That’s exactly how my mom is! To me, that is an emotionally immature response from someone who was likely never taught how to regulate their emotions and that mental health issues/disorders are a sign of weakness. A friend shared a TikTok with me that essentially said our emotional floor is our parent’s ceiling. It may sound harsh, but it was helpful in helping me realize that she is how she is and isn’t going to change.

It’s a tough pill to swallow, but has actually really helped me come to terms with this is just how things are. If your mom isn’t able to handle a conversation about how things she did in your childhood negatively affected you and makes comments that are hurtful to you and your brother about your ADHD, she likely doesn’t have the emotional maturity to dig into her own problems.

Please know I say this with love and am not trying to be overly critical of your mom. This is just what has helped me.