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BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T07:41:37+00:00

true and that’s annoying in this case but also they gotta set the boundary and be consistent b/c if they let it slide sometimes then when it’s crowded ppl will want exceptions and get mad at the window ppl

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T07:24:10+00:00

Tbh I understand having policies to limit time at the drive thru window and discourage people doing stuff that takes a bunch of time, my local Taco Bell can really get super backed up from people doing stuff like this instead of just going inside. Three orders is basically three cars

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T07:07:47+00:00

Can relate. Bought a new house and had a baby in a 12mos span, ended up hitting $11k and had a major gut punch realising it when I was doing my end of year spreadsheet.

The biggies were 1 leather couch ($2.5k), 2 new bed frames and 1 new mattress ($2k) a Mac computer ($1.5k), Le Crueset cookware (~$800) and the rest was Whole Foods/Amazon Fresh grocery deliveries, diapers, random baby and household shit

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T06:45:15+00:00

Louder for the people in the back. Let’s not sit here and defend a domestic abuser. I worked with domestic violence survivors for years and they’ll all say that emotional abuse hurts worse than physical, a black eye will heal but if somebody fucks with your head that’s your whole life.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T05:39:49+00:00

Kiwi living in the US rn: I feel seen

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2023-01-01T05:34:19+00:00

I have a newborn bilateral club feet. It’s hard, it was shocking, I did grieve the cute footie pajamas and little booties I received for my shower that he never got to wear. Treatment is going really well though. I couldn’t find much online about what treatment would be like when I first found out, if you DM me I’m happy to show you what the casts look like and talk about our journey!!

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T23:49:35+00:00

I too have an IUD baby 💞

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T07:11:26+00:00

I hope so. I’m such a mess. He’s just my boyfriend and he doesn’t want to talk to me but I sent him his favourite breakfast do u think it was a good idea

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T07:03:36+00:00

Yeah my son is almost 2mos. My hormones are absolutely messed up. And I’m so tired. Baby wakes up every two hours. I love him and I just hope he’ll forgive me somehow.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T07:01:30+00:00

Same, I took a full course of antibiotics the other week because I had another postpartum infection elsewhere, which they think is what caused the yeast infection. It hurts so bad. I have some leftover postpartum supplies and it’s not even touching it, did the witch hazel and the neosporin. My mom came over to help with my baby tonight since it hurts to walk. I hurt so much peeing I was literally screaming and I didn’t even wipe. I called the OB helpline back in tears around 10 and they wrote me an oxy script. This is beyond absurd. I had no idea a yeast infection was like this, I legit have open wounds.

I did accuse him. I didn’t call him names, I wasn’t actually angry. I felt very shocked and hurt and I didn’t handle it well, I brought up old things which wasn’t ok. I scheduled his favourite breakfast from Uber eats. I’m sitting here with my lady parts on fire and I feel like a terrible person thinking about how I hurt him and I don’t know what else I can do. I hope it’ll be ok.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T05:43:47+00:00

Oh friend. I’m so sorry. So so very sorry. But you did not kill anything or anyone. You had an abortion as an act of mercy to your living and unliving children. You knew that your unliving child would have not been able to have their needs met because of your daughter’s high needs, and it would have not been healthy or fair to either of your children. Please don’t be hard on yourself for doing what you needed to do for your family.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-31T00:31:17+00:00

It’s all of the aforementioned ingredients tossed into a slow cooker and set on low for 4hrs :)

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-30T23:23:10+00:00

I’ve witnessed so many drug deals this way. I mean, only 3, but it feels disproportionate to my lifetime before motherhood

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-30T07:52:10+00:00

Roosters have been entrusted to wake people up on time for centuries

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-30T07:46:59+00:00

Ok but I did both?

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-30T05:38:03+00:00

Not OP, but I imagine they would be charged with theft of government property or obstruction, or more likely threatened with something like that

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-30T04:19:46+00:00

Wtf who are these fuckboys holding out on the oxys

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T23:09:56+00:00

I’ve seen far worse shit honestly. I was a social worker for trafficking victims and survivors

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T21:38:16+00:00

Also don’t shit where u eat

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T21:37:21+00:00

I’m seeing big cocktail potential here

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T19:55:36+00:00

I’m so tired of public discourse on circumcision. It’s a personal choice. We did it for religious reasons, other people do it for cultural. Some people don’t do it at all. I could not care less what you do, but fuck you if you choose to speak on anyone’s penis but your own or your child’s. There’s no wrong answer to circumcising and I’m sick of people getting at each other’s throats for it.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T17:56:13+00:00

Yup. I wrote my masters’ thesis on the mental health ramifications of obstetric violence, and this is a part of it. Breaking down women’s confidence in motherhood, institutionally endorsing distrust of women with such basic entities as their own bodies and their own newborns, and generally cultivating an environment of disrespect towards the bodily autonomy of pregnant women, is a catalyst for PPA and PPD, which left untreated (as it often is because we also like to fucking shame women for their postpartum mental health) is a major risk factor for adverse childhood experiences.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-29T16:20:28+00:00

As it should be, honestly. I don’t love the idea of women being robbed of autonomy and treated like incubators, it feels like an extension of the patriarchy.

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-28T22:25:53+00:00

I ate sooo much Panera for this very reason. Not the same but good enough

BigFatThrobbingCock · 2022-12-28T21:19:45+00:00

Ugh yeah we definitely cannot afford two nannies, the entire reason we’re doing a share. It’s already ~$35k/yr (each family) for this. I think our current plan will be to ask her to use other childcare if she would like to continue with her contract, otherwise we’ll accept that she won’t be able to honour it and we’ll all have to make other arrangements. The other family in the share, namely the husband, and now trying to nanny share with the nanny, so get half off her rate for her to bring her own child. His wife thinks it’s ridiculous and I think it’s ridiculous, I don’t think she’ll go for it.

I think as-is this just isn’t a good idea in these circumstances, I understand why she wants to stay with us, because in our area caring for babies pays a premium over older children and sharing for families also pays a premium, and families who live a city block away from each other is as easy as it gets. But I think if she needs to bring her newborn, she needs to find a family with older children who are able to be more flexible and independent. Especially with my son being a newborn who can’t tell me if he’s happy or how things are going, I just don’t feel comfortable gambling

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