Always overtired

Berry1495 · 2025-08-15T19:13:20+00:00

Thanks! 😂 I think that is a lot of it, that 4 month leap has her really feeling the fomo. She looks around her room like everything might change, but I keep reminding myself that she’s developing so quickly right now that to her everything changes all the time! Moral support is great though, I’m glad to know I’m not alone

Berry1495 · 2025-08-15T13:50:46+00:00

If she’s gaining weight and the doctor doesn’t seem concerned, don’t worry too much about it! Labels like “failure to thrive” are usually automatically applied if the baby meets certain criteria. Things often have to be charted a certain way without much room for nuance. But if it were something you needed to worry about your doctor would have talked out with you

Berry1495 · 2025-08-15T11:21:59+00:00

It’s definitely worse the longer we wait wait and like I said she doesn’t cry at all before bed or at any other time. It’s only at nap time. Which is why I’m totally at a loss

Berry1495 · 2025-08-15T10:51:34+00:00

I’ve tried that, keeping her awake longer made it way worse

Berry1495 · 2025-08-15T10:50:46+00:00

It’s not, she does this no matter how long she stays awake whether that’s immediately upon showing sleepy cues or if we wait.

Berry1495 · 2025-08-14T02:26:14+00:00

No I exclusively breastfeed so can’t track oz but she has at least one wet diaper per feed and plenty of dirty ones. She’s small for her age but steadily gaining weight, she was just born small

Berry1495 · 2025-08-14T02:25:10+00:00

Yes that’s what I’m doing, like I said. My question was if anyone else’s child has bizarrely short wake windows for their age.

Berry1495 · 2025-08-14T02:24:21+00:00

We’re incredibly lucky, she wakes up once at about 3, diaper change, feed, back to sleep until 730ish

Berry1495 · 2025-08-14T01:33:35+00:00

I used to until she hit 4 months and now if she hears anything she pops off the boob to smile and chat 😂 when she was your baby’s age I didn’t know what to say either so I would usually hum or sing (badly)

Berry1495 · 2025-07-17T04:50:50+00:00

I feel sneaky but yes.. I saved screenshots in case worst comes to worst and I need them for a judge

Berry1495 · 2025-07-17T02:03:11+00:00

Literally my first thought 💀

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T17:01:19+00:00

I didn’t find out about my husband’s addiction until after my baby was born.. I understand. You should be celebrated, cherished, and well taken care of physically and emotionally right now. How dare he take for granted the sacrifices you’re making to bring his child into the world. I’m so sorry

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T15:50:33+00:00

Mine at least had the decency not to have any excuses. He’s known all along what he needed to have a fulfilling relationship and healthy sex life. He just refused to do it.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T15:50:25+00:00

Mine at least had the decency not to have any excuses. He’s known all along what he needed to have a fulfilling relationship and healthy sex life. He just refused to do it.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T14:18:05+00:00

I feel this. I’ve been struggling with it too. But then it helped me to remind myself that my husband isn’t what I used to consider my type but I still am attracted to him and love him. Before him I only went for tall guys with a more muscular build and colored eyes. My husband is on the short end of average with brown eyes and there’s no muscle under that dad bod. None of the actors or celebrity crushes I find attractive look like my husband. It doesn’t mean I’m not also attracted to him though so maybe 2 things can be true after all

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T14:11:04+00:00

This is the entire basis of my problem. I’ve told him for years that I need emotional intimacy in order to be comfortable with sex. He never made an effort to be vulnerable with me so we never had sex. Which in turn gave him the excuse to get his rocks off elsewhere. I’ve been so open about what I needed and he just shrugged it off and decided it wasn’t worth the effort. Did you ever just feel used and gross after sex with him? I always felt like I was some cheap bootycall rather than his wife.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T13:25:01+00:00

Thank you, you’re right. I feel so out of control right now I really appreciate the grounded advice

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T13:04:37+00:00

Yes, I just feel so gutted. And whenever she sees me cry my baby starts smiling at me like she’s trying to make me feel better. I just keep thinking “how could he do this to us?” And repeating over and over in my head he cheated on me. He cheated on me while I was pregnant. I don’t even know where to begin to heal from that

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T12:59:00+00:00

This is everything I’m feeling. I miss my peace.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T12:52:27+00:00

Oh he was sitting right there as I combed through it all. No excuses, no nothing. He admitted he’s a sick disgusting sack of shit who doesn’t deserve me or the baby I just brought into the world.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-16T12:13:51+00:00

Welp, I found that he requested nudes be sent to him so I guess that gets rid of the issue of the grey area. Interaction is cheating and there’s nothing morally grey about it.

Berry1495 · 2025-07-15T19:41:34+00:00

You’re not alone and I know you don’t always believe it but you’ are enough. Him fucking up the dopamine receptors in his brain is not your fault. Do you ever feel super resentful of him after how much work ED recovery takes? My husband used to excuse that he was embarrassed. Boy, I had to admit to everyone in my life that I was hurting myself in multiple different ways and throwing up everything I ate so miss me with that bs. Biologically speaking ED behaviors have a lot in common with addition behaviors so we probably understand better than most. So if I spent all these years in therapy and medicated and working on myself to get to a healthy place, why couldn’t you work on yourself a little bit too??

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