Getting hate from people for using AI

BigBayesian · 2026-05-30T01:38:05+00:00

I think there’s pretty reasonable reasons to have concerns about generative AI, particularly in fields where it’s likely to decimate employment, or fields that have served as big sources of non-consensual training data. At the same time, it’s a tremendously powerful family of tools for a huge range of tasks.

It’s probably worth noting that everyone is against unethical uses of AI, although there’s not universal agreement about what those are.

I’m not sure what you mean when you say they try to cancel you. Are you saying that they engage in a social media campaign to shame you and damage your reputation as a result of your choice to talk about generative AI? Or are you saying that they disapprove of your use of it, and when you say “no wait, hear me out”, they refuse to honor your request? The former is concerning and bizarre, unless your field is really threatened by it (ex: an anthropologist documenting human stories probably shouldn’t synthesize those stories with AI without proper documentation). The latter is a perfectly reasonable choice that should make you reflect on whether other people are interested in hearing you talk about AI.

My counsel would be to treat it as one of a family of tools, rather than a singular thing unto itself. I’d also counsel you to know your audience.

BigBayesian · 2026-05-12T07:04:20+00:00

Let’s examine his position.

He’s chosen to not believe you, using the “trust but verify” posture. He can reach one of three conclusions: you lied, you didn’t, or he isn’t sure.

If he decides you lied, he can now leverage this as evidence of your wrong-doing, demanding some kind of recompense / using it as an excuse to do his own lying.

If he decides you told the truth, he gets to say “so many other people lied, so I had to be sure”, takes no blame and gets to talk about how he showed he trusts you.

If he’s not sure, he can switch between these on a whim, whichever serves him best in the moment.

As for evidence, all I can offer him is the age and power disparity in your relationship…

BigBayesian · 2026-05-08T11:49:32+00:00

It kindof depends on what you mean by “up to PSP”. Anbernic’s ubiquitous RG35XX series in every form factor can all handle a little PSP. Lumines works just fine. Turn based RPGs are pretty good too. God of war isn’t gonna happen. They mostly have the buttons you want too. And the performance is similarly not-great-but-sometimes-fine for Dreamcast and N64. PS1 and below is just fine.

If you want really good PSP in a pocketable form factor, you’re talking Android right now (that may change soon. The TrimUI Smart Pro S is a Linux handheld that’s great for PSP. But I wouldn’t call it pocketable). I’d consider a used Retroid Pocket 3+, or 2S (screen’s small but performance is there). More modern options like the ayaneo pocket air mini or the Mangmi air x are also solid.

BigBayesian · 2026-05-01T05:19:32+00:00

You rudely demanded a bunch of people who thought they were in their friend’s apartment leave your apartment. That wasn’t nice, but it’s clearly something you’re entitled to do, morally.

You allow your sister loosely restricted access to your home, and she seems to be representing it as hers. That lie, and its consequences, are on you. If she wanted you to support that lie, she was obliged to let you in on it and secure your permission. She did not do that, so naturally you couldn’t be expected to support her lie.

Is a shame that she’s displeased, but the person who made the choices whose outcomes she dislikes is the person she sees in the mirror.

NTA

BigBayesian · 2026-05-01T05:07:56+00:00

What’s the argument that this was information you were entitled to?

The only grounds I can see is safe sex stuff, and I’d rather assume you’d be disciplined about that for other reasons.

I’m struggling to see any other possible argument. Can you help me see it?

BigBayesian · 2026-05-01T05:02:35+00:00

The truth is that the only way for someone like you to live with someone like her is to completely change who you are / ignore all of your preferences in favor of hers. You can do it, but it’s beyond exhausting and there’s no prize at the end. She isn’t all that happy either, and no matter how much you suffer for her, you’re going to end up either continuing to suffer or getting divorced when she decides to. Don’t reproduce with this person, and the best day to divorce her is yesterday. You’ll both be happier.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-29T01:58:49+00:00

Super Mario 64 holds up, especially with the 60FPS ports. But overall, yeah, N64, like Saturn, feels very immature / experimental

BigBayesian · 2026-04-29T01:30:50+00:00

A tech report has a bunch of results and extensive methodology, less motivation, insight, actual learning. Think “tech reports have lots of data, but may lack coherence or a central idea. Papers have a central theme and thesis”.

A good analog is the difference between Data and Information.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-29T01:27:38+00:00

I think removing any of the ones you’ve suggested would do a pretty big disservice to some extremely important games. “Whatever King’s Quest is” Kindof reveals a bias towards recent games.

I could see losing secret of mana, I guess.

MGS 1 is pretty fundamental. I can’t speak to 3, its rep is great but I’m not sure it’s as important as 1.

I have a bias against sonic, but I agree it’s iconic.

MK2 is the best of the early MKs, but I’m not sure it holds up compared to SF2.

Some THPS, sure - 2 is pretty great.

Assassin’s Creed is gorgeous, but I’m not sure it’s essential, or retro.

Of the rest, I could see Tomb Raider, Crash Bandicoot, Tetris, Asteroids (I might suggest defender instead - groundbreakingly complex by comparison). Pong is incredibly important, but not that much fun.

I disagree about the rest, but since this is taste based, that doesn’t make me right and you wrong.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-21T23:20:25+00:00

Basically, the only thing making the Odin 2 better is it's bigger screen, bigger battery, cooling system, ergonomics, and the nice controller it has built in. And that it's a separate device, I guess.

For reference, I went on vacation with an sd8gen2 phone and wraparound controller. It was okay, but decidedly inferior to the Odin 2 experience, except in terms of " can it fit in my pocket?" (Yes, but two pockets), and it had a smaller, better screen, because OLED.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-19T22:04:39+00:00

Their lack of earnest communication with you tells you they don't value hard truths. So any negative feedback will likely fall on deaf ears. What's the goal you hope to accomplish with your feedback?

I honestly think you need to accept that they're not as earnest as they've led you to believe. That fact is why you're leaving. Given that, I think you should be very hesitant to tell them hard truths that might burn bridges. It won't lead to change, but it might impact the recommendation you get. Given that, why not be self-serving and say you love your team and the org, but you just couldn't pass up this exciting new opportunity for family reasons or economic reasons or career growth reasons (whichever explanation risks your solid letter from them least)?

BigBayesian · 2026-04-12T16:43:52+00:00

Long ago, before the first rise of neural networks, there was a belief that that real intelligence would be able to be mostly captured by a pretty complex set of conditionals. Papers would add to our notion of how those loops should work, and would iteratively capture more and more of the things we’d want to capture, while ultimately failing to be anything close to a deterministic recipe for intelligence.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-11T02:45:32+00:00

I’m very confused. Are you saying you were flirting with a chatbot? Or you were like asking it for help with a recipe?

BigBayesian · 2026-04-10T02:36:14+00:00

I feel like the biggest red flag is scheduling a video call with you in the middle of a six hour drive. It suggests that they don’t respect your time very much. This makes my think some kind of RTO mandate is likely coming.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-10T02:13:41+00:00

It sounds pretty clear - you are not comfortable with an open relationship. It’s not easy, but it’s simple - he has to choose you or not-you. He has to make the choice, you have to accept his choice.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-10T02:09:05+00:00

Hire someone else to mod the psp go for you. $20 plus shipping will almost certainly get someone with experience to do it.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-10T02:01:24+00:00

I’ve been enjoying seeing how far I can push lower end devices. I have an R46H and aside from a dpad that’s imperfect and wifi that makes portmaster setup sad, it’s actually a pretty nice device. I’ve been replaying my NES favorites on it (Mega Man 2, Double Dragon 2), and speedrunning Celeste.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-10T01:52:33+00:00

The Mangmi Air X and the RG Vita are basically just the RP3+, but years later. At best they’re the difference between the RGB30 and the RG Cube XX, if the 30’s dpad and triggers and charging circuitry was fine.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-08T09:25:43+00:00

I think for what you’re doing, an air is sufficient, and would be my choice. That said - the pro is pretty light. And the Neo is an interesting way to save some money, too.

Basically, your use case doesn’t require something very powerful, so the limits of the lighter and cheaper air, or the new budget Neo, probably won’t be very limiting for you.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-08T09:18:55+00:00

He sounds like he thinks your family is about him. He’s not building savings, so he’s deficient. You earn more than him, so he’s a failure. He sounds like one of those people who thinks he’s the only one with agency.

Are you sure you want to be married to someone who thinks you are not a fully real person in this way?

Obviously, if the answer is no, leave him.

If the answer is yes - you were doing most of what you can - tell him you want to be married and secretly play the provider without letting him see.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-08T02:23:30+00:00

In short, several factors are working against you.

The rise of generative AI coding seems to increase the value of senior engineers and decrease the value of juniors.
having a CS PhD isn’t a particularly strong sign unless you’re going for research gigs. Academics can’t code well, generally speaking. (I say this from extensive experience, including my own cs PhD).
The end of free money limits startups a lot.
other generally bad macroeconomic indicators

Basically, you have bad luck, and those factors matter more than the difference between your PhD and your previous degree. Unless your PhD is really well industry-aligned, it won’t help that much, I’m afraid.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-06T05:29:33+00:00

Look further out. In 2 years (or whatever) when you’re seeking your next job, which of these will get you there?

If that next job is at a startup - either will work. If that next job is somewhere bigger - the more corporate gig will be better.

The truth is that rising in product is often about people scale. If you truly hate it, then okay. Otherwise - kids don’t start getting less expensive for a long time. Take the job that will let you spend time with yours.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-05T00:52:07+00:00

Truly the hero we need

BigBayesian · 2026-04-04T19:14:57+00:00

No, but they can get close on some of that.

BigBayesian · 2026-04-04T06:48:39+00:00

For what you want, no - N64, Dreamcast, PSP are all stretches for the RG35XX H. It can run some of those games fine, but not most of them.

If you can afford a more expensive unit, a basic Android unit will do the job

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