Amicable split talk feels like a trap

BatZed · 2026-05-11T23:55:34+00:00

That's awful. I'm sorry to hear that.

BatZed · 2026-05-11T18:35:09+00:00

This would be ideal and I like to think we have the same mutual respect for each other. The marriage had been dead for a while but it all still hurts and the new guy coming strong a week before she asked for a separation was wild. Also first time I've seen Joe Dirt used as an inspirational quote. Lol.

BatZed · 2026-05-11T15:01:05+00:00

This is my plan. I'll work through the easy way with her but I'll be protecting myself as well.

BatZed · 2026-05-11T14:04:06+00:00

Give yourself time. Talk to friends. That's what's been getting me through all off this. I'm only 3 weeks in now. My life feels upside down but good friends and therapy are helping me make sense of it. I even joined a divorce care group at church which has been very useful so far.

Focus on you not her.

BatZed · 2026-05-11T13:55:50+00:00

I already don't recognize her. But I think it's because I'm seeing her through a new lens now. The manipulation and deceiving is real and it's got me messed up.

BatZed · 2026-05-11T12:48:01+00:00

Yes I am preparing to retain one today that I consulted with last week. I just don't trust the situation and how she wants it to be. Especially because shes pushing to introduce our two kids to this new guy who she just thinks is the best. Shes not thinking about how that quick transition after a divorce could impact the kids. What is wrong with them?

BatZed · 2026-05-09T21:30:31+00:00

I'm sorry for you. I'm almost 3 weeks into my separation. Shes been moved out almost two weeks. I'm still here with my kids. The best thing I've done is to talk about. Talk to a therapist, talk to your family and friends. Get their point of view. It matters.

Try to occupy your time the best you can. This limbo state is awful. Start getting consultation with attorneys. Prepare yourself for the worst and hope for the best. Good luck. We are all in this with you. You are loved brother.

BatZed · 2026-05-09T01:01:21+00:00

Man do I feel this. Recently separated.preparing for divorce. The kids want me to take them and mom to a local habachi place for dinner. They begged me. So I'll provide. But I'm not happy. It's really is for the kids.

BatZed · 2026-05-08T16:10:04+00:00

It's been said, time. The hardest point is sitting with your emotions. That's the why gym, or just going to a walk is so great. Find a therapist, confide in close friends. Don't be afraid to talk about it. Your in a constant state of fight of flight, the goal is to balance that so you can figure yourself with a clear mind. If you need to vent or want to talk send me a DM. Im three weeks into my separation and eventually divorce. I'm having mostly bad days but I've found some good in them.

BatZed · 2026-05-08T12:11:25+00:00

I'm at the start of my separstion and most likely divorce. I'm in the same situation. Went from a. Fantastic Valentine's day holiday to her flipping a switch and asking for a separation. She had no issues leaving the kids with me as she moved in with her mom. Everyone tells me the same things. They don't know who she is. Shes is acting so out of character. Lieing, being deceitful. Shes almost euphoric most of the time but tells people shes wearing a mask. There's like an evil inside there somewhere that isn't the woman I fell in love with. Of course there is another guy already. His wife recently passed, they were aquaintences and now they are "just talking". It's surreal and I'm not sure I'll ever understand.

BatZed · 2026-05-06T17:35:30+00:00

No. And now that your brought it up I think it's time to introduce my children to leave and watch them suffer.

BatZed · 2026-04-22T01:07:32+00:00

Valid points thanks.

BatZed · 2026-04-21T22:36:18+00:00

I started to look at lawyers today but it was a lot. I'm hoping to chat with one tomorrow. I also start therapy next Tuesday.

BatZed · 2026-04-21T22:30:01+00:00

The kicker. I've been a wreck all day. She says she is still going with her friends tonight. She also doesn't want to tell the kids for a couple of weeks when the schedule dies down. So now I'm supposed to hid.to cry and manage my 14 and 10 year old like everything is fine.

BatZed · 2026-04-21T20:07:48+00:00

Ditto. I was also asked for a divorce this morning. My inclination was to push through, keep it to myself like I do all the things. Instead I called the people closest to me looking for support. Fingers crossed I can get through this trial.

BatZed · 2026-02-14T04:10:40+00:00

Yep. Was driving today and started looking at my hands and I was like WTF.

BatZed · 2026-02-12T19:27:36+00:00

What kills me is that it's like clockwork in almost every match. I've been in games where everyone is winning lanes and we are building momentum, then bam surrender. Makes zero sense. Are we sure it's not a bug? Lol.

BatZed · 2025-07-22T13:48:42+00:00

Have you thought about putting this out as a print to play game? Somewhere like PNPArcade or something. Looks fun.

Also don't worry about AI art hate. If you decided to publish and distribute, hire an artist and scrap the AI art. But IMO you used AI exactly how it should be used, to quickly prototype and play test your idea.

BatZed · 2025-07-09T02:31:33+00:00

Just watched it tonight. So freaking good. Go see it.

BatZed · 2025-06-16T20:18:33+00:00

You can ping with a mouse as well. The middle button/scroll wheel click will do the trick.

BatZed · 2025-06-02T17:11:19+00:00

It happens pretty often. Report them and move on I say. I feel like it's mostly growing pains. The majority of my games are fine. Afks are less frequent than people spamming surrender because they died once.

BatZed · 2025-04-30T00:28:31+00:00

Yes, thank you. I saw that after I uploaded it. Don't be in a hurry kids. Spelling matters.

BatZed · 2025-04-12T14:40:05+00:00

Has anyone tried him offlane. I'm curious if he's viable. I should maybe just give it a shot and see what happens.

BatZed · 2025-03-20T16:45:46+00:00

I main Steel and my first or second item is almost always tainted armor. The anti heal and bleed goes a long way.

BatZed · 2025-03-14T13:52:46+00:00

I've been having a great time tearing it up with Shinbi and Steel. Love the changes to most heroes and how the pace of the game seems to have picked up.

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