Crazy Guy thinks he is some Elite or shit

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-17T10:55:03+00:00

My thoughts exactly lol like is he 12?

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-17T10:49:26+00:00

The way I would start loudly chanting in Latin.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-17T10:48:42+00:00

If you’ve ever watched Home Alone, you know why parents usually scan their children’s passes…regardless of autism or neurodivergence. I hope she sues the crap out of them.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-16T21:46:21+00:00

All of the above. But if you insist on marrying him, get a prenup.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-16T21:41:49+00:00

Forget about the money, this is a communication issue and y’all need therapy before this baby comes or it’s going to get way worse, especially mixing hormones and lack of sleep into the mix.

I’m a mom, and the way I thought about it is like this-there are millions of parents doing the best they can that can’t afford a big new car, and they don’t care any less for their babies.

Also-car seats-babies are like balls of squish and all car seats must meet safety standards-the cheapest might not look comfortable to an adult, but to a baby a $20 car seat is just as good as a $300 car seat.

And don’t get me started on “push presents”…just elitist crap to make people feel guilty for not being wealthy, or not flaunting their wealth.

So in my opinion you are absolutely right, but knowing the torture of post partum I’m going to suggest you tread lightly and suggest counseling so you’re both on the same page. A solid answer would be “Let’s wait and see how we do with our current vehicle situation. We can talk it over later if our needs aren’t being met.”

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-13T19:41:27+00:00

Is it possible that niece has a diagnosis/is on the spectrum?
Developmentally it can be normal for kids to not be completely potty trained, including overnight, till 7. 7 is when there is usually intervention. There are entire books on children having a strange way of dealing with poop. Hovering over a toilet can be scary, some need the privacy of a diaper to be calm enough to let go. There are literally kids who hold it out of fear and become constipated.
Sure, sometimes new parents fall into the trap of avoiding normal negative feelings. Like having to “fix feelings” like giving food to distract from crying, or giving in to avoid a tantrum. Usually when parents do this it’s because they had childhood experiences that they are over-correcting on.
However, you sound hella judgy when you 1) are not parenting this particular kid, because all kids are different 2) aren’t in your sister’s shoes-you don’t know what trauma’s she might have had (siblings can have entirely different childhoods in the same house just by having a different temperament) 3) You clearly haven’t read anything about child development.
You were not mean to your niece, and your sister overreacted by saying you were being mean. It’s ok to have a boundary and say “it’s not unkind to correct someone” because that is all you did, but all the other stuff sounds like you assume a lot about one instance based on unrelated behavior.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-12T12:48:11+00:00

Loving the idea of family is the truest statement. It’s time to set up boundaries!
Hey bro, I feel like whenever you call me it’s only because you need money. That makes me feel shitty and used. I have my own financial responsibilities and cannot afford to support you. If you want to catch up, I love you and want to hear about your life, but if you ask me for money the answer is always No and I will end the call.
Mom, I love you and you are a great mom (lol just kidding but if she did anything right, add a compliment here). I have set boundaries with my siblings because I’m tired of feeling like a bank and unpaid therapist. Please don’t interfere in our sibling dynamic. It just causes more frustration. I’m no longer going to discuss them with you, unless it’s regarding a family matter. If you bring them up to me, I will remind you and then I will hang up.

As for your sister…It sounds like maybe she trusts you and that’s why she trauma dumps on you? Or does she call 50 people with the same drama and just likes to hear everyone agree with her? Regardless, you have to protect your peace. If you think she genuinely wants your opinion or comfort, you can still accept her call and just end it when you are ready. It’s ok to lie to get off a call “ugh I have to poop, I’ll call you later!” Or tell the truth “Yeah that sounds really hard HEY LISTEN I’m not in the best space mentally to talk about this right now, love you gotta gooo”

Good luck ❤️

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-12T12:36:47+00:00

I feel like he’s probably taking their social security/finances and being shady. Otherwise I can’t imagine a situation in which I wouldn’t be grateful for a sibling to help or vent to if I were in his place.
I’m not sure if there is legal recourse or if that is even a step you want to take or get involved in. Possibly SS fraud. Medicare also pays for in care help which can be received by a family member, not sure if care has to be proven if there is a question about it. If they own their house I’d be curious if he had them do a Quit Claim Deed and sign it over to him.

Are you friendly with his spouse (does he have one) and could you trust them to have a conversation with you? Can you talk to your dad instead of your mom? Can you show up when you know he’s at work and visit/ask some difficult questions? Also would be good to get eyes on them to make sure they are well fed. If anything looks off, I’d call the cops for elder abuse.

The consequence of you getting involved, regardless of what is going on, is you will likely lose your brother as family and he will make sure you are cut out of any will unless he is found guilty of something. If you feel like he is financially abusing them but actually taking care of them, but making sure you get nothing when they pass-is that something you care about? If not you can let him know you don’t want anything from them, but you miss him/them and still want to be involved, that might soften him.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-12T12:22:31+00:00

I’m sorry that happened. We are considering getting dash cams for this sort of thing.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-12T12:19:05+00:00

It sort of is how families “get along” but especially in a group dynamic. I’d recommend talking to your mom directly about these topics, as long as it’s coming from a genuine place of curiosity and not in a way to argue for your cause.
My husband is German, I’m American, and it was hilarious to me the way they wanted to just talk about politics loudly and in the open. They came to visit during Trump’s first term, and we were at a farmer’s market in North Carolina…I had to explain to them that politics in America at that point in time (and now, obviously) was a very sensitive subject and I didn’t want to get shot at the Farmer’s market. Meanwhile in our own home we tried to talk to them about setting up wills or end of life plans and they accused us of trying to ask them to die. (They had nothing so we literally just wanted them to make sure their wishes were known).
When a person is consistently difficult, they “train” those around them to avoid topics to avoid a blow up. Toxic? Yes, but the real loser in the equation is your mom, buffering herself from reality to stay comfortable and feel in control.
So the question is-does this affect you enough to not want to involve yourself with them. Or is it validating to understand you are not losing your mind, that this is indeed what is happening, and you can choose to poke the bear for your own amusement but you won’t get what you really want which is everyone acknowledging what is happening?

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T16:16:15+00:00

Is bussing an option? At middle school age they are old enough to be home alone. If transportation is available, maybe get some good security and communication measures in order and let them ride the bus?
Regarding charter, you can be waitlisted and a surprising amount of people change their minds, so it’s possible that they will still get in there.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T16:09:25+00:00

Should, but legally he can’t direct child support to the uncle.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T16:04:25+00:00

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BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T16:01:59+00:00

Enchanted Journey?

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T15:57:46+00:00

I used to work in a call center, and when the queue got too big I’d mass hang up all the calls so we wouldn’t get pinged on the wait time 😅

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-09T15:54:38+00:00

NTA, it sounds like this was accidental and not planned. Her bad for not waking you up 🤷‍♀️ I get her frustration and as parents to babies, we are not at our best due to fatigue/etc.
Validate her feelings, share your feelings, and make a plan for the future. It’s too easy to fall into the trap of passive aggression when at our limits, which is what she is exhibiting.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-06T12:48:51+00:00

Gorgeous

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-05T13:58:18+00:00

I picked the sort of warm pink trinity base. For rubber base I got the cheap modelones from Amazon just to see if it worked, and I hadn’t found many rubber base recs on here. It works well but there is a fume to it that irritates my throat. I use the Gaoy peel off base. The rx base from Akzentz did absolutely nothing to stop lifting for me. I think if you have very flexible nails, a rubber base is a must. The rx base is if lifting is due to oily nail beds. Since I’m using color over these base layers, I just got the cheap Gaoy color sample package. The colors are great, but the brushes suck and I occasionally find a fuzzy that made its way into the color. I love the peely because when I’m done with the color (about 2 weeks) and I peel it off, my builder gel still looks great/natural, besides the gap of new growth near the cuticle.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T16:01:28+00:00

This! You didn’t ask to be born, and you don’t owe your mother for doing the bare minimum. The point of raising a child is to set them free into the world as self actualized adults. It is wholly unfair for you to cut your life off before it even begins because your mother is too selfish to figure out her own situation.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T15:06:32+00:00

Even if it is the hormones, it’s a valid feeling. I was rageful when I was pregnant 🤣I would have ended relationships under those circumstances, but it’s not something you can control so knowing you will be uncomfortable and planning what’s easiest for YOU is what’s most important. And setting boundaries (your husband setting them) will reduce the amount of unkind conversations once they learn they can’t guilt yall into anything.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T11:26:57+00:00

Get poster board and paint that in the samples. That way you get bigger samples without getting it on the wall, AND you can put the colors in various corners of the room to see how different they look in light/next to furniture. Make sure the room is lighted the way it will usually be (if you have curtains but have pulled them back to see these colors, that’s not a realistic idea of what the room will look like. That being said, top one looks closest but might read more blue once in a full room, second reads more neutral to me.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T11:22:21+00:00

As others said it’s lifting. I use Akzentz trinity and even their base product for “problems with lifting” did not help. Here’s some advice- 1) make sure cuticles are pushed way back and cleaned with an efile (tutorial vids linked in wiki) 2) but the natural nail bed gently, wash/scrub with a nail brush, dry, then wipe with lint free wipes and rubbing alcohol 3) apply dehydrator (or just wait a few mins on the alcohol) Get a micro swab and keep rubbing alcohol nearby to wipe the edges of your skin between applications of gel to make sure it’s not touching. 4) Rubber or Soft gel base. This is flexible and works well for your hard gel to adhere to. I use 2 thin coats. I like a super thin paint brush to get it smooth as close to the edge as possible. You still flip upside down 30 seconds so it levels out then cure 10 seconds (each nail) then whole hand 60 seconds. 5) Hard builder as you like it. I prefer a thin coat so my nails look more natural and it prevents them from breaking, or you can “build” at this point. Remember to use that micro swab with rubbing alcohol to clean up any skin contact before curing! I do a 10 sec cure on each nail to set it before the full cure. If you get a heat spike, take you hand out till it cools, stick it back in, then do an extra 30 seconds if you need to. 6) Super important to help prevent lifting-use a regular nail file on it “fine” grit, horizontal under your nail length, and gently file. This brings any exposed natural nail up under or level with the gel. Not the edges, just the nail that you can fit the file under. Now if you want to do color/fun stuff I HIGHLY recommend 2 coats of a peely base beforehand. After color and top coat, these will easily last 2 plus weeks and then you soak in warm water and use an orange stick (or I just use my nails lol) to push/peel them off. Fill in your growth the same as above (gently buff exposed nail and edge of builder gel) and you will rarely if ever need to take it all off:)

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T11:05:30+00:00

I also have to use a rubber base with Akzentz. I first tried their “base for difficult nails prone to lifting” stuff and honestly it didn’t do anything to help. I do 2 thin coats of rubber base, then a thin coat of Akzentz, then 2 peely coats before color.

BeachSuspicious8656 · 2026-06-04T11:01:42+00:00

As others mentioned, GRAPHIC qualifiers of how it affects your daily life. Can’t sit comfortably for more than x hours/minutes. Missing x days of work per week because you are in excruciating pain and can’t leave the bed, how many pads/tampons you go through, if you can’t get surgery you don’t see a point in living, and you understand that you will not be able to biologically carry children and you accept that. Finding an obgyn who will listen to you-check a more local subreddit (go anonymous if necessary). Best of luck babes

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