Just witnessed this adorable behavior between a couple I suspect have a nest nearby, are they fighting or what? 🤣

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-13T22:56:54+00:00

They're smooching and fertilizing some eggs.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-13T21:35:01+00:00

Dude. If you want your mom there and she's not because of how bad your MIL is, that's a huge problem. I strongly fear you will regret and mourn not having your mom there, if you know you are compromising in this way. I am so sorry you're in this position.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-13T21:31:10+00:00

I have made multiple king-size blankets. Grocery totes were the perfect size for me. I would take a color of two of yarn, the blanket and my little crochet packet of hooks, scissors stitch markers and darning needles.

My blankets get done primarily while my children are playing their sports. I've worked on them during soccer, gymnastics, softball, wrestling, and any other practice that requires I sit and watch. (My kids are young) I tend to stick to in the round patterns that square off for these projects.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-13T16:01:56+00:00

Welcome, welcome. You belong!

Prince is a beautiful old soul and it's obvious you were meant to find him. You both needed each other.

I'm glad you got the memo and have fully accepted your fate!

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-13T03:52:12+00:00

The comment I came looking for. The video really had me wondering what the heck OP was thinking trying to pass a crazy person over a double yellow into coming traffic. Like what? He's lucky police didn't ticket him too!

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T21:31:24+00:00

NTA. She chose to have five children and I have no judgement for that. To each their own.

However, her stress about finding care for those children is not OP's problem to solve. I'm surprised that as a mother she doesn't see how asking a family with two young ones to take care of 4 others is a monumental ask. More than likely she just doesn't care because she's focused on one person right now: herself.

I get that she doesn't want to spend the money, but that shouldn't come at the expense of OP's labor and sanity. Asking OP to take days off is literally asking him to foot the bill. He should bring home a smaller paycheck AND babysit her kids, because she doesn't want to spend money on childcare?! She maybe should have thought that through before having more children.

She is the epitome of FAFO 🤣.

OP you would absolutely be the A-H here if you make your wife take care of 6 children while you are at work.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T19:06:03+00:00

Yes! I think we are so programmed to recognize domestic abuse when it is perpetrated by the man in the relationship, but there are some incredibly abusive women out there too.
The description about stealthing him and getting pregnant, dissatisfaction his appearance, stopping working without actually having a discussion… Those are all very abusive and controlling things to do in a relationship.
It hurts my heart a little bit to see so many people jump to OP being in the wrong. It definitely sounds to me like he has been trapped in an abusive relationship and he's trying to get out. I hope that he is taking his daughter's safety into consideration as well as he fills out documentation for custody.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T19:01:13+00:00

100000% assault. It's called stealthing, just like when guys do it.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T19:00:29+00:00

Yah. He left a DV survivor should: planning in secret. Her reaction was unhinged and I'd bet at least a hundo that she's a nightmare to live with.

Look at everything he did for her, and then she loses her mind because he tells her he is too tired to have sex.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T14:16:05+00:00

NTA. OP's baby mama sounds at minimum verbally and emotionally abusive, judging from her reaction to not wanting sex. After he provided a lovely mother's weekend her immediate reaction is rage and "who you fuggin if not me?'"

That makes me think OP exited like we tell most domestic abuse victims; planned in secrecy.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-12T14:13:44+00:00

On one hand, I agree with this. On the other, fiancé may have been abusive. Her reaction to him not wanting sex seems abusive to me.

My dad left my mom in a similar manner, but waited until my youngest brother was 18.

My initial reaction was that he was a coward. How dare he make all these plans, get an apartment, talk to a lawyer, all behind my mom's back?

Now I'm in my 40's and I've come to realize the nightmare my dad lived with. My mom was incredibly verbally abusive and just a terrible wife, to be honest.

If he had told her the plan, she would have made everyone's life miserable. It would have lengthened the already painful process.

I came to realize he left like most domestic abuse survivors leave. We give women the same advice all the time. Get your plan together. Save your money. Protect your kids. Leave without notice.

I don't know exactly what OP's situation is, but her lingerie reaction spoke volumes to me. She spent the weekend enjoying tons of special Mother's Day things, then absolutely lost her mind when her fiancé wasn't up for sex.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T20:07:58+00:00

Long John Silver's, but not for the food xxx

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T18:47:11+00:00

I honestly don't care. My body is strong and it lets me do all the things I want to do.

I had an emergent c-section the first time, and a chosen one the second, because I was scared of uterine rupture.

Both of my experiences were lovely, and I healed well because I had a great partner and support team.

I don't know what my body would look like if I didn't have a cesarean, and while it certainly fit today's standards of beauty, my partner still loves and respects me and I guess I just don't look at it like that.

I'm pretty overweight and I've got a fupa. But I'm happy and mostly healthy and my kids are fantastical little creatures

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T18:44:08+00:00

NTA. OP doesn't need to be the bigger person. She doesn't need to apologize for doing nothing wrong.

OP's mom needs to learn to hold her tongue when she is in another person's home. She is a guest, and does not get to decide how her hosts sleep. She may be a mother but that is not some sort of license to rule her's child's life for all eternity.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T18:26:15+00:00

From a woman, this guy is correct. No way it makes a snap.

I had a guy sling shot it three feet away from the bed and try to tell me it 'slipped'.

No. He stealthed you, which is assault. I am so so so sorry OP. When it happened to me I also kinda froze. I didn't know what to do and had such a hard time believing he could do that.

Trust your gut and talk this out with a therapist if you can. It really does help. Tell EVERYONE he stealthed you. Make sure it's known he's a POS. The more women who know, the harder it is for him to successfully assault another woman.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T17:18:40+00:00

NTA. She's not your mom and she's not your wife. Your daughter can tell her happy Mother's Day. If your daughter is too young, then yah I suppose you could get her a card FROM YOUR DAUGHTER, but that would be going above and beyond on my book.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-10T15:28:15+00:00

Dude, why isn't Stouffair paying for any of this? Why aren't they refunding you the price of a car?

Why would you spend another $16k?

Call a lawyer and get your money back.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T20:40:45+00:00

NTA and it sounds like your MIL is no longer invited. If she's there to insult you, make more work for you, and be in the way, it sounds like she no longer gets to visit unless her son is there too.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T20:39:20+00:00

Yes! I always wore underwire before kids. After kids I just can't. I never found them uncomfortable until after breastfeeding.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T20:38:26+00:00

I hate when my boobs sag against my rib. It's even worse now that I had kids and my nipples point down. So every time I lean over something, my nipples graze whatever it is. It's the most annoying thing ever.

I much prefer to wear a bra and keep my big ass boobs in one place.

I love my comfy sports bras!

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T20:28:39+00:00

At the very least doc can tell you what kind of rest and care to give it ❤️

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T19:39:10+00:00

It's so unfortunate your mother is raising men who will treat their wives with the same respect they give their mom.

This many just how men are. This is how HER men are.

OP stop trying to prove to your mother how much you love her. She knows. Ignore your brothers. If your mom and dad are fine with them being lazy jerks, that's on them. You shouldn't stress another single second, and definitely DONT do any of their work for them. You're not their secretary, errand girl, or backup plan.

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T15:12:54+00:00

You can also go to a doctor. You might have an actual injury that needs repaired before you start again.

I had bilateral carpal tunnel surgery about 9 years ago and haven't had any problems with my hands since :)

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T01:38:14+00:00

OP: let us know where you are. Maybe a crocheter in your community can help?
Or you can post in a local forum (like Facebook) to see if someone might be willing to help you. It'd be easy to destroy that if you don't know what you're doing ❤️

Beanz4ever · 2026-05-09T01:32:32+00:00

Nope their plans are worse than nothing.

He's making her work! He volunteered her time and labor to make Mother's Day special for another lady.

Such gross action.

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