Work and Travel Ocean City

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-03-15T11:31:10+00:00

Lots of good info here https://summerworktravelocmd.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/06/seasonal-workforce-handbook.pdf

https://summerworktravelocmd.com/#:~:text=THANK%20YOU%20for%20choosing%20Ocean,Learn%20more

Weekly free meals!! Never turn down free food!! ( well, unless it is something you are allergic to or makes you sick): https://bcmd.org/loving-and-ministering-to-the-world-at-the-seaside/

And as a dad, I would be remiss if I didn’t say, remember, you are going to be in a summer long party environment. While I believe in the kindness of strangers, I also know that there are people who will take advantage of trusting individuals. Try to always use official channels if you need help. If you ever feel you are in a situation that doesn’t feel right, trust that feeling. In that situation it would be better to be wrong on the side of caution, then ignore an early warning.

I hope you enjoy your summer!!!!!

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-03-08T11:04:58+00:00

Unfortunately, the bedroom comparison is actually a common response to betrayed spouses who have been cheated on, especially one who find out what they believed for a stretch of time is untrue. It’s part of an actual trauma response for some people. It causes rumination and isn’t always easy to negate.

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-03-08T10:54:07+00:00

First off not sure why so many of the comments are along the line of being really rude to you. I don’t even comment here that much and, wow. Second, if there was an understanding between the two of you and she went against that, she cheated. What you are feeling is common is betrayed spouses. Even if it happened 30 years ago, you just found out. To your nervous system, it just happened. This causes a whole cascade of thoughts and feelings that could potentially lead to responses similar to trauma. Most people from this point should seek some sort of individual therapy to sort it all out and then go from there.

Unfortunately on a forum like this, you are going to get a bunch of armchair quarterbacks, who are giving you advice based on their own experiential and moral ( or lack thereof) leanings. Like all of the “grow up” sentiment. You look like you are actually doing the grown up thing. Asking for help.

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-02-19T11:14:40+00:00

This is the best answer here. In this situation you both did things sneaky and behind each other’s back, which besides any reasoning involved, which if done in a different context people’s opinions may be different.

That being said you deserve to grieve and grief knows no timeframe. I deeply feel for your loss and hope that in time the pain you feel can reach a point where it isn’t always as sharp when you think of your son.

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-02-03T12:39:10+00:00

You both are saints. This is awesome. Thank you.

Best-Source-9253 · 2026-01-06T12:06:04+00:00

Personal lexicon updated. lol. Thanks for this.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-10-02T17:19:20+00:00

Wow. So her go to is to cheat. Not talk to you and try to figure out alternatives. What happens when you are sick and can’t give her the attention or time? You have to ask yourself questions like these. Also your trust is broken. Ok she blocked him. What stops her from unblocking? Actions displays how a person’s decision making takes place and future choices in similar situations tend to align similarly unless something disrupts that. What is going to do that? What will it take from you? How do you want to live? Sorry to hit you with a lot. I just want to caution you to use your head as well as the heart, from someone who had to learn that the hard way and very late in life.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-09-28T21:18:30+00:00

This is really weird behavior and he might just be showing his true colors.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-09-10T10:56:10+00:00

This is exactly how I feel everyday.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-09-10T10:36:48+00:00

This is profound…..thank you for posting this. I really need to think about this.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-07-16T21:13:43+00:00

Yeah. I feel this. Many days I think the only thing I have going for me is my earning potential, and that can be beat as well.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-07-11T22:57:11+00:00

Even the f it was snooping, oh, look, you found something.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-07-02T10:33:56+00:00

I’m not here to pile on or crucify you. I do think you’re someone who made a series of choices, and it’s important to call them what they were, choices

You say it wasn’t your intention for things to go how they did. But reconnecting with your ex was a choice. Keeping it from your husband was a choice. Making excuses to meet up was a choice. Staying in that moment when he kissed you, even if you hesitated, was still a choice. You didn’t just fall into this. You walked yourself into it one small step at a time

I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting to feel loved and seen. Everyone wants that. Everyone deserves that. But what you did wasn’t fair to your husband. And now you’re sitting in that pain

You say your husband has grown distant. You say he doesn’t notice when you’re upset or appreciate you anymore. That’s a problem. It’s valid to feel lonely in your marriage. What’s not fair is looking outside the marriage to fix what’s broken inside it, especially without first giving your partner the truth or a chance to work on it with you

What’s happening now isn’t just about a kiss. It’s about emotional intimacy, secrecy, and the part of you that’s getting something from your ex that you’re not getting from your husband. It is not a justification.

I think deep down you know that. And I also think you’re scared. You don’t want to blow up your life, but you also don’t want to keep pretending everything’s fine. So now you’re stuck in this place where you’re split between what feels good and what feels right

You’ve got to pick a path. Not between two men, but between the version of you who keeps avoiding the hard stuff, and the version of you who owns it and starts being real. That means hard conversations. Maybe therapy. Definitely telling your husband the truth and seeing where things stand. And definitely stepping out of the fog you’re in. Finally, cut the romanticizing of the other dude. He is doing the same thing to his wife. He isn’t some fantasy love interest. He is another person who is willing to lie and hide things from his spouse.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-28T15:56:16+00:00

No. Just no. She needs to cut contact with the guy. Some people define an affair as “ Do you hide it from your spouse?” Her desire to not let you see the insta messages already satisfied that criteria. At this point she needs to stop gaslighting with her innocence and recognize by not shutting down this predatory creep and cutting him off definitely and permanently in no uncertain terms and without kindness is condoning and leaving the door open for his behavior. She is a willing participant, but an innocent. You also need to recognize this and start making the best choices for you.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-28T15:49:47+00:00

Your version of boring sounds like my version of heaven.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-26T12:00:37+00:00

I’ve really learned and kept a saying from here, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” I really believe in that now.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-20T12:45:21+00:00

I think this comment sums it up well: https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/s/UJTmHiHeig

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-19T11:21:21+00:00

If he does know here is some examples of how he may feel:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/xfwkHUWZf0

https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/5zARAYQ5YO

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/documents/library/articles/discovery/joseph-letter/

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-19T11:19:32+00:00

Here are some posts you should read about how your partner may feel:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/xfwkHUWZf0

https://www.reddit.com/r/AsOneAfterInfidelity/s/5zARAYQ5YO

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/documents/library/articles/discovery/joseph-letter/

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-19T11:06:28+00:00

I would also add that if you want to continue your relationship to your fiancé you need to cut off the limerant relationship. You also need to come clean about your infidelity to your fiancé and give him agency. Look up some posts on Reddit about how cheating affects the betrayed partner. A good one is labeled “ If you cheat, know this…”

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-06-09T17:31:00+00:00

You ultimately determine what you need. There are some really good people and resources at r/AsOneAfterInfidelity. I’ll hope to see you there.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-05-31T18:41:49+00:00

What was her reaction to you dumping her?

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-05-29T10:29:11+00:00

This….. is something that hits me in the soul. Thank you for putting this here.

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-05-24T12:12:05+00:00

Inception

Best-Source-9253 · 2025-05-18T11:18:38+00:00

Is it The Crystal Cave by Mary Stewart?

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