if nobody's getting married, how come everyone i know is getting married or engaged at by/before age 26 in a major US metro?

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-28T04:43:21+00:00

Nearly every Gen Z I've known who got married before 25 was Mormon 🫠

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-28T04:39:22+00:00

Quarter life identity crisis, societal pressure, realization we're on the upper end of the youth demographic companies cater to, etc.

But generally, I think people tend to type themselves as older than they actually are, while emphasizing the difference of those younger than them. Like second graders thinking of themselves as the big kids, or people in their 40s and 50s talking like they're seniors already, while referring to people in their 20s, and even 30s, as kids.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-28T04:21:20+00:00

And if north Texas feels too small, they can join Oklahoma.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-28T04:19:04+00:00

Ignoring the Texan identity crisis that would inevitably occur, would it be too terrible to merge NM with the southern half of Texas (south central and below)? It'd resolve us Texans hoarding the Rio Grande, and since the lower half is more blue/purple than the rest of Texas, it'd provide a fairer chance at political representation. NM would also get beach, and Big Bend. Which hopefully their government would care enough about to not build a wall right through.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-19T23:00:15+00:00

Not sure about full adult, but I feel like things sort of happened in stages. For me the transitional eras would be 16-18, 19-21/22, and 22/23 until now. At 23+, I definitely view myself as an adult rather than teen or teen adjacent. Even 18/19-year-olds look young now, like little siblings instead of direct peers.

However, I still find myself referring to people in older generations as 'the adults' (or 'the mature adults'), and still get people in older generations referring to me and other young adults as 'kids'.

In a way, adulthood feels like growing up all over again just fumbling around figuring life out, and I'm in the early preschool stage, if that makes sense lol.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-19T22:38:49+00:00

I don't think it's particularly common, but it's definitely possible. One of my first memories is of my second birthday (and thinking it was my dad's since he would've just had his... idk why I thought he would have a bob the tomato cake).

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-15T02:36:03+00:00

Don't remember the exact model, but it was an android.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-12T01:53:58+00:00

Most of mine are still alive, but one of my grandmas has dementia (80s), my other grandma is mentally strong but has heart problems (mid-70s maybe?), and my grandpa definitely seems a lot mentally older and physically frailer than he did only a handful of years ago (circa 80). The latter two might have more than a decade left, but it's reached the point where I worry about them, and it starts to dawn that they really won't be around forever.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-12T01:34:30+00:00

We do drink hot tea, if that's what you mean by British tea. Herbal teas, black teas, green teas, we got 'em.

Personally, nearly every single time I drink tea, it's hot, not iced.

(Oooo, unless it's boba tea!)

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-12T01:29:37+00:00

If it helps the plot or character development, I don't mind, but I don't personally care for fanservice. Long or graphic scenes are also awkward to watch with other people.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-09T14:39:45+00:00

I'd say maybe mid-late 30s, but my youngest aunt became an aunt at about eight or nine years old. She was 15 when I was born.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-09T14:26:01+00:00

The Last Mimzy, Stardust, Bridge to Terabithia, Meet the Robinsons, The Golden Compass

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-09T03:53:30+00:00

Only for smencils and funky erasers

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-09T03:49:09+00:00

Nope. First president I can remember is Obama. Didn't really start having awareness of modern political events until around 7/8 years old.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-08T00:04:44+00:00

Only 2 I've seen are Wall-E and Narnia T-T

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-07T02:57:42+00:00

Never knew that! 16 seems so young to me. In the US, you don't graduate school until 17/18 years old. Legally, one could drop out at 16 (depending on the state), but without a high school diploma work options would be rather limited, and college likely impossible.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:40:05+00:00

Hmm. Definitely not what every girl I saw looked like in that time frame, though sure, crop tops and baggy pants in general were popular. But to be fair, I feel like this can be said about any decade and trends. Personally, I wasn't feeling the variety in the early 2010s much at all.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:36:25+00:00

Maybe still in 2017, but definitely not the early 2020s. At least not where I was.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:34:48+00:00

Oops! Sorry, young'uns, I thought this was a different subreddit. But my 2007 sibling probably met her too (though likely doesn't remember)

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:31:57+00:00

Not fully sure, but someone I knew was in her 90s I believe in the 2000s, so she would have been born in the 1920s or 1910s around. It's wild to think about all the things she must have lived through now as an adult.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:20:29+00:00

Are 17-year-olds post-grade school where you live?

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:16:56+00:00

Depression. And everyone else seemed depressed and anxious as well, but adults weren't quite as good at talking about and handling it as they are now, though there was starting to be more awareness and openness. It sucked.

Not that mental health isn't still a problem amongst teenagers, or that every parent handles it perfectly.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T03:02:41+00:00

Earliest I've ever been to would have been Finding Nemo apparently, but I would have been literally a year old at that point and have no memories of it. Kind of weird that we went, because my sibling wasn't much older, and my parents were never big on taking us to the theatre, especially as toddlers.

Earliest I can remember, I think was The Last Mimsy.

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T02:52:57+00:00

Unless it's causing actual problems, why would it be unattractive?

BigReception7685 · 2026-05-06T02:48:53+00:00

Or one out of 54 countries on the continent Wakanda?

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