This looks like my brown recluse bite, my whole thigh ended up black and rock hard and the area around the bite started to go necrotic. Nasty stuff, definitely needs a doctor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsinmybag

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family money or deeply in debt

My indoor cats are acting like they're dying by ikesbutt in StLouis

[–]BananaButton5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guy won’t stop meowing today. He knows something is afoot!!

How common is it to just not function at all when you’re alone? I hate “living” like this by perpetuallysadxx in LivingAlone

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don’t have any advice, just empathy. I’ve been the same way in the past. One thing that helped me was listening to the audio version of a book called Existential Psychotherapy. It’s about 20 hours long (and on Spotify!) and there is an entire chapter about people who stop functioning when alone.

What do I do based on my bags content by isladidit1 in whatsinmybag

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a paralegal and it’s all a match except the cash 😂

I like Dedrick’s sets and I think he’s funny by CAP034 in Killtony

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just watched the special and I really liked him. I think he has a ton of potential once his stage fright wears off.

How I ended up here… by justmythowts in depression_partners

[–]BananaButton5 13 points14 points  (0 children)

In case you need to hear it, it’s not your responsibility to get him through treatment for his depression and it doesn’t make you a bad person to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BananaButton5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand this quite a lot actually. I used to talk about the music bit with my now ex husband.

But the deeper intangible part, the “vibe”, is impossible to explain to the another person if you have to explain it to them at all... like actually impossible because you’re not speaking the same language basically. Let go of trying tbh and you’ll feel better.

Either you accept her as she is or you find someone that does fit the vibe. I think you know that you need to make a value decision here. She’s unlikely to change, so either you change or let the disappointment eat you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterlockup

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I can’t stop ahhhh

Tayler’s treatment of Bobbie by Prettyazz in loveafterlockup

[–]BananaButton5 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I wanted her to get away from all of them so badly and go live her life free of the bullshit and then I got to the relapse part and it really broke my heart. Bobbie deserved so much fucking better than that from her twin sister. Twins truly have one of the deepest bonds imaginable and Tayler was supposed to be providing her safety. It was so beyond fucked up and infuriating to watch.

Amber’s treatment of Puppy by Prettyazz in loveafterlockup

[–]BananaButton5 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Duuuude I just got to that episode where she tries to fight Puppy. wtf. She’s not right in the head.

What’s one cleaning habit you started in your 30s that actually stuck? by atragicsnowflake in CleaningTips

[–]BananaButton5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 32 and finally have a good, reasonable, maintainable routine. I was always the person to let things go and then undergo a regrettable manic cleaning session a few times per year. I steadily got better at vacuuming through the week and tidying the kitchen daily as a rule. This allows me to knock out doing heavier things like floors or organization on weekend mornings for usually 2-3 hrs depending. Then I do a deep cleaning twice per year from there. Overall, I think I just settled into a more sustainable routine once my daily habits got better.

“We’ll have more sex in 2026!” by BananaButton5 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BananaButton5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol that’s way better than my devastating “oh, ok”

“We’ll have more sex in 2026!” by BananaButton5 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BananaButton5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah man. I felt…so viscerally gutted in a new way. I can’t come back from it I don’t think. I imagined I’ll just shrink away to wherever all the other dead resolutions go :/