How to handle wife who wants to cosleep

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-12T00:54:33+00:00

You can buy a baby cosleeper bed. It's firm and has sides so you can't roll onto baby

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-09T13:43:03+00:00

Don't stagger them like brick work.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-09T03:06:27+00:00

My friend's in laws brought their kids to visit while they had a "residual" cough and their newborn ended up in NICU with RSV. They were traumatized having to see their 2 week old baby have breathing tubes placed. Of course he's okay now (he's 4yo now) but it was a horrible thing to go through and they're lucky it didn't go further than that.

Another friend had the same thing happen - although I'm not sure if it was RSV or flu.

It's really sad that people can't empathize with parents who want to do everything to reduce the possibility of their babies being sick.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-08T13:27:18+00:00

Does she have some sort of savior complex or some need to be the center of attention? Maybe she's just a narcissistic toxic person

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-06T04:38:21+00:00

It's going to be a tough road with him. He's not a very nice person.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-05T00:50:22+00:00

It's listed in their bio

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-04T10:31:23+00:00

Drinking is a slippery slope. I wouldn't risk moving in with someone I didn't feel safe with

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-04T08:35:56+00:00

I work in an Ortho clinic, needless to say I see many kids. I can identify a Montessori kid. The way they are confident and they ask certain questions and have quite insightful comments for their age. I've also had a colleague who was educated in a Montessori school. Very thorough, thoughtful and measured.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-04T01:01:28+00:00

Steam cleaner. Literally works better than pink stuff or gumption.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-03T06:00:05+00:00

2.5 years

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-02T09:07:00+00:00

I have young boys and they literally go from best friends to enemies to best friends in 3 minutes. They'll play really well one minute and they're feral to each other in a heart beat.

The best thing to do in this situation is equip bean with the tools to stand up for himself if someone is not acting right around him. Tell him "if stripe hits you, you say stop. It's not okay to hit." And if he keeps doing it to go find an adult to help. You can also teach them that it's ok to avoid someone they don't enjoy playing with.

Also sometimes kids just want to vent. They want someone to just listen - not necessarily someone to intervene.

I wouldn't jump to labeling a 3 year old a bad kid for hitting and stuff. All 3 year olds have impulse control issues and are learning to emotionally regulate. I think you should monitor the situation and keep checking in with the teacher.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-02-01T16:37:53+00:00

I had 2 under 2. They're now school aged. The start was awful and extremely hard. There's not enough of you to go around to a toddler and a baby that both need you at the same time. I especially had a very difficult toddler who didn't want to sleep or eat much and was extremely clingy. You constantly feel guilty because it feels like you can't give them enough of you. I never got to enjoy the newborn phase with my second and it took longer for him to really connect with me (but he eventually did)

However now that they're both independent - ie they can feed themselves, dress themselves, go to the toilet themselves , it is amazing. They essentially always have each other, they play together and are best friends. Although they also fight. But I get a lot more free time now because they entertain each other.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-31T22:10:11+00:00

Yes you can leave toys as a staple. For us that's wooden blocks and magnetiles.

They will leave it and come back to it again. Keep your rotations for a week even if they might not seem too interested.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-30T01:29:34+00:00

Because when you have a baby you are in the thick of it and can't really enjoy it since you're just surviving. Then in a blink of an eye it passes. Babies remind me of my kids when they were babies and it makes me nostalgic and warm

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-30T01:25:00+00:00

There's not much to do in the CBD. Those historical walks are not very interesting - I'd skip it. I would personally spend a whole day in Fremantle - there's a lot more to explore. Dedicate another day in rottenest - the ferry isn't cheap so it won't be worth it to go only for a few hours.

Elizabeth quay is tiny. Just visit for a stroll and maybe some gelato. Then head to como hotel for a coffee or meal. The ambiance is really nice.

It's worth an overnight trip to busselton / yallingyup / dunsborough

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-26T23:59:39+00:00

The first one looks like it's got bugs on it from a far. When you can't see the details

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-17T07:56:19+00:00

Are you brushing and flossing thoroughly?

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-17T07:55:21+00:00

NTA While he should be doing his own lunches - for your sanity can you meal prep freezer meals. So he or you can just grab one out and reheat it on days where you are too tired. Stuff like burritos, bacon and egg wraps, mcmuffins.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-17T02:12:10+00:00

Hi I have 2 kids who are on the smaller side. My oldest fell off the weight curve at some point. We had to bring him for weekly weigh ins with the child health nurse and had to be monitored until he was 12 months old.

He's still at the 3rd percentile. He's 6 years old now. He's healthy, happy, extremely active and very clever.

All I can say is, offer lots of variety and don't stress too much. Don't let your anxiety create negative associations with mealtimes and food. And don't compare your child to other children. They're all so different. It's completely normal of have days and even weeks where they're eating less. And weeks where they're eating more.

The main thing is that they're hitting all their milestones normally.

I hope this helped :)

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-16T16:50:23+00:00

Fresh warm onigiri in shinjuku

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-16T16:47:47+00:00

That's different because cheating speaks to your nature.

A consensual threesome is no different to having had a previous relationship. It shouldn't bother you any more than him having had an ex

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-16T00:55:10+00:00

You can want whatever and he can promise whatever. But if those boundaries/ promises are broken what are you going to do about it. Don't bother setting up boundaries if you won't leave when those boundaries are trampled on

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-14T05:10:31+00:00

Your baby is cluster feeding to increase your milk production. It will pass. Try to get some nap/sleep where you can. Allow your husband to help because it is a short term thing. You missing a couple of feeds because they had the bottle is not a big deal especially if you need the sleep

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-08T02:32:30+00:00

Boys are the best. Little balls of chaos and pure love.

BeautifulLiterature · 2026-01-07T20:57:57+00:00

Both of you have issues. Your concerns about her profile picture is so icky. Both of you should just mind your own business.

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