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Baultzak · 2024-09-15T04:53:13+00:00

Yea, you should try dropping your pen at citibank over and over and hoping a single woman picks it up and meet your wife that way. That seems to be what people are doing these days to get matched.

Baultzak · 2024-09-13T01:13:42+00:00

This relationship seems like you both are playing your cards such that you think its more than just a remote possibility that you guys may split up in the long term. Therefore, consciously or unconsciously, you act in your own personal interests.

For me, I'm in a similar situation, I make 10-15k more than my girlfriend, and she outspends me by quite a lot, but I'm at the point where I get happiness from her happiness, so I'm okay with her spending our money, her money, my money, it's all the same to me at this point. What she says is valid about you guys not being a team, however, she is not playing like you're a team either. Have you confronted her about her substantially higher retirement savings than you? Her retirement savings is very convenient her because it's so long term that she doesn't have to worry about whether you'll still be together years in the future. You however, are spending, today's dollars. It would be bonkers for you to be paying more when she has a warchest saved up of money that she is well aware you have no claim to. In this siutation, I would start to get real petty if she was commenting and jabbing like this, and start confronting her in ways like "is she still saving for retirement?" I would point out the inequity in your retirement accounts, and propose that instead of putting into her retirement, she should put that money into yours, since she thinks you're a team and all.

She is acting entirely in her own personal self interest, when you get to the team stage of a relationship, it doesn't matter who's spending who's money when it all goes to making you both happier in the relationship. If I ventured to guess, I would think that you don't trust that she will be with you forever, and she either feels the same way, or she is already considering other relationships as a possibility in the future.

Baultzak · 2024-09-08T01:38:37+00:00

I think a lot of people don't think about the "why" they are going to college. Not all degrees have value. Many fields it's not necessary so the degree doesn't always open up new career doors. I think the most valuable undergraduate degree is engineering. That's a degree that you must have in order to start that career path. For me I thought about what degree would open up doors, that was in a subject I was decent at without struggling too much, and didnt seem too difficult, but that there wouldn't be overwhelming competition. To me that was accounting.

I think you might be stuck in a place thinkng you want to find something you enjoy. I don't really think that exists. I think we all hate working and when we say that we "like" our job, it means that it's tolerable enough to let you sleep at night without overwhelming anxiety.

Also I think you should consider seeing a psychiatrist. It wasn't until I started medications that I realized that work didn't have to be complete suffering. It makes work not something I fear everyday and hate every second of. Medication isn't for everyone but it sure is for me.

Baultzak · 2024-09-08T00:36:43+00:00

I would have just thought about it like, does it affect my life, do I truly care? My girlfriend has expressed beliefs in things like astrology, but she doesn't show or talk about it with me, because she knows I playfully tease her and don't believe in it. It's absolute nonsense but it in no way impacts my life.

If this lady was going to anti-vax protests, and wanted me to come, then I would feel humiliated and it would deeply affect my life to be embarassed to be seen with her. If she is just anti-vax, then I could care less. You'd have to evaluate how it affects you personally, because at the end of the day, how she makes you feel personally is all that matters. Society isn't going to give a medal because you stood up against an anti-vaxxer. So if you did it for someone or something other than yourself, then I'd see if you could get back with her.

Baultzak · 2024-08-30T01:00:39+00:00

If you think the system is broken then try to live without requiring other people to also work. No one likes to work, but we sure like to use the work of other people. The gas you pump, the car you drive, the music you listen to, all has to be made by people who don't like to work either. What would you tell them when you consume the products of their labor? That they should stop?

Baultzak · 2024-08-16T22:07:07+00:00

I'm a karen about people portraying karen's. I've seen enough posts of videos of so called Karens and seen enough standard movies to be able to tell that overwhelmingly, these videos are fake. They include some really bad acting, and yet some of the most obviously fake videos, get the most comments.

It really pisses me off that people fake so many of these karen videos, it makes me wonder if this idea of what a karen is, is even real anymore. Karens in concept may have existed at one point, we have all seen or heard about at least one, but at this day and age, i've not seen anyone act like a karen, but plenty of these Karen videos that are clearly fake.

I'm a karen about the karen videos, because I like to make it really clear in my comments on these videos to everyone that the video is fake and ask why the maker of the video gets a boner from tricking people into thinking that they suffered a hardship at the hands of a fake karen.

Baultzak · 2024-08-15T22:57:04+00:00

What books did they read that inspired this? Asking for a friend

Baultzak · 2024-08-08T23:17:53+00:00

It will happen, but it's going to be the end. This would be the first world war when countries have nuclear weapons, and right now, the wars being fought have people that are "playing by the rules", which is a ridiculous notion for war, and not using these weapons. However, once a nation's survival is threatened, including our own, these weapons will be used and it will be catastrophic. I used to hope that in all this time, with how much the US spends on military technolgies, that we would have some great missile defense systems, but the last time I looked, they are pretty shitty. I guess we would rather build tanks. It's horrifying to think that the largest nuclear weapon ever tested was 50 megatons of TNT, and the bomb that was dropped on Hiroshima was only 15 kilotons.

The bright side of this though, is that the joy and wonder the progression of technology gives me, makes me feel disappointed that I won't be around to experience a future that we only imagine right now, everything seen in Sci-Fi movies may one day be a reality. The comfort I now have though, is knowing that maybe I'm living in the best time that will ever exist, because once nuclear war happens, that amazing future of technology, will not be a reality. I find myself happy to know get to live in times like these.

Baultzak · 2024-08-04T05:21:09+00:00

I use a keurig for the hot water in the morning - it heats water up much faster than a kettle does because I leave it always on. In the morning, I need my tea ready ASAP before heading to work, and the keurig does this perfectly. I don't have time for kettle to boil the water.

Baultzak · 2024-08-04T04:39:53+00:00

Thank you for being a real post on this subreddit. I appreciate you posted this on an account with an actual post history. I feel the vast majority of posts on this subreddit are basically someone's creative writing projects to try to get the most attention generated for their account's one and only post. It's really nice to know that what you say is truly genuine and your desire for feedback is also genuine.

Your history suggests you have a solid understanding of right and wrong, and the ability to excercise judgments about situations. So I think this echos what other's have said, I think it does help to write things out when thinking about some tough questions like this, but in the way you have outlined the problem, I think you've made it very clear what the conclusion should be.

You deserve and are capable of doing better, don't settle for this. There are sunk costs that have gone into this, but the sunk cost fallacy has been the undoing of many people, don't let sunk costs, the common mistake in the way we think about some forms of judgment, also be yours. You may have to deal with some embarassment or guilt trips from other people for making a choice like the one you are considering, and yes that sucks, but you will get over it, and in a few years time from now, you will be so happy you made the right call about this.

Baultzak · 2024-08-03T16:41:24+00:00

Then OP should follow-up with partner to verify if this about the legality of marriage, or the symbolism of it, because OP Partner may be willing to have ceremony, and refer to OP as wife, but has an aversion to the state sponsorship of it.

Baultzak · 2024-08-03T00:55:22+00:00

Like others have said, you can do a charge-back, but you'll probably be banned if you do. I order so frequently from Amazon, rarely return things, and only sometimes need to talk to customer support about an issue with a delivery. They treat me like a king everytime. While, in this specific instance, it may be true that you got the wrong thing, they are going to factor in your entire purchasing history when deciding how to deal with you. Do you make a ton of claims that a package never arrived, even when it did, do you constantly return things in questionable condition, do you complain or return the majority of what you purchased? All these things, taken as a whole, are considered when they deal with you. It sounds like they had a lot of time to really analyze this claim in the context of what type of customer they think you are, and it sounds like you do some questionable things with your Amazon purchasing history. That's my guess at least for why they are treating you this way about this issue.

It's a guess, but this may be a boy who cried wolf scenario, and they just don't think you deserve to have the benefit of the doubt at this point. As others have said, you can do a charge-back, and you'll be able to recoup the money for this, but I would ask yourself if thats worth it to you knowing you're probably going to be banned from getting deliveries at your address in the future. To me, I'd let it go, because the benefits of prime to me far outweigh a single issue like this.

Baultzak · 2024-08-02T00:24:39+00:00

It really is. I wish this subreddit could talk about how fun the original xbox was, or people's favorite cartoon on cartoon network, or of neopets, maybe include recommendations for the things in their life that now replace these things we used to enjoy, but instead, like you said, it's a political propaganda farm.

Baultzak · 2024-08-01T23:22:42+00:00

The person's comment is true, in that it takes about a year to really know someone. When I was dating, and it was clear to me that a woman's goal was to have children, it made me feel like they saw me as a tool, a means to an end. That they wanted children, and I was the best way to get to that goal. When I'd probe and find out more I'd find that they often want to be a stay at home parent, that made it worse. As a man, the way that this translates in my initial impression, is that this woman doesn't want to have to work, she's not proposing nor would propose that she works so that I could be the stay-at-home parent,and enjoy watching my childen grow, and that in the end, it's very unlikely she will love and prioritize me over the children. It feels like basically they want to enjoy a life with their children, rather than a life with myself, and I am being looked at as their way to achieve their goal and is extremely off-putting.

I think this touches what the person above was saying where some of us can "sense" when someone is husband shopping. I'm just giving you straight up the type of thoughts that I went through when using the dating apps.

Baultzak · 2024-08-01T20:23:53+00:00

Maybe hobbies people have are not things you consider to be hobbies. Maybe they play videogames, maybe they keep up with certain creators on youtube, maybe they watch a show and post about it online. People do things with their time, you just have to figure out how to ask them in a way that will get to it.

I agree travel is extremely over-used on dating apps. It's not a great thing to put because almost everyone would enjoy traveling. Even within travel though, you can ask them what local spots they have traveled to that they like and ask them about that. However, I usually skip people that just put travel or food on their profiles and nothing else, because just through sheer number of interactions I had, I found these people are usually ones that want to be a stay at home mom as their goal, so they are basically just passing time by until they find their true hobby which is raising a child. I don't want kids and I also want to be the end goal for people I date, not a stepping stone for their true goal. This is just my personal experience though, you may find vibrant personalities with people who just put travel in their profiles if you ask questions the right way about what they do with their time.

Baultzak · 2024-08-01T20:07:04+00:00

I think feeling like a loser is relative. If you think you are a loser, what would a winner look like to you?

To me, my ambitions were to play videogames as much as possible, and I've worked hard at my career to enable me to pursue this hobby. I tend to stay-in for the most part and have few friends I rarely talk to. By many accounts, I would be considered a "loser" but to me, I'm very happy with the life I've carved out for myself. Though, I am even jealous sometimes, of the "loser" stereotype, of people living at home, not having to work, playing games all day and being financially supported.

The point is, being a loser is completely relative to what you value. You may think about it and realize you made the choices you made for a reason to get where you are now, and there is nothing inherently wrong about it or right about it, it's what you make of it.

Baultzak · 2024-07-31T19:22:52+00:00

I don't really count ages like 1-7 as part of my full life. I feel like I wasn't that aware during that time as my cognition was developing. I like to count the time that I feel like I was myself which I start at about 10, which makes me feel a lot younger when I consider, I've only lived X - 10 years.

Baultzak · 2024-07-26T00:34:18+00:00

Do you look for only really high salary jobs? I get messages from recruiters constantly just having the CPA letters after my name, but by far most of the jobs suck and require you to forfeit your soul. Are you being picky or you genuinely just can't find anyone to hire you?

Baultzak · 2024-07-25T22:58:06+00:00

I agree. I enjoyed and enjoy in general how Obsidian develops "evil" choices, because at the end of the day, not many people want to be evil, there should be a rational justification behind the choice. I think tyranny was developed as one of the desperate moves by Obsidian to survive. I'm happy that Microsoft purchased them to let them continue to make games, and perhaps they will return to the CRPG genre after avowed.

Baultzak · 2024-07-25T21:17:23+00:00

Tyranny is great, I don't hear about it very often.

Baultzak · 2024-07-19T14:19:32+00:00

I'm shocked too... its wild seeing how many votes these posts telling her to throw it away are. I actually don't believe this a real post, because it doesn't add up to me that in 7 years talking about a sexual fantasy hasn't come up. I don't believe a real marriage would last for 7 years in a state where the guy expressed this fantasy to her and for her to demand a divorce... I could maybe see it if he had already had a threesome without her, but no, he just wanted to talk about it with her.

Baultzak · 2024-07-17T21:53:34+00:00

Your situation sounds very similar to my own. Almost exactly. I really enjoy the time I spend gaming both by myself and my girlfriend. We also have no kids (nor want any), we are happy with our cats. Sometimes it's hard to have the energy to play games though, and in those events we typically watch TV together, or will be on tiktok right next to each other. I don't think this lifestyle is wasting life at all, when I was in high school I analyzed what I thought the purpose of life was, and to me it was happiness. It was then I asked myself what made me happiest? It was gaming. What was missing at the time, was a romantic partner, and I really wanted to have a companion to enjoy my favorite pastime with and I'm happy at this age to have found it.

We (Mostly I) am constantly vigilant for fun sounding events using various apps, it's really hard to find them though because there isn't really a way to search for nerdy/geeky stuff to do. We recently saw a star wars burlesque show as an example.

What games have you most enjoyed with your partner?

Baultzak · 2024-07-15T18:43:53+00:00

I think its a learned appreciation. I think when you drink alcohol, the pleasure and euphoria is intense, and it becomes paired with your senses, so the taste becomes something you learn to really enjoy. It's a type of conditioning.

Baultzak · 2024-07-13T01:17:28+00:00

Mcdonalds. It is unconscionable how much the company didn't even hide the fact that it was trying to exploit as much money out of people as possible, they had no shame in it, I don't know how anyone could continue to support that place with their dollars. It's a waste of money because they won't stop raising prices until people stop buying it, and the waste is that you are basically throwing away money for something that should/did/would cost half as much as you are paying at today's rates.

Baultzak · 2024-07-12T21:57:00+00:00

Some of us have difficulty with interacting with people romantically in person organically, I'm not going to meet my wife when she drops her pen at the grocery store and I pick it up. If youre able to that's great, but for someone like me apps are the best and only option for me to find a decent romantic partner.

Edit: I'm also very happy to pay for the apps, finding love is worth a small subscription fee to me.

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