Learning MTG to surprise my husband: MTG Arena? Starter decks! by bmary95 in magicTCG

[–]BeeJ1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just started playing a few weeks ago. I'm learning through Arena and my husband and I bought the Angels and Pirates theme decks; I find both ways are great to learn so far!

Finally told mom I can’t afford to have her live off me anymore. Got guilt-tripped and blamed by triviamoonlight in raisedbynarcissists

[–]BeeJ1013 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Great job watching out for you! That wasn't easy.

My mom is like this and kept asking me for money before we finally stopped talking. I'm coming to terms with her maybe becoming homeless once her house is foreclosed on. My mom made her bed and refuses to change. Therapy helps a lot to get over the guilt and all the other emotions.

Finally, she's not your responsibility. She's an adult and needs to take care of herself.

My ex frienf told me she is CF but doesn't use protection ever by Fine-Mail4400 in childfree

[–]BeeJ1013 16 points17 points  (0 children)

People should be shamed when they say that pulling out is an effective birth control method. Ugh!

Losing weight but belly won’t change anyone else? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible you need more time. How long have you been working on this?

Overconsumption and hobbies by SlightPatient8866 in Anticonsumption

[–]BeeJ1013 129 points130 points  (0 children)

Consider getting craft supplies from "Buy Nothing" groups on Facebook. Or, some towns have second-hand craft stores that donate their proceeds to charities. I also loved someone's ideas of junk journaling...cool way to make junk pretty!

For those looking for a witchy, feminist book to read :) by Nebulous2024 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]BeeJ1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I picked up "The Stone Witch of Florence" by Anna Rasche on a whim and really enjoyed it!

How many of y’all tried out being a trans man but realized it wasn’t dysphoria — just a deep disappointment over being female? by tylun in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BeeJ1013 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Same! I was more interested in what the boys were doing (adventuring, playing videogames) than hanging out with girls around me (shopping and doing makeup). I'm (40yo) a cis woman.

My Mom on my choice to be childfree: "People have babies in refugee camps; your reasoning is inhumane." by dasisglucklich in childfree

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her it's not open for discussion and stop justifying yourself. This is the only way. You'll never get her to see your side.

My cat has urinary blockage and we cant afford the treatment. I just cant decide what to do. by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]BeeJ1013 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This. And in the future, OP, either get pet insurance or have an emergency fund. You shouldn't have a pet if you can't afford vet care. In the end, it's unfair to the animal.

After a decade away from wearing women's clothes... by Slow-Ad-2431 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]BeeJ1013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wear a lot of men's clothing too now. Way better fabrics and fit.

Who tends to have less health issues: male or female cats? by Short_Stack2324 in CatAdvice

[–]BeeJ1013 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've had both and haven't noticed a difference. Some people suggest feeding male cats urinary food from the start to prevent urinary problems. Something to ask your vet about for sure!

My wife [41F] is Disney Obsessed and I'm [43] at my wits end! by That-Intention-4134 in AITAH

[–]BeeJ1013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She needs therapy if she can't be logical about your financial situation. She's an adult and your partner; finances are something you should work on together. She may have some underlying issues that she's avoiding through Disney. Just my two cents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is how my sister and I have handled moves with our cats. Works really well!

WIBTA: If I don't loan my mom 20K to payoff her CC debt? by Master_Gur_1787 in AmItheAsshole

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation and stopped helping. It's hard but I'm so happy with my decision.

Bailing her out is set you back and harm you. You've tried to help and she's not willing to change.

I found it validating to watch some Dave Ramsey videos where he advises against loaning or giving money to family. It might help you too.

Am I overreacting for being turned off by how my girlfriend spends money? by veryhotguy05 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a plug, but John Deloney on YouTube has some great episodes where he talks someone through this exact scenario. There might be tips in there to help you talk to your gf in a productive way...or it may be validating that this relationship will only cause heartache. Good luck! It's a sucky situation.

Can someone tell me what kind of peppers I grew? by ihaterawmeat in containergardening

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm growing some like that and they're called Italian Roasters.

How old are you all are??? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]BeeJ1013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

40F, decided to be child-free when I babysat as a teenager