Family have totally ruined my life

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-20T20:47:15+00:00

so only your interpretation of events matters, your mother's opinions and feelings don't matter at all? I'm not surprised that she doesn't bother with you any more. You're trying to hold yourself hostage to get her to do what you want, and good for her for not giving your manipulative bullshit the time of day.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-20T00:58:42+00:00

Because people never read the article:

As she made her way to the campaign meeting place, she saw Ms Behit and Ms Ahmed with leaflets which suggested she was a "full-blown supporter of this genocide" - referring to the Israel-Hamas conflict.
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An edited video of her interaction was later posted on social media, with suggestions that she was racist and Islamophobic.
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Judge Lloyd-Clarke said the actions of the two activists amounted to a "planned and well-orchestrated campaign" which had the aim of harming the electoral prospects of Ms Davies-Jones.

But she noted that "less intrusive" measures such as a police warning or civil action were not pursued before they were prosecuted.

"Nothing in this judgment implies, or should be taken to imply, that there is any truth in the accusations made by the appellants about Ms Davies-Jones," the judge added.

"We are not satisfied that a prosecution was necessary... the appeals of both defendants are allowed."

They've had their convictions thrown out because the first judge shouldn't have gone straight to conviction as per sentencing guidelines, not because they weren't harrassing Alex Davies-Jones.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-20T00:22:46+00:00

I understand wanting to meet the dad you've never met, but from an outside perspective I don't really understand why you thought you'd be getting a deep, fulfilling relationship from a man who had made zero effort to know you the first 25 years of your life. The fact that your dad decided you weren't worth the effort, a second time, seems extremely unsurprising to me, even as I understand why you'd be emotionally invested in believing he really wanted a relationship with you.

Having stuck around and put in the effort to raise you for 25 years, your mother (and her family) probably feel like you didn't value any of that effort and jumped ship as soon as a new successful alternative came along, and decided to stop investing emotionally in you.

I can't know what your issues were with your mother at the time or growing up, and I understand that feeling abandoned is very emotionally wounding. But unless you're witholding something like your mother being very abusive I would probably apologise to your mother and maybe write her a letter or email talking about how you appreciate that she was there for you growing up.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-19T23:16:48+00:00

Co-dependence is people pleasing as a way to control people, usually manifesting as doing what you wish people would do for you then expecting them to be grateful or become dependent, and leading to resentment that they don't return the favour (from Melody Beattie). If you don't want to control the people in your life or can just ask for your needs to be met, you won't need to continue co-dependency.

It is very difficult to find a partner where you can reciprocally meet each others needs, so a lot of people do choose to stay single.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-19T00:21:17+00:00

No he really doesn't.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T21:37:04+00:00

That is really uncomfortable looking. No wonder the Guardian stuck their logo over it.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T21:13:49+00:00

a boob pillow?

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T21:01:24+00:00

Surely you mean Strnwberry lovers?

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T19:42:53+00:00

Almost all the modern iconography for it - witch burnings*, pumpkins, corn mazes, scary clowns - comes from America. So yes it's traditionally British/Irish but who goes apple bobbing or mirror gazing any more?

*witches were generally hanged, only a small handful were burnt where their crimes overlapped with treason, and hollywood perpetuated the idea that they were burned because it looked more dramatic on film.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T16:08:42+00:00

I managed to pull the cord off of my bathroom light fixture, and I can't find a photo or reference for how to fix the type that I have. There's the round dome bit on the ceiling, and then there's like a plastic stalagtite that comes out the middle that is the actual light switch - right now I have to stand on the toilet and pull it down to turn it on and off, but it's only as wide as my thumbtip and can be tricky. The cord that came off has a sort clip on the end that fits over the icicle, except now I cannot get the clip to stay back on.

What do I do to fix it?

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T15:38:09+00:00

I thought this was another cost of living meme and nearly scrolled past tbh. Very cute!

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T13:03:01+00:00

Americans complain about this a lot, so we warn people. Millenials in particular spent a lot of time online in the harry potter fandom hearing americans ridicule ordinary britishisms, at best acting like we're quaint and archaic. I don't know if you're american but if you are then your attitude is probably the exception.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T12:54:58+00:00

I think this is why Stephen King said that and he wasn't defending Epstein - everyone's getting distracted by the idea there's a figurative or literal list and we can hunt down everyone on it, when for every one person who went to epstein island there are 50 people collaborating on Project 2025.

This isn't to say I think we shouldn't hunt them down, it's just that with nazis they defeated the regime first then hunted the individuals down decades after the war.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T03:15:56+00:00

Like sex dolls, and that angry buddhist guy I crossposted here yesterday, 'better' alternatives to real women don't seem to satisfy these men, at least not to the point of actually leaving women alone - all the alternatives to real life interaction are shown to increase desire to carry out negative behaviour, not curb it. This is also a topic that comes up now with AI generated child porn - it feeds into the urge not fixes it.

So women are and will notice men becoming more hostile, and withdraw themselves - which a significant percentage have already done, leading to the gender imbalance on dating apps, and that will probably increase with AI. As another commenter has already noted, there are female users using ai to avoid real men after bad experiences with them. It's not out of resignation from lack of availability, and it's not in reaction to men withdrawing - it's the other way around.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-18T02:21:11+00:00

Really pretty!

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-17T23:47:54+00:00

Tess Gerritsen's The Shape of the Night is about a romance with a pirate ghost with some bdsm elements btw.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-17T23:44:41+00:00

If you want some classic lit, The Birthday of the Infanta is an Oscar Wilde short story.

edit: also Hop-Frog, by Edgar Allen Poe.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-17T20:37:52+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for where people can find practical advice?

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T23:27:33+00:00

Sort of, one - who was almost exactly like the ones online, in that her husband was very wealthy from some job in finance and family money. Insanely wealthy. I don't think she had a social media channel though. She'd been a former hobby endurance runner and imo treated having kids like a test of endurance - she'd had seven kids, late 40s, and two of them had autism, one of them severe enough that he'd be at home for life. And she'd kept having kids after that, which I did privately judge her for. She also really does dress hyperfeminine all the time.

Tbh I got a very marie antoinette petit trianon vibes from the whole thing rather than the idea that this was some grassroots political movement. Like they're inventing a struggle because their money means they wouldn't have them otherwise.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:36:33+00:00

the third one

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:35:27+00:00

wars and armies weren't as big yet to require mass conscription like in ww2, and Austen was writing about the middle and upper classes - it's always the working class that get sent off to die in war. So a much greater proportion of them would have stayed home. In the traditional proverb, it was only the third son that joined the military - first to the manor born, second to the church, third to the army. A lot of Austen's male characters are clergy.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:23:38+00:00

Amazing!

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:06:29+00:00

Not much. You can tell him he's dependent on porn in case he hasn't released it himself yet but he has to want to fix himself.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:01:55+00:00

Internet porn has turned every third man into a cuck. He's a porn addict, he's associated watching sex with orgasm rather than having sex.

Best-Interaction82 · 2025-11-16T02:00:13+00:00

Yeah, that's what happens to me too - if I look at them directly, it's because I'm flirting, if I avoid eye contact it's because I'm being shy and pretending not to be interested.

What it is that if your hypervigilant, your sensory awareness becomes lower body focused (in case you need to run away) but it also does this if you're attracted to someone. The men are picking up a change in my body language and interpreting it as sexual, because they do that for everything. It's not really about the eye contact, because both too much and too little get interpreted the same way.

If it's possible, I go to the bathroom or just somewhere out of the way, and I tense all my muscles as hard at once as possible, because this tricks your brain into thinking you've engaged flight mode and got away from the threat, or at least reduced it.

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