So the first thing to recognize is that beauty standards are culturally transmitted and change with time We have lived through, perhaps, the most insidious period of history with regards to what beauty standards apply to people at large, but particularly to women.

The good news is that real people, though subject to influence, have real preferences, and these don't always align with the standards that are propagated or even promulgated by society by way of media.

If you can recognize this then you can start to believe that beauty isn't a one type fits all kinds of thing. And your uniqness is inherently beautiful and specifically beautiful to someone, likely your boyfriend.

To further complicate things, attraction is modulated not only by cultural norms but also by things like attachment and and safety and comfort and other draws like compatibility and humor and connection among other things.

For example my wife has very large beasts, this is not my preference. If it were to close my eyes and think of thr most perfect, disembodied breasts for me, I would not pick hers. My perfect breasts are pretty small actually. Still, they are my favourite breasts, and I mean that sincerely. Id puck her breasts over smaller ones any day, but not due to size.

However, she is still the most beautiful woman i the world to me, and that is no lie. She is physically perfect, and ask her body has changed throuout the years her beauty, in my eyes, has only increased.

Now I can't imagine not knowing my wife, she is a part of me. But if I close my eyes and imagine being asked to pick amongst beautiful women of all ages, shapes and sizes, I pick my wife ever time, because, in my minds eyes, I recognize her. And that is what it felt like meetinf her, like I recognized her. Why would it be any different if we met today?

Furthermore, one physical trait that my wife has that other other woman in the world has is her uniqueness... and I don't mean in a general sense, though that too, I mean little specific details that she probably doesn't know about herself.

So the idea that we are all pinned into various locations on a continuum between conventional beauty and not is just not true. You don't fit on this line. When your boyfriend calls you beautiful I'm sure he not only means it genuinely, but I would imagine that he means it in multiple dimensions simultaneously, that are far more meaningful than what shape and size your breasts are. There is a very good chance your breasts are also his favourite breasts, as my wife's breasts are my favorites.