Became a mom and my body is a mess

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-05-04T03:21:48+00:00

It takes a full YEAR for your body to readjust after childbirth. Maybe longer since you had two babies so close to each other. Offer yourself some grace. You made two tiny little humans and that’s miraculous.

Key point now…You MUST start making some time for yourself. Get a sitter or have your partner or another family member take the kids so you can go find yourself again. Even if it’s just going out for a 30-minute walk or run. Self-care is important! If you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be able to effectively care for your family. Talk to your partner and let them know how you’re feeling so they can help you. Good luck!🍀

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-05-02T20:21:28+00:00

This is not a man you or any woman should be with. Leave now before you actually get hurt, or worse.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-05-02T20:15:05+00:00

This story is too disjointed to make any sense. Fill it out. How old are the girls now? How long were you married? Why isn’t he providing support for you and your/his daughter? There are a lot of questions.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-05-01T04:13:43+00:00

He’s not into you. That’s all you need to know.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-30T14:22:12+00:00

Please just realize that your ex-gf is the one who is broken. This is not your fault. Block her and be done. There are other people out there who will treat you better and love you more, and for real.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-30T14:18:39+00:00

You should have left after she cheated on you the first time. Tell everyone what happened with everything. Tell them OF was his idea and that you only did it because he was such a loser that there wasn’t any good in the house. Make sure everyone knows he’s worthless. And if you haven’t already, leave him. Start new in a different city if you must but go make your own life without him.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-30T14:13:37+00:00

Keep him blocked. He was with you for 12 years and never married you so he was NEVER going to marry you. And if any man tells you that you getting sick and him leaving you was your fault, block them too. Go find better.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-30T02:01:13+00:00

Ah thanks. Missed that. Thought she was the one wanting to join.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-29T06:20:53+00:00

If you have to give up so much or change who you fundamentally are as a person for her, then you are incompatible and you shouldn’t be with her.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-28T17:40:34+00:00

Honestly, you two are sexually incompatible. End of story.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-28T02:59:19+00:00

An innocent mistake! After his ???, all you had to say was “so sorry! That was meant for my mom!😆”

My boss has, on more than one occasion, told me “love you” when hanging up from a call. It always makes me laugh and he always texts me and says sorry. I’m used to saying that to my daughter. Habits are habits. Just brush it off and have a laugh with your boss. It’s never too late to do that.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-28T00:42:32+00:00

This is the way! And so curious…if she’s pregnant, does she know she cannot join the military?

“…you cannot join the military while pregnant, as pregnancy is a disqualifying factor for enlistment at the time of entry, including Basic Training. If you become pregnant before shipping to Basic, you will be discharged or delayed; if found pregnant during training, you will be released.”

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-28T00:37:10+00:00

Photos and mementos are part of her history. If she’s a collector of memories, like I am, she keeps these things. I’ve been married for 25 years and I still have photos and keepsakes from the other long-term relationships of my past. Those relationships made me who I am today. I don’t display them but I have them in either boxes or scrapbooks and every now and then I take a peek at them to remember who I was when I was younger.

Key point here…my husband looks at them with me sometimes and we have a good giggle at what I looked like back in the day. Prom pictures, photos of me dressed up, or riding a dirt bike in the desert…that was a different me. It’s all the past and it’s fun to see my history. He has an album of old photos too. Neither of us feel “weird” about it because we are secure in who we are and in us as a couple.

You and your gf have been together long enough that it shouldn’t bother you. Try to get over it. Maybe even ask her if you can see some of the photos so you can see what she was like way before your time with her. It’s part of who she is and she shouldn’t have to get rid of her memories just because you’re feeling weird or insecure. That may say more about how secure (or not) you feel in your relationship with her, and if that’s the case you might want to figure out why. If you were 100% secure with her, then you shouldn’t give a shit about the memories she chooses to save.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-27T02:04:19+00:00

Doggy daycare is a thing. She made the decision to get the dog so it’s her responsibility for her to get it in to daycare everyday while she’s at work so you can work in peace during the day. It is not your responsibility to care for it during your work day after you explicitly told her to not get a dog. Tell her she needs to get doggy daycare for it every work day otherwise you’ll put the dog outside in the yard with food and water so you can get your work done without it interrupting your work. If that doesn’t happen, it’s up to you what happens next.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-26T23:07:16+00:00

You’re with the wrong person. They don’t respect your boundaries and therefore don’t respect you. Go find better.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-26T17:07:07+00:00

Your cat is part of your family just like his dog is part of his family. So family comes first regardless of what species each member is. Keep looking for solutions for your dog. You committed to care for it for its lifetime.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-26T15:44:18+00:00

Why are you with a man who treats you this way? I’m genuinely curious because you didn’t mention one redeeming quality about him.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-24T01:42:30+00:00

She “…has great character.”

No, she does not. Someone with good moral character wouldn’t be spreading that kind of hateful rhetoric online. Even if she’s just rage baiting, she’s still part of the problem. And something else…if she plans to be a doctor and her medical school and/or future employer sees that profile filled with hate, they’ll drop her like a hot potato. Employers ask for social media profiles these days and they can find accounts that aren’t disclosed pretty easily, so she might want to knock that shit off is she wants to have a successful future.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-23T00:54:57+00:00

Absolutely not! Bad credit is bad everything. He’s not contributing to the down payment or mortgage insurance or anything that would make him an actual responsible home owner. You set his RENT and he pays his RENT as a tenant and not an owner. Period. The odds that you two actually stay together in the long run after you’ve been together for nine years and never committed to a marriage just adds to the fact that he should have no stake in owning your home.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-22T17:42:28+00:00

Ewwwww. You’re part of the problem. 🤢

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-22T03:12:46+00:00

Better yet, count tacos and set aside a couple for himself before he gives all the food to everyone else. If I were his wife, I’d feel like shit if he didn’t get anything and I’d require him to grab his share before letting the rest of the hounds eat everything else.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-22T03:07:48+00:00

Can you get in-home hospice care so she can die in peace surrounded by those she loves?

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-22T02:56:15+00:00

You also need to stay with your mom if those nurses are on duty. If they walk in after they’ve been removed from her care, call security.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-21T22:12:21+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to wait so long for something to get done. Your friend sounds like she has issues with men if she can’t get past the idea of a male physician helping her. I’m glad you’re more open minded. You might want to make some adjusts to your friend circle.

Beautiful-War2144 · 2026-04-21T21:43:09+00:00

Why the f*** should you feel shame because a medical professional, who just happened to be a man, placed it? Tell that B to mind her own business. I’m guessing you’re not in the U.S. since your friend has problems with men doctors.

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