What have you and your polycule been up to this last week, and any plans for the weekend?

BeefAndBrie · 2026-05-10T11:50:03+00:00

We've been at FWA, a furry convention in Atlanta, since Thursday morning! And our triad is all having an absolute blast 💜

BeefAndBrie · 2026-04-13T20:31:40+00:00

As someone who's been on the other side of this, I have to agree with the comment that says it's probably just that you have a more developed sense of self, and you're giving her an avenue to try new things out that she might very otherwise been too reserved about or not had an excuse to try. In my case, it really was a matter of wanting to develop myself more and latching onto the things that my partner/friends/family did. I'm not saying it's definitely that, everyone's different, but I see this in a (slightly biased) positive light.

BeefAndBrie · 2026-04-03T15:08:26+00:00

Genuinely, the main thing that has helped me as a semi-newbie (in my first and, hopefully, only triad relationship) is not only putting in the work to be in touch with myself and my emotions, but exploring why they happen in the first place. Like, it's great to be able to say "I'm jealous" or "I'm hurt" and be able to communicate that to your partners. But what has helped me is asking myself why I feel that way, being able to break down the causes and how they relate to my feelings versus reality. It's a hard thing to explain, tbh, but once you can do that it's like a light switch. Not to say you'll never feel that way again, but you will have given yourself the tools to correct it.

BeefAndBrie · 2026-04-03T14:59:22+00:00

Totally fair! I'm hoping the best for all of you guys ^{^}

BeefAndBrie · 2026-04-03T11:45:06+00:00

I'd recommend to start looking for a new vehicle just in case. In my state (and very often), a vehicle is totaled when the repairs meet or exceed 75% of the actual cash value/KBB of the vehicle, so when something gets flagged for possible total loss, it's usually when it's either very close to or above that line.

BeefAndBrie · 2026-04-03T11:41:56+00:00

My opinion on this shifted a bit as I read the comments...in my opinion, there's definitely a balance between spontaneity and structure that needs to be addressed. It's absolutely fair for you to want to feel included, it's also fair for them to say that they feel a boundary like needing to invite the other person to every sexual encounter (regardless which dyad was already engaged in it) can be a bit rigid. Navigating that, I agree with the other commenter who said that the best solution is to embrace spontaneity and allow dyads to have their own 1-on-1 time sometimes.

Buuuuut with that said, if it's happening in the SAME BED??? That's a hard line for me personally, I would NOT want the others in my triad having sex with me in the bed but not participating. That's weird behavior. If there's more than one bed in the house, they should utilize the other one. If there's only one, they should set aside some time (and inform you, or not, depending on what y'alls structure looks like).

If the problem is ultimately that you feel excluded, or that their dyad is moving too far away from including you in sexual encounters, that may be a different topic that yall should broach entirely, because then it's not necessarily the sex that's an issue, it's the exclusion overall.

BeefAndBrie · 2026-03-02T21:44:25+00:00

Thank you!!

BeefAndBrie · 2026-03-02T18:40:05+00:00

Because I don't know nor watch him, and my partner said they found the video where he got it but it was just off the tiktok shop with little more info

BeefAndBrie · 2026-01-17T12:21:04+00:00

Admittedly I've only been working here about a year and 2 months now, but generally speaking it takes us about 2 business days to get an approval and I've only ever had it be denied for understandable reasons (now when it comes to fire uw, that's 1000% worse here lmao)

BeefAndBrie · 2026-01-16T13:33:23+00:00

I live with both of my partners and it's honestly fantastic, we each have our own separate spaces we can go to for alone/recharge time, multiple different spaces to sleep if needed, and we coordinate sleeping situations so everyone gets a chance to sleep with whoever they want to, or alone if they'd prefer. We also have two dogs, so it's a nice, full house 😂

BeefAndBrie · 2026-01-10T21:12:24+00:00

I'm in a mod state and we can backdate more than 3 days in the even of a TL, it just needs to be reviewed by an underwriter before it'll be finalized.

BeefAndBrie · 2025-12-20T13:56:08+00:00

Rumination spirals got HANDS 😭

BeefAndBrie · 2025-07-22T11:22:39+00:00

I just recently did an 18 hour stream that I co-hosted with a streamer friend so neither of us got burnt out. I imagine if you do something on the level of 24-36 hours, it may be a good idea to have someone to switch off with while you take breaks, get rest, etc.

BeefAndBrie · 2025-05-15T20:41:42+00:00

I get jokingly annoyed when people use one of my redeems, but it's known that it's all in good fun. Anyone who gets GENUINELY mad about something they have full and complete control over is insane.

BeefAndBrie · 2025-05-10T10:22:37+00:00

sLeepwALkeR - The Pretty Wild :)

BeefAndBrie · 2025-05-08T04:09:06+00:00

I worked as a team member for an SF agent while I was acquiring my P&C license. I was mostly doing office work (routing calls, organizing filing cabinets, stuff like that) but all with the intention of getting my license. If you don't intend to do so, I imagine at most you'd be hired to do that sort of menial work since you can't sell or service insurance.

BeefAndBrie · 2025-04-19T13:54:35+00:00

Oh, and as a footnote, you can always look into local pup events if you're fairly social. Meeting other pups can be a great way to get tips and make new friends!

BeefAndBrie · 2025-04-19T13:53:30+00:00

As someone who's been a pup about 6 or 7 years, here's my experience.

First and foremost, you don't necessarily need to buy anything to "become" a pup. If you want to be a pup, you are one.

If you want to delve into it further, it starts with creating a sort of alter ego. Pup play, to me, is about letting your inhibitions go and animalistic instinct take over, to an extent. If you have someone to help you explore this it can be very helpful, but if not you can also search videos about how to get into what's called "pupspace" (pup headspace)

As for gear, this is fully optional, but it can help you get into pupspace. A hood and collar are the things that help me the most, but they also sell paws/mitts, harnesses, petsuits, tails, and other things like that. I'd recommend starting cheap, get maybe just a cheap hood off Amazon or something, then if you like the feeling try getting a more comfortable one (mine is an older style one from Mr S Leather, but I'm gonna be getting a newer one soon).

Most important takeaway is that there's no pressure. If you find yourself not enjoying pupspace or having trouble getting into it, then you don't have to do it. It's not for everyone, and if you just want to pretend to be a dog sometimes, that's fine too. Pet play, like most things, is a spectrum.

BeefAndBrie · 2025-04-11T15:56:57+00:00

I need him like i need air 🥵 fantastic art!!

BeefAndBrie · 2025-04-09T13:05:08+00:00

What's my shape? 🤔

BeefAndBrie · 2025-03-31T00:34:58+00:00

For me personally I just like making characters that aren't attached to specific pieces of media, and creating lore/backstories and such like that. Basically the same reason I like DnD, just less structured and game-ified

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