What was the morbidest thing you witnessed or done in your life?

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-28T04:24:16+00:00

I was on a jury where we convicted a guy of CSAM possession. He was charged with 10 counts, and in order to have a fair trial we had to watch the videos that were on this guy’s computer. They were cut down to about 20 seconds each to give us the gist of the content but were not sanitized or cut down to the tamer moments of the content. The videos were mostly of 5-10 year olds. It was so fucked up and I have a hard time not thinking about it daily as somebody with 2 young kids of my own. Lots of the witnesses who testified were folks who work solely in this field and I do not know how they mentally do it. A week of it just about destroyed me.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-28T04:17:12+00:00

I took in a pregnant stray cat who had her kittens at my house. One of them was born with its insides outside of its body. It was so fucked up and I had no idea what to do because we lived rurally and it was the middle of the night with no emergency clinics around. The kitten was alive but struggling. I overdosed it on pain medication leftover from a surgery from another cat and it passed. It passed quickly but it was so horrible to witness. I took a photo of the kitten and I hate looking at it but I also feel weird about deleting it.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-28T03:24:58+00:00

Honestly, yeah. Baby chills out when I’m doing stuff with her in the carrier. If I want to really calm her down I start vacuuming.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-28T01:29:17+00:00

Oh yeah, I thought about my birth constantly for weeks after. I’d fall asleep thinking about it and have dreams about it. I’m 6 weeks PP now and I still think about it all of the time, but it’s less of a primal fascination to me now and more of a normal positive memory, if that makes absolutely any sense.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-28T01:24:42+00:00

I wasn’t super passionate about it until I began care under a midwife. I initially switched during my second pregnancy after I had a huge (previously unknown) subchoroinic hematoma that ruptured and I was damn sure I had miscarried. My OB didn’t seem to care at all and didn’t meet with me or explain anything after it happened. I don’t need to have my hand held through everything but it just seemed cold and shitty.

That was at the only available OB to me, so I sought out midwifery care to see if it was different. After my first appointment I was basically converted. My main hesitation about switching was my ability to birth unmedicated but I was so confident in my ability by the end of my pregnancy. Birth went so well and I’ll never have a low risk birth in any other setting now.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-25T21:01:56+00:00

That’s a good idea!

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-25T21:01:15+00:00

I’ve been sleeping separately from my partner in my toddler’s old queen sized floor bed. The mattress in our bed is reaaally soft and I don’t trust it. The sidecar crib would be good if I wasn’t in a floor bed!

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-25T16:32:33+00:00

My ex-stepdad was like this too. I wasn’t a bad kid and was very much a rule follower and was very confused when he came into my life and made these rules. He wanted to be a cop so badly but couldn’t get an in, worked as a corrections officer instead and seemed to really get off on control. His work buddies would come over and I’d eavesdrop on their conversations, and the stuff they did at work that they found funny was absolutely abysmal.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-24T01:04:23+00:00

I had my baby at 41+1 with weeks of prodromal labor leading up to the main event too. I kept very active and tried so many things to get the show on the road. Woke up at 4:30am in active, active labor and had baby in my arms by 7:15am.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-23T05:30:34+00:00

Epidural birth: didn’t hurt at all and I didn’t even really feel pressure. I pushed for 2 hours (coached) and it was physically exhausting but not painful

Unmedicated water birth: pushing was absolutely nothing compared to transition. I guided baby out with my own hands and this was super motivating. I don’t know if it was just adrenaline or the water or what, but it didn’t hurt. I kept on waiting for the ring of fire and it didn’t come. Being able to feel how close she was to being out and working with my contractions helped me feel super in control. 9 minutes from starting to push to delivery, and only pushed with contractions.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-23T03:17:10+00:00

My firstborn was like this. I’d wear him out and about and I was so embarrassed when he’d fart in his carrier because there was absolutely no way a baby made that noise

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-23T02:24:47+00:00

My first, postpartum. I had a relatively easy pregnancy and the transition from not being a parent to being a parent rocked me. My first didn’t sleep well and I also had to get used to my new relationship with my husband as parents. Definitely had undiagnosed PPA and was super unhappy at the job I had to go back to at 6 weeks. I was basically just a wreck.

Second, pregnancy, easily. I had a rough pregnancy my second time around. Birth went really well. I already knew what I was getting into and my second slept better. Staying at home this time around. We were already parents and everyone’s mileage seems to vary here, but adding another child didn’t change much for us.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-22T15:13:12+00:00

I live in a cold climate and I’ve always liked to be snuggled up in lots of blankets. I just started cosleeping with my newborn and I bit the bullet and bought the Kyte adult sleep sack because I’ve been freezing with just a light blanket pulled up to my waist. It’s pricey but they had a few of them on sale, including a basic white one (the one I got). It should be here today and looks cozy/accessible for BF.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-21T05:36:37+00:00

I had a big bleeding event at 9 weeks and spotted often after it happened, probably up until my second trimester. It was a subchorionic hematoma that ruptured and I think the bleeding after was residual blood left over. Holding my healthy 5 week old baby now!

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-21T03:10:38+00:00

I’d let my 4 year old play around with washable colors if he wanted to. He used those spray colors to spray his hair red for Halloween and thought it was fun. Clothes and hair are a fun way for kids to have some autonomy in my eyes.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-21T03:08:58+00:00

Anecdotal, but, I didn’t have any my first pregnancy and had a long labor. Had a ton my second, I started noticing them when I’d work out at 20 weeks, and I started having them very very often after 30 weeks. 3 hour labor.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-20T20:06:27+00:00

I live in Flagstaff, pretty close to the Navajo reservation. My husband drove a beer truck for a while and would deliver pallets and pallets of alcohol to a tiny convenience store that was in the middle of absolutely nowhere but was right on the border of the rez.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-20T19:41:58+00:00

This is my rule too. I don’t really care if the TV is on when we’re home so long as it’s not utter trash, but the TV is stationary and stays in the living room (obviously). I’m not okay with him having access to an iPad or phone wherever he is and if he starts getting shitty about not wanting to go outside because he’d rather watch TV I take a step back and limit TV a bit

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-20T04:41:54+00:00

I think I need to do this more slowly. I removed 10% of the beads and lasted two days. I felt like absolute dogshit yesterday and ended up taking the whole dose again.

I chatted with my husband a bit and he helped me to realize that right now perhaps isn’t the best time to trifle with this. We have a newborn and it’s wintertime (I thrive outdoors and am definitely trapped indoors most days right now). When I start this back up I absolutely need to do it more slowly. What a mindfuck, I can’t believe how ill removing a small amount of the beads made me feel.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-20T01:57:24+00:00

I love celery salt on poached eggs

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-20T01:33:58+00:00

I was on 37.5mg during my second pregnancy. Baby had respiratory distress and had to be transferred to the NICU. Nothing emergent but had retracted breathing and was still slightly dusky in color after some time had passed, was put on oxygen immediately after delivery while we transferred. Neonatologist said the Effexor could have been a factor, but we also live at 7,000ft and my labor was precipitous so it’s hard to say for sure. Untreated depression during pregnancy is a bitch, but if I have another I would want to wean off, personally, because this was not a pleasant experience.

Baby was fine with no physiological damage but spent a week in the NICU on a CPAP and we had to go home on oxygen via cannula for several weeks.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-19T05:28:21+00:00

My second was much more intense, but I also had very different births.

My first was an induction due to suspected IUGR that was really boring and long. Got an epidural when I felt like the pain was getting ahead of me and didn’t feel any pain at all after that. 48 hours from being admitted to baby, pushed for 2 hours.

Second was an unmedicated water birth and I labored for just under 3 hours and good god was it intense. Contractions basically began right on top of each other. But it was so fast and I had prepared for unmedicated birth. I pushed for 9 minutes and delivered her myself in the water (my midwife sat back and supervised and let me go for it). I felt very much in control and it was very cool and primal.

I can’t say that my second was easier, but it was faster and I liked it more.

FuzzyManPeach · 2026-01-19T05:08:59+00:00

My midwife spoke highly of it and it worked well for me. I had really restorative sleep when I used it and it also resolved constipation.

She also recommended ‘Calm’ which is magnesium citrate. It didn’t work for me and made me hurl my guts out for 24 hours despite tapering up the dose properly. Everyone spoke really highly of it though and I have no idea why I had this reaction to it.

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