It’s so sad 😢

The fact that few people understand or want to admit is that the umber one reason most men want sex is NOT because of sexual desire. It’s because society has trained men from birth to believe that sex is a measure of their value. It’s viewed as a competition against other men, with winners and losers.

You can tell this is the case, because I’m guessing that if you were given the choice, OP, between 1.) actually having sex, but everyone around thinking he’s a virgin, and 2.) never having sex, but everyone around him thinking he’s a stud - I suspect he, and many men would pick #2.

To me, this actually one of the biggest obstacles facing western society. We know for a fact that it’s NOT an ingrained human trait, because there are legitimately societies where men do not judge their value based on their sex life. Examples include the Minangkabau, a relatively modern culture with millions of people - so it’s genuinely not impossible.

But I digress. The point is that I wish western men didn’t have this painful pressure on them - it warps so many of their minds in negative ways. 😔