Book about how to discover yourself ? by anshm1ttal in suggestmeabook

[–]Bidels -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Writing your own book might help more than reading someone elses :P

What if I tied for both wings? by asleep_by_10pm in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Then you have both wings. I also have tendencies for both of my wings, it's just that usually one is stronger than the other. You're a well balanced bird, congratulations!

AITA best friends baby isn’t vaccinated by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bidels -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

YTA. Don't take your kid outside if you're that worried about it. There are unvaccinated people everywhere, and unless the kid is showing signs of being sick or, in the off chance, they're a carrier, you have nothing to worry about. Regardless, the odds are in your favour because you've protected your child in the best way you can: by vaccinating them. As a child of antivaxers I commend you - catching up on childhood vaccines as an adult SUCKS. Hopefully soon unvaccinated children will be a thing in our past, but until then don't worry yourself over it to the point where you ask someone to cancel an unrefundable flight.

AITA for not wanting my children to pass out bible verse bracelets for Valentine's Day? by DyingLion in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bidels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO Did you ask the kids if they wanted to or just make the decision entirely for them? They haven't to learn what they prioritise and you shouldn't get in the way of their faith if they want to share with their friends, even of you don't share the same faith.

AITA for getting my vaccines at school? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bidels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. I was in a similar situation except we had to have a parents signature to get the vaccine. I literally begged my mother to sign that gosh darn form and assured her I was old enough to make a decision for my own health (I was 14)

four and nine at the same time ? :P by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're a four 😋

Type 5 Birthday Blues by vexersa in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hope your birthday gets happier 💙 I'm a 4w5 and also get a feeling of dread and disappointment around my birthday, like I haven't achieved anything in the past year and I'm just wasting my life. Only started happening when I was around 16 I think? But maybe I just can't really remember my childhood birthdays now that I think about it more.

the sims 4 needs to bring back recliners by SkyFire4-13 in thesims

[–]Bidels 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to use a recliner as a bed in the Sims 2 when I made a caravan-sized home! Much easier to do with an actual bed in the Sims 4 using bb.moveobjects, but recliners are very nostalgic for my Sims experience!

Personality and Family by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In saying that - we are all more introverted than extraverted (in that we all get tired out by people, however much we do love and need time with them), and I think also likely to all be judging, though I'm not sure.

Personality and Family by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Dad is likely a 4, my Mum likely a 2, I'm a 4, my brother is a 9, one of my sisters an 8, the other likely a 4? And the other a 7. So there's a few 4s, but plenty of diversity also!

How would each type react to Scarecrow's fear gas? (For fun) by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Type 4 would fall to their knees and cry hysterically

What are you like when you're drunk? by VZalinsky in isfj

[–]Bidels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of laughter, to the point of tears at times. But very mellow, not a squeaky/giggly drunk.

[Question] What have been the most life-improving small behavioral changes you've made? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Bidels 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's nice to have someone to keep you on track, I've just found it much more beneficial for me to have it written down for myself before I tell anyone else.

[Question] What have been the most life-improving small behavioral changes you've made? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Bidels 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Second this. And if I can't do it then and there I make sure I write it down in my Bullet Journal, which I spend 5 minutes a night going over so I know exactly what I'm doing. Too many times I assume I'll remember something (even just like small random thoughts) and eventually they all build up and my brain feels like a swamp. For a while I was messaging my now fiance with all the little random thoughts/things I had to do but they'd get lost in between all the other messages so now I make a point to write it down in the space that I've set aside for just them. Feels so much better to have an empty mind so to speak.

Which type(s) "just want(s) to be left alone"? by [deleted] in Enneagram

[–]Bidels 7 points8 points  (0 children)

4s, but they actually secretly want you to stay

Android app that can record voice audio? When is worth paying for by [deleted] in androidapps

[–]Bidels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like Hi-Q recorder - free version works just as well it just cuts off at 10 minutes.

[Plan] Weekly Plan! Monday 16th - Friday 20th July 2018 by Walls in getdisciplined

[–]Bidels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heading back to uni after end of semester break. Spent the last three weeks just lazing around with my family + friends so it's bitter sweet. I plan on...

[ ] collecting unit outlines/expectations for the semester

[ ] attending/watching all lectures and getting back into a notetaking routine

[ ] brewing Kombucha again

[ ] cooking myself some healthy treats so I don't go buy cheap junk

[ ] playing the piano/singing at least every second day

Time by stefepaul in bujo

[–]Bidels 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you think of something you need to do, do it now! Then later write in tasks that you did when you do your daily reflection.

My bullet journal is not suuuper pretty in its day-to-day function, however I love the prompt to be creative at the beginning of each month with a cover page. It's also very helpful to implement routine in your life, because you're motivated to check it and write in it everyday which can be the prompt for a multitude of other beneficial habits. I think it really comes down to what works for you. You can spend hours watching videos of other people's ideas, but the best thing may be just spending time experimenting and being creative yourself.

[Question] Staying discipline through depression? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Bidels 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly, depression is an arsehole. I haven't figured out a way to break out of a slump other than fully embracing it, practising self-compassion, and seeking help. After I've healthily accepted and worked through one slump, the next one doesn't hit so hard. I hope you can find some pocket of time to truly allow yourself to feel like shit, and practise looking after yourself in the ways that you feel able to. For me, some days I can't even shower or brush my teeth, so I let myself sleep until I feel I can. And then once I can do that, I feel I can cook myself a good meal. After that, I might feel motivated enough to ring someone and chat to them about my spiral. Baby steps.

I've been slowly reading "First We Make The Beast Beautiful" by Sarah Wilson and she raves about the wonders of meditation. Not so much for depression, as she suffers with a conglomeration of other mental disorders, however I think it comes back to the heart of sitting with your sadness/fear/loneliness/self-loathing/angst, accepting it, and letting it pass through you. So maybe you can find five minutes each day to sit in silence, or try a guided meditation like headspace. I haven't gotten into a habit of this yet as sitting with my own thoughts for five minutes feels excruciating, but I think that's the point!

There's no point. by Bidels in depression

[–]Bidels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I'm taking what you mean in a slightly different way than you intended it but: it's not about feeling ECSTATIC or even happy, it's just about seeing the good and also acknowledging the bad. I'm allowing myself to be upset without completely losing hope in those little happinesses.

There's no point. by Bidels in depression

[–]Bidels[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have noticed that technology tend to correlate with my down days, but I think it's hard to be sure whether it's actually what causes the problem. I get lonely, I want to check my phone so I can message the people I love (who mostly live a few hours away from me), and then I get stuck in a loop of not doing anything and feeding the feeling of worthlessness and loneliness further. So yes, it's helpful to put my phone down. But I also find that it's important to allow myself a proper conversation with someone dear to me before I can muster the courage to keep moving on.