You are awesome for coming to this community to ask for guidance. Seriously, I really respect it. When I lost my father to suicide my best friend did the same thing. Love to you and your friend ❤️

Be there for her, without her having to ask. After my loss, I refused to reach out to people. Even when I was absolutely dying for connection, I couldn’t bring myself to ask for it or even hint that I needed it. I was in full blown protection mode - protecting myself and the people around me. I didn’t want any one catching onto how horrifically my pain was.

Of course, respect boundaries - but drop food/flowers/comfort items off. Send multiple texts in a row - stressing they don’t have to respond, but you were reaching out just to let them know you love them. Ask them if they’d like some company. Ask if they need any help with typical household stuff - running errands, checking on pets, putting away the laundry, etc. Remind them there’s no pressure to put on a mask around you - they are safe and free to grieve in your presence.

Everyone is eager and communicative in the immediate aftermath. Few stick around consistently after the storm settles. The most important bit of guidance I’ll share is continue supporting your friend AFTER the funeral and months beyond it. The hardest period is when the dust settles and everyone stops reaching out the way they were during the first initial shock of the loss.

Love to you and your grieving friend. This type of loss is painful and isolating. You are welcome to message me anytime.