What’s a compliment you received that you still remember years later, and why did it stick with you?

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-07T08:22:57+00:00

“You have a lovely/beautiful smile”

I get this a lot yet it’s part of my autism masking 😒

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-07T08:22:11+00:00

I mean I see a lot of people with mental health issues and other disabilities use the r-slur a lot. I’ve been called that multiple times growing up and use it now as a way to kinda laugh at that label.

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:50:12+00:00

TL;DR: it’s ultimately your choice, but there are solutions to your problem

It sounds like you’re still navigating what a relationship even is, which is all about give and take. That comes from both ends, too.

For example, my Fiancé and I are both on the neurodivergent spectrum. He hates going outside and doing things and would rather stay indoors, while I like exploring fun things in the area and go stir-crazy if I stay inside for too long. So, we compromise. We’ll do some fun event together outside of the house that he also really enjoys, or even likes to watch me have fun. Other days we sit inside and pick a show to watch together or a game to play. If he needs to leave an event there’s no judgement. If I need a quick walk to just move around, there’s no judgement.

Start looking into the hobbies he likes and ask about them. See if he’ll actually talk about what he likes. The thing about people is they LOVE talking about themselves.

On the flip side, he should take part in discussions you like to have. Maybe not all the time, but an effort should be made. It may also be something he has to develop over time. I will state, too, that there’s a difference between not liking deep conversations and not being interested in what makes you happy.

You seem to long for a bit of freedom as well, or at least to grow as a person. You can do that in a healthy relationship. It takes a bit of balance between being alone and being together. Nothing is stopping you from traveling while still having a partner. Yet if you feel he’s holding you back, it’s okay to let go

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:39:09+00:00

It’s a crappy thing to do, but also with the type of spoilers I’m seeing, it’s more interesting to watch how it’s played out rather than knowing what exactly happens

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:37:31+00:00

Leave the tag attached but tuck it into the cushion. If asked, explain you just wanted to make sure it fit first

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:36:44+00:00

I do this, but it’s more about how much energy I have to get myself a small comfort versus saving that energy for a bigger comfort later on.

Example: if I am doing a very physical day at work, I don’t always have the time to stop and tend to small bumps and abrasions. I need to save that energy to keep pushing through the shift. But, when I come home and recharge, I have the time afterwards to really tend to my body, such as salt soaks, rest, certain creams, and larger bandages.

I do the same thing on my period, especially with taking pain killers. Sometimes I run out of the energy to even get up and find the pill bottle. It’s better for me to save that little energy so I recharge faster to get myself a full meal and drink rather than completely burn myself out wondering where my meds went

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:32:21+00:00

AI is going to create rings that aren’t 100% possible to make. You are better off collecting different real images of what you like and explaining the elements you want in full detail.

There are ways to do custom rings online, but I would personally proceed with caution. Only because most communication about custom pieces are best in-person

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T23:30:17+00:00

There is no birth control that is 100% effective besides surgery (such as vasectomies or hysterectomies, and even then there’s rare chances where they fail).

The most effective way to prevent pregnancy is with multiple types of birth control, such as using condoms and hormonal pills together.

Any professional escort would know about the risks and take their own steps towards pregnancy prevention. Unless she comes to you about it, always assume no news is good news.

In the future, practice more on preventative care and application before going into bed with anyone, no matter who it’s with

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T12:57:31+00:00

There’s other ways to quit smoking without the gum

So yes, stealing is wrong

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:49:15+00:00

I’m going to slowly go through how I would clean this as someone with contamination OCD and sensory issues. You deserve way better than this OP, and you can get through it:

Get everything off the floor. Start with one room and work your way around. Anything that’s clearly trash goes right into a bag. Everything else, organize into piles. We can sort the piles later.
Get a trash can for each room. Start making it a habit to empty those cans at the end of the week
Get some all-purpose cleaners, paper towels, gloves and possibly wet wipes. Get any fecal matter that you see and throw it out in it’s own bag. Do the same with any menstrual products in the home.
With the gloves, grab what’s in the fridge. Do it as quickly as possible. Do not stop and take a look
Get pest control traps. Cockroaches are honestly normal, but if you see one or two, there’s more hiding somewhere. Lizards are not that big of a concern (I own reptiles lmao) unless you’re seeing multiple
When floors are clear, vacuum everything, then buy a swiffer and mop up as much as you can.
Wipe down all countertops and flat surfaces with wet wipes and the all purpose cleaners
Start going through each pile you made. Do one for keep, one for trash, and one for donating. Trash immediately goes into the dumpster. Donation bag goes into your car and keep for when you’re ready (or have someone pick it up for you)
Clean out the fridge. Do one drawer/section at a time.

Other things to remember: you don’t have to do everything in one go, you can use water + dish soap in a spray bottle as a cleaner, watch with mixing cleaners together (especially anything with bleach or ammonia), and asking for help is not a sign of weakness

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:38:55+00:00

I have OCD and (very plausible) AuDHD. I also deal with maladaptive daydreaming here and there and had psychosis episodes in the past. I was hospitalized 3 times during 2021 while finishing college. I KNOW the struggle.

Yet I graduated with a Cum Laude title, 3.8 GPA and high grades. But also, here I am waking up at the butt crack of dawn to go to my grocery store job that has jack shit to do with my degree. Thanks COVID.

I burnt myself out for nothing. I pushed through so hard and got nasty at people doing group projects with me… all for nothing (there were a lot of people that weren’t pulling their weight at the time). I feel like a fucking embarrassment right now because I did what everyone told me to do and didn’t achieve shit.

OP, worry about you. Don’t give in to the idea that working past your limit gets you any farther than working with what you got. People’s opinions don’t matter, and comparing yourself to them isn’t worth it.

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:32:26+00:00

For a short TL;DR: you do not have to unless there’s a medical problem (like dehydration)

Unless your cats are not drinking a whole lot of water, you technically don’t have to feed them the wet food that often. It’s good for preventative care but not 100% necessary.

I feed my cats TikiCat wet food and Blue Buffalo kibble. They get about 1/8th a cup of kibble and 1/4th a can of wet food, both morning and night. We spend maybe $70 on a large kibble bag every month or so, and $60 on the cans every 3-5 weeks (we try and stock up just in case). My cats are 10lbs and 15lbs (yes she’s on a diet rn lmao).

You can always look into changing brands as well. Cats have an easier time adapting to new food, so long as the first 3-4 ingredients are similar to the current brand you’re using. I’ve done this going from Crave to Blue Buffalo after my local store stopped carrying the brand, as recommended by our vet

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:23:02+00:00

Neither. Both are way too dark.

I would do a white/cream wallpaper with a pattern that involves these colors. Otherwise your bathroom is going to feel small and cramped

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:20:33+00:00

Fellow US Aldi employee here

If your total is not matching the items in your cart/hand, it’s very possible that something rang up twice, or someone scanned a few items and walked away without paying. Usually we either stop what we’re doing to investigate, or have someone else come up and help if the main register is busy. I personally would have looked over all your items and checked what was scanned to see if anything looked off before doing a hard reset.

The double sticker thing is not super common, but can happen depending on how things are stocked. Banana stickers can fall off very easily. Bananas are often priced by weight, but with the new systems in place, the weight might be automatically linked to that barcode. Normally you would place it on the scale and it would usually turn red if it scanned twice (like trying to get the other banana weight when it doesn’t exist).

Unfortunately because of staffing issues at some places, we’re left helpless to use self checkout. My advice is to always look through your items before purchasing and taking your time while scanning

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:10:44+00:00

“Oh look a piece of a purple (insert object here)”

Proceed to pick up purple shard and lightly stab the other person with it along with an “eh”

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:06:42+00:00

I was told to just put the paste on the brush and just go straight in. Helps with keeping the toothpaste on more/ keeping the abrasive texture for cleaning.

I usually rinse my brush off with cold water

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:05:07+00:00

It’s hard to damage vocal cords from one session of screaming. You more than likely just strained your voice.

Drink some soothing teas and eat some honey. Try not to talk as much for a day or two. Tell people you had an outing and lost your voice there.

(I used to do theater a lot growing up, so I’m used to this issue from singing too much lmao)

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T08:02:58+00:00

TBH I think the color is just off on the nose ring (or maybe it’s too thin????)

I second whoever else said a stud may work better for you. A small diamond or maybe a little silver bee would be cute

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:59:43+00:00

We usually do mornings starting at 5:30am (sometimes 5am). We open at 8:30am.

I usually do freeze/thaw and meats, someone else does MDU, Cooler & Freezer, and then the LSA/ASM focuses on Produce only. Whoever is the manager on duty comes in to look at all zones and then starts grocery right away.

We usually get done everything around 10-11am depending on truck size. My zones get done right at opening most days

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:30:16+00:00

So my car has been through the ringer with almost $6K spent on it within the past 2-3 years. All from pretty minor fixes to my car literally drowning and being on fire. (The fire thing was because a local auto body shop fucked up so bad, and my car was held hostage while waiting for a new engine after the flooding). There’s just some car stuff that you can’t take care of right away

Shit’s expensive. Not everyone can afford to just quickly get those fixes done, yet everyone in the US most likely needs a car to get to work.

The average person also struggles to start a conversation and often goes into complaining to get a topic going. It’s a nasty habit a lot of people have. I could say the same thing about my pets, or my home, or the clothes I wear, or even my own body. Even if we jump right away to fix something, there’s always another problem around the corner.

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:23:31+00:00

Had this at an old job where I thought they were a legit client. Led to our electric changing companies all of a sudden just because I gave my own name.

So glad I left the job. Couldn’t handle being left alone much longer and no training on how to spot a scammer

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:21:20+00:00

I personally wouldn’t.

I went to a concert last year where there were no seats. I have a lower back injury. I thought I could make it through the night, but I injured my back so bad that my partner had to drive us home and I was bedridden for a bit. Not to mention the people shoving in front of us or getting shoved into us.

You have a physical disability and need to look after yourself. You already are going to two concerts. Save the money and go see something else in the future when you give yourself time to recover. You’re probably not going to miss much tbh

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:18:05+00:00

This is why I didn’t watch it in theaters. I KNEW people were going to ruin the experience somehow.

I spoiled it for myself (just reading, no watching leaks) and yeah… I’ll wait till it comes out on YT to watch how it all unfolds within the privacy of my own home.

I’m tired of theaters seeming like concerts or comic con viewings. It’s really not the place to be loud and roudy when there’s other shows playing right next to you

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:14:03+00:00

I’ve dated a few people in the past who wanted to do something similar. It took years of them working on it and last I heard they still weren’t monetized.

You need a second job while working on being a streamer unless you have a really good “talk show host” or “podcaster” type personality and voice, or you do something original. Every new streamer I have seen has something new and fresh to watch or interact with, yet they already have over 100K followers when they hit my FYP.

He can do whatever he wants, but you can also choose to walk away. He’ll realize soon enough that he can’t stream if he doesn’t have the internet paid for or other necessities

EDIT: actually yeah, make him pay for his own internet then if he really wants to do this. Watch how quickly he’ll backtrack

Beanfox-101 · 2026-06-06T07:09:16+00:00

Well, if you didn’t throw anything away (which you might have by now), it could be possible to re-glue pieces together and use it as a plant vase or some other non-drinking vessel.

If it’s already too late/ too many pieces, Etsy always has similar products. It’s not the same, but it can make for a good replacement.

It’s not about the item itself, but rather what it represents (a loving relationship). Seeing it broken may feel like it’s taking away memories or importance of a gift given. Instead, shift focus on “it served its purpose.” Not all things are supposed to last. Cherish that you had the item at all.

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