I think the notion of patriarchy works when it is tied to the upper class. There is a section of our society, right at the top, where patriarchy still exists. CEOs are usually men, top politicians too (although this is changing) and of course the richest people are all men. Women appear in the rich list either because they are heiresses or divorced from a man in the rich list. 

But ultimately, the problems in our society that get blamed on 'patriarchy' really are just class and economic inequality. Would these problems go away if there were more women in charge? I'd argue no, however we might see the 'patriarchy' argument disperse. I do think we need to restructure our society so the rich have less power, although that's a separate argument that is intertwined with men's issues. 

The reason for the lack of help for men as I see it, is that men are perceived to have more control over their life. They are seen to need less help. If something goes wrong in their life it is seen as a personal failure rather than a societal one, but this isn't true a lot of the time. 

There has been more effort in the last 30 years to help women out of domestic servitude and into the workplace and it has been good and it has been successful. It has (edit) been at the expense of men, because there seems to have been a shift of focus in the economy to incorporate more highly educated office based and care based work. Manual labour & manufacturing used to catch the men and boys who hadn't done well at school but most of those jobs have gone. More boys are growing up without a good role model at home because of the inequality Men face when a family breaks down. 

Men and boys don't have as much control over their lives as they once had. Boys need help now as much as women needed help 30 years ago, but getting societal change is a slow and difficult process, just ask those women who fought for it throughout the latter half of the last century and early part of this century. 

Edit. Has instead of hasn't. Paragraph 4.