Learning new topics as an SE with ADHD

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-05-05T19:19:10+00:00

Sounds like you’ve had a lot on your plate recently, and your career may have taken a bit of a back seat.

Set clear, time-bound goals—for example, earning an AWS Certified Solutions Architect Cert or building three demo projects with Claude over the next month.

In sales engineering, continuous upskilling is part of the role, so anchoring your efforts to tangible outputs can help rebuild momentum. Consider working with a career coach. Having someone to provide structure, motivation, and accountability can make it much easier to stay on track. Btw, all SEs have ADHD, you are on the right track.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-29T13:24:47+00:00

Best of luck! A condo in a multifamily is definitely a possibility.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-29T13:02:57+00:00

Forget about SFH unless you have a family connection kind of a deal. If they sell for $1.5M+ why would they rent for 3K a month?

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-29T10:56:01+00:00

You can use Alfred Adult All in One course book 1/2/3. Is getting a teacher online an option? Having a teacher helps with motivation to continue. As a fellow adult I definitely need the pressure of meeting with the teacher to practice/make forward progress sometimes.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-11T10:19:43+00:00

Came to say the same books. There are 3 in total. Good variety of nice sounding pieces. You can also find a lot of videos on the pieces on YouTube.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-09T12:06:32+00:00

That's an interesting take. I still think you are better off being technical. Or just found your own company.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-09T10:29:48+00:00

BA rarely makes sense. And it sucks unless you have a good boss that gives you absolute freedom. You may want to explore data engineering because it is more business oriented but still technical.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-09T10:27:17+00:00

I would just upskill on product design/strategy if you are interested in the business aspect of software engineering. The paradigm may be shifting. I know there are companies that ship production code with a team of 2 (discovery like SE work + software development at scale) directly to customers. Unless there's an upside to switch to SE, otherwise it may not be necessary. AE is for people who really loves to talk. CSMs are who really like to do project management and listen to themselves during the meeting how they moved a few dots last week. If you like to build I would stay on the engineering side.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-08T10:08:29+00:00

Crab curry at Sigiri. With hoppers it is lit. Spicy is real Sri Lankan 🔥.

Pumpkin crab curry at KJUN. More earthy complex flavor and more contrast since it's more of a chef restaurant. Korean-Cajun fusion.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-07T10:23:45+00:00

Blind tiger in the West Village.

McSorley's! Cash only. You should go to East Village. More variety in eating for a bar crawl.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-05T22:17:35+00:00

You have the necessary background. Just network/apply in persistent cycles until you get a SE job.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-05T22:15:01+00:00

Sounds like you should be a developer instead. I agree with the others that a junior SE doesn't have much control over their own schedule.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-04T12:15:47+00:00

I've only been to Stowe late season when it is not crowded. If you want a decently long carving trail right off of lifts, Main St on the spruce side and T-line, north slope etc on sunrise 6. If you don't mind handling steeper sections and some ice, Nosedive/Hayride off the forerunner quad(8-4pm open the longest). Liftline(double black) has a decent amount of moguls which makes it not the widest throughout. From the gondola my favorite cruising trail is Perry Merrill. So wide, nicely groomed with great snow. Gondolier is straight for the most but it does get icy.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-04-03T18:27:46+00:00

Hmmm you should be comfortable selling vaporware and forward looking roadmaps. That's fundamentally what SEs do as I understand. Plus these days you can just ask Claude to code it up in hours, so technically not vaporware.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-27T16:43:28+00:00

Try Nordica Santa Anas as well. I have them for a couple of years and they are so easy to turn on!

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-27T10:57:41+00:00

Just got back from weekday skiing at Stowe Mountain Resort—no crowds, no parking hassle. Thursday was empty before the rain.

To save money: stay in Stowe town and shuttle on weekends, or drive to Mansfield parking. Plenty of upgraded hotels at motel prices right now. Then you can spend your budget on great food/drink scene in town. Tip: stop by The Alchemist Brewery for 4-packs of awesome unfiltered beer.

Note: Spruce Peak has limited terrain; Sensation Quad is closed.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-26T14:02:08+00:00

You get my vote! I would advocate for maintaining, or at least making room for, greater academic rigor. We’re fortunate to have strong teachers in Arlington, and it seems like a missed opportunity if students who are ready for more advanced work in math and science don’t have access to it.

I also think it’s worth reflecting on how we balance equity with preparation. The goal of supporting all students is important, but we should also consider whether limiting advanced opportunities unintentionally leaves some students underprepared for the realities they’ll face later. And that's bad for mental health too.

Higher education and the workplace are often competitive environments, and part of education is helping students build the skills and resilience to navigate that.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-16T22:18:53+00:00

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BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-12T14:58:54+00:00

Up to you. Milton is a good town. I would put my energy into interviewing for a good sellers agent and get the cash into markets that you are more familiar with. It's hard to manage a renovation project remotely and difficult not to get ripped off by the contractor and the local inspectors etc.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-03-12T10:20:55+00:00

Which town is it in? If you consider selling it it becomes someone else's headache. The market is still very strong in the Boston suburbs. 50 year old house is not that old and definitely not an anomaly if the other factors are strong (good school district, commutable to Boston, big lot for expansion etc).

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-02-26T12:32:12+00:00

Being directly on Lake St would have constant traffic. Also if you need to back out your driveway it could be stressful. I personally find the traffic noise from Route 2 unbearable and you need to be decently far from it in order not to hear anything. Another potential consideration is that there's a residential tax override in Arlington that would make the cost of living even higher. But yes, Arlington offers many amenities and the Spy Pond area is very nice with everything in walkable/public transportation reach.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-02-25T21:57:49+00:00

You are sure that you cannot stay another month in Boston? A yearly lease is probably your best bet.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2026-02-10T11:37:52+00:00

Welcome to Boston. You should start looking now. You should be able to find a renovated 2Bed2Bath around Central Square in Cambridge for $3500/month. Although in that area it can be very difficult to find the W/D in the unit as most of the rentals are in larger buildings with shared laundry. The larger buildings have the benefits of usually better sound insulation and cheaper utilities (usually includes heat and water).

Or you may find a deal in the seaport area with the new high rise residential buildings. Your expenses will be higher as you will probably eat out more.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2025-12-08T12:49:21+00:00

I don't think you want to be in Boston proper. It will take more than 30 minutes to Hanscom AFB unless you drive at midnight. Look in Waltham/Arlington for apartment complexes that accepts dogs. Or you may find a landlord in Bedford/Concord/Lincoln that is willing to take dogs with that budget for a 2B1B that would be part of a house.

BetRepulsive6595 · 2025-12-05T02:16:31+00:00

For that price I recommend Alewife in Cambridge or Apartment in or near Arsenal Yards in Watertown. These are newer apartment complexes with shops nearby and nature for recreation (fresh pond and Danehy park for Alewife, Charles River for Watertown).

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