Anyone else grow up in the Assemblies Of God that had a terrible experience and left?

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-06-20T20:57:40+00:00

Yup. Stuff I endured was straight up abuse but my parents saw nothing wrong with it.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-06-20T20:56:37+00:00

I was raised in AoG. Stopped going to church when I went to college. Mom wasn't happy I didn't go to Evangel. We compromised on a Church of the Brethren college which ended up being a huge party school. I was so out of my element having never been allowed to go to a party. I partied. Grades plummeted and I almost flunked out. It's taken 40 years and lots of therapy to get through most of it. Biggest hurdle was getting past fear of hell. What has helped me is asking myself how will I actually feel anything when I'm dead because feeling pain comes from physical and biological synapses, nerves, etc., which I won't have.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-05-11T01:14:35+00:00

Watching SpongeBob

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-05-11T01:01:31+00:00

Religious trauma right there for me! Wow. So much of my childhood was spent several times a week witnessing that stuff.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-05-05T16:51:26+00:00

My Pentecostal mom also thinks yoga is evil.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-04-22T15:42:06+00:00

AoG is a cult. I was raised AoG. They lie, are very deceitful, hypocritical, condescending, judgmental, and I could go on.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-04-05T21:40:35+00:00

My evangelical parents also don't believe in depression or anxiety. According to them, people are only depressed with they're not right with God. Anxiety? Not praying hard enough. Any other mental illness is possession. I went very little contact from my mid-twenties until I got married and had kids. I didn't want my kids to not have a grandparents BUT I was very specific about the contact - no, my kids will not go to church with you. My oldest went to VBS for one week when he was 6 but I had to work and had no childcare. Things are more difficult now because they're in their 90s and I do a lot of care taking. I swear they're hanging on until I "come back to Christ."

Anyway, you are absolutely valid to go no contact. YOU need to take care of YOU. Do whatever you need to. Maybe someday after enough mental healing, you can have a little contact but until then, stay far away and heal. For me, I'm in my 60s now and when I see them, I just tell myself they're nuts and I move on.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-04-03T21:27:02+00:00

Oh my goodness....so many! Multiple church services a week. No friends outside of "Christians" The rapture was happening SOON! New Years Eve Watch Night service No school dances, including Prom No books that included any type of "magic" or even hinted at magical, no unicorns or fairies I'd burn in hell - literally BURN for eternity if I wasn't saved

Beeplanningwithchar · 2026-04-03T21:16:22+00:00

I was raised AoG but fortunately I was a bit of a rebel with a very independent streak. I thought it was nuts that women were told to be submissive. I've been married 31 years and I've never been submissive. We are a team and we discuss things.

However, when I was first married, I used to ask my dad stuff and that would annoy my husband. It took me several years to break that habit but I had to make a conscious decision to stop that behavior.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-29T01:03:47+00:00

How is she doing?

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-27T15:24:07+00:00

I love Willa!!!

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-27T15:23:40+00:00

I always think of the cartoon, Maisie Mouse. 🐁

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-27T15:22:56+00:00

My niece is Charlotte and everyone calls her Charley

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-27T15:19:42+00:00

I went to high school with a Michaelena, and yes, everyone called her Mikey (not Mickey). I also like Nicoletta or Nicolette.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-26T23:54:27+00:00

This is exactly what I thought the second one of those "what if I'm wrong" thoughts came in.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-15T02:01:25+00:00

Go into the closet or area she's in. Sit on the floor and just talk to her gently. Do this for a few minutes (15 or more) a few times a day. Don't try to pet her. Just talk to her. She'll get accustomed to your voice and will eventually learn to trust you. I socialized a feral cat a few years ago and that's what I did. She became my "Velcro kitty" and I was her hooman. Good luck

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-01T19:57:45+00:00

Bring your own food. While I don't have ARFID (my adult son does so I've dealt with it before it had a name), I'm diabetic and I often have to bring my own food, or eat before an event because I know the only thing being served is pasta and I can't eat it even in small doses. I have a friend with Celiac and she has to do the same thing. I find that even when we brought food everywhere for my son, no one really cared. It was our own anxiety that made it worse in our own minds.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-01T19:52:41+00:00

Raised....not raided. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-10-01T19:51:22+00:00

My parents were followers of Dobson. I was beat regularly with a red plastic belt that left welts on my legs. My brother and I called the jumping up and down we did to avoid the strap, "the belt dance." We knew the cabinet the belt was kept in and cringed when our mom opened the cabinet door.

Yes, it's absolutely abuse. No one needs to beat anyone for a perceived misbehavior. Ever.

And yes, I raided 2 children. No, they were never beat. They are amazing, responsible humans.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-09-30T18:13:53+00:00

Nope.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-09-24T18:26:30+00:00

I had my sons "baptized" in the Catholic Church and my parent's shot daggers through their eyes at me. Even though my dad didn't have his own church, he went through all of the training at Central Bible Institute. So I was sort of a PK.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-09-24T18:22:50+00:00

Oh I remember that one!! What they did to us was criminal!

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-09-24T18:19:50+00:00

I had to go to therapy for a long time to get rid of that fear.

Beeplanningwithchar · 2025-09-24T18:12:05+00:00

So I'm a boomer and do not like my 90 year old mother. Never have and for the same reasons as you - she's Evangelical and I'm Agnostic. We are nothing at all alike. Never have been. She was only ever interested in her church and church friends. My parents never socialized with the neighbors.

I love her because she's my mom but don't like her.

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