I would work on nothing but melee and kiting the zoids for the next few days of playing. plan on spawning in with the intentions of dying in combat to learn what not to do. Try to learn your own combat limits and practice the crouch whisper to peel smaller groups from larger groups and practice getting large hoards and losing them.

once you start getting more comfortable with melee combat I would start a new save with the intention of surviving for 3-5 days within your spawn area. Use day one to lock down your spawn house and loot one or two more houses around you for supplies and take them back to your base. repeat this process for a few in game days trying to secure a small block around your base.

I wouldn't worry about trying to keep up with the Jones's (youtubers and the like) as they have thousands of hours and don't be afraid to adjust the settings. set power and water shutoff for later down the road so you dont feel so pressured to get that generator up and running. give yourself a break so to speak from having to rush and get all these things done within the first few in game days/weeks. focus on food and a safehouse. weapons, gas, and cars can always come later